Wanted iui cycle buddy 12/24

[melizabeth]

Hi Ladies,
Again, thanks for the postive vibes.

You know, we three are pretty blessed already aren't we? We have partner's that love us and support us, and have met wonderful people through out this whole baby making process. Of course there are many other things to be grateful for, but I guess my father's illness really puts things into perspective. One minute I'm complaining because I want to do something first for a change and then the next minute I realize just how selfish that sounds. I should be happy for him to have any grandchild. I know he and my mother will love and adore each one. I should focus my hopes on healthy babies instead.

Stimming...got it. Thank you for the vocab lesson. I feel like I'm sounding like an old pro! hahaha

So, tonight I think I'll map out my postive and negative plans. I'll have to think of something fun for both. Any suggestions?

Tina,
Good luck with your US tomorrow. I guess you'll figure out a new plan of attack?? Good Luck!

Jess,
Any closer to making a decision about the move? Any closer to deciding what you are going to do regarding a new pg plan? Sound like you are at Crossroads Station. Is it a little stressful?
Wonderful suggestion!! Hahaha Hubby and I have already decided to name him after my father. Great minds think alike!! Luckily we love his name! (a bonus for us!)

Take care,
<<Hugs>>
Liz

[zois2]

Hey Gals!

Well I have some news...dh and I have decided not to do the iui this cycle, and just move on to ivf.

After discussing several options, we decided that this was the best choice for us for several reasons.

First, it seems like we've given iui three chances, and knowing the odds of success go down at four, that it would not be worth the heartache and expense to do a fourth. I had my u/s and they found a small cyst on my left ovary, which no one seemed concerned about (they expect it to go down on its own), but when I got home I just felt like all this is going to start to take a toll on me, and my heart just isn't in it anymore. I had no sense of anticiption on starting this new cycle, and was not even excited at all like I usually am, thinking "OK! Now we have a greater chance of success!" My gut just kept telling me (right or wrong), this is not going to work for you...if it were, it would have by now...in effect I was going forward kind of mechanically, not really b/c I wanted to. I think there was even a part of me that felt like I had to do a fourth...that it would be the "right thing to do" even if I didn't want to.

Then I thought back over everyone I know personally or have met on these boards with unexplained infertility, and could not deny one thing: the vast majority of them did not succeed until they went on to ivf. One woman said something that I have suspected all along...the majority of "unexplained" diagnoses do not mean that everything is fine, although this is true for some, rather they mean, it has not been discovered what is wrong.
THis being the case for most situations like mine, IVF really gives us the best chance.

So I am scrapping this cycle....kind of a long needed rest...and going to use it to plan an IVF with my RE. I'll let you gals know if I have any updates, but for now I'll just be hanging around to give you my support when you need it, and root for you along the way!

Take Care,

Tina

[Princess123456]

Tina,
I agree with you completely. Those are the same reasons my hubby and i have decided to do iui except we didn't try three iui's we only did one because of my response to the medicine and i had to take four months of medicine for that one try. I'm planning on doing my first ivf in April. Hubby decided to take the job so we will have to take another rest cycle due to moving that will have to be done in March.
Well take care and let me know what your RE says about scheduling the ivf. I'm contacting mine today to see if anything else has to be done before i move onto ivf.

Liz,
I have question that you might be able to help me out with. Do you know a good RE in the Seattle, Washington area? Thanks so much. By the way I hope you are feelintg better.
If I were you my plan for test day would be to celebrate and treat myself wonderful, spare no thing that my heart desires. You
deserve TO BE TREATED GOOD for all of your hard work!!!

Take Care,
Jessica

[zois2]

Jess-

Congratulations on dh's job!!! I am so happy to hear you two have decided, and I am sure the move and new home will be rejuvenating!! Also, it will be great for you to have the insurance coverage for your treatments!!!!! Lady Luck is really sticking by your side!

I am not sure how timing will go for me, but I think my first ivf will be taking place in March....figures, we'll just be missing cycling together, eh?

Keep me posted on your progress....it will help me alot to know what to expect along the way!!

Liz-

Where are you at? I hope you are feeling better....do you have any signs to speak of? I can't wait to hear your update....

Tina

[Princess123456]

-Tina
Hey I just wanted to keep you up to date with everything. I made an appointment for a RE in Washington today so I should be good to go in April. I think you will be doing everything a little before me so keep me psoted with everything you are going through aswell.

-Liz
Keep us posted with your results. Sticky Vibes and baby dust to you.

Take Care,
Jessica

[zois2]

Hey gals,

Liz-

I am hoping that you are really busy preparing your positive test day plans Maybe you'll be popping in soon with some good news? I hope you are holding up well whatever the case is, and that your flu has susbided by now!!

I am sending you truckloads of baby dust!!!!!!!!!


Jess-

I am so happy to hear you have already found an RE in Washington, and have an appointment! Did your current RE refer him, or did you find him somehow else? When do you officially begin the move? Also, I am curious, will dh's insurance cover your treatments, or will they consider them a "preexisting condition" since you were already recieving treatment...how does that work?

We saw my RE yesterday and the general timeline is what I expected...out this cycle, when my next cycle begins (around mid February) I will go in for b/w and be put on birth control for that cycle (3-4weeks). Then, I guess around mid March, I begin taking my drugs for the ivf and the ball gets rolling.

From the general info. I got, I will stim for two whole weeks, and then they will perform the retrieval. They inseminate the eggs, adn then 3 or hopefully 5 days later, they will transfer the embryos....wow, I will actually have embryos inside me at that point....it is surreal when I think about it...

With iui, the only thing I knew for sure was inside me was my eggies and dh's sperm, from that point on I didn't know if there was anything more. Now there will be an embryo inside me, and the 2ww will really be only about "sticking"....I am praying to God that he will put his hand on us, on that little embryo, and nestle it into my lining, and we will be able to have a healthy pregnancy for the nine months following the transfer...

I don't know when you will start in April, but it if is at the beginning, I will only be a couple of weeks ahead of you. I will definitely keep you posted.

Take care,

Tina

[Princess123456]

Tina,
Hey, I believe the insurance will cover it because i've never in my life have been a day without insurance so it is not considered a "preexisiting condition" and they are required to cover me i think. My current insurance actually tried to not cover me because of my infertility but because i've always had insurance they have waived the " prexisiting condition clause" and had to pay for the diagnosing part of my treatment.
I think that clause is mainly meant for people who didn't have insurance and had a preexisting condition for several years and just started to get treatment once that they had acquired insurance, where in my case i have been actively treating it since i've been diagnosed and this will actually be the second time our insurance has changed in the past year due to hubby changing jobs.
My First Appointment is in March with the new RE, I found the clinic by looking at the CDC stats and once i decided which was the best i went to the clinic's homepage from there i went to each physicians website and viewed years of experience, when they were certified last, and there research interest, eventually i decided who i would go with.
I did call my previous RE to see if he could recommend someone before i started this process but he didn't know anyone though, he is working on sending me some things on ivf. I hope that i get to do my ivf cycle April! Take care and good luck with the treatment.

-Jessica
Are you interested in moving to the ivf board because that is what we are both moving onto and starting a new thread?

[zois2]

Hey Jess-

First I want to tell you about a website of a clinic here in Chicago which gives alot of detailed info. on ivf...it is not my clinic, but it has tremendous success rates as well on the cdc charts...I actually use their site to learn more about the science behind the procedure...it is "advancedfertility" dot com.

I think you did the right thing picking out your RE that way, even though they sometimes caution us against using that info...I think success rates, assuming they are reported correctly, are very important.

I wouldn't mind moving to the ivf board, but I don't want to abandon Liz....I don't know if maybe she is just taking a break for a while or has given up on us? What do you think?

I am constantly lurking around in there, and have posted a question there already, and I have to admit three women answered in a very helpful and informative way.

OH! About the insurance...IF I am currently covered by health insurance which does not pay for any if treatment...just the diagnostic stage...and I were to change insurance...are you saying they have to cover me? B/C I was thinking about getting supplementary insurance, and the agent try to say that it would not help me insofar as my treatment was for a "preexisting condition"....Let me know what you think!!

Ok. So I'll wait to hear from you about the thread, and we'll move on from there....

Take Care!!

Tina

[Princess123456]

Hey,
I looked at the signature today and realized that Liz is PREGNANT!!! I'm soooooo thrilled for her. I think she was distancing herself a little to not hurt our feelings but honestly i'm so happy that she has her miracle baby! Now, I think is the time to move on to the ivf board. I'm going to go ahead and start a post. I'll see you there.

Lot's of Baby Dust,
Jessica

[melizabeth]

Girls,
I hope you see this. First of all you both have been in my prayers. I really have been thinking about you. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me through this. You were/are such a great support system.

I logged on here a while back and for some reason it didn't post. I was a bit worried about your reaction. I knew you both would be happy for me, but of course I didn't want to hurt your feelers. Thank you for being happy for me.

I'm very excited about all of this, but I'm still guarded about it as well. I think I won't be able to relax completely until after the first trimester.


Jess, I'm so sorry I didn't see your post about an RE in Seattle. Rats!!! I know Virginia Mason is VERY VERY GOOD. I can get a name if you are intersted. Also, there is a VERY well known RE in Spokane (Eastern Washington) He is one of the best in the country and we are lucky enough to have him here in our state. Let me know if you want the info I'm happy to share it with you. Congrats on your move!! Welcome to the Evergreen State. I think you'll love it. It's a beautiful place to be. It sounds like you are getting settled nicely. I'm sorry I wasn't here when you needed me. Please feel free and ask any questions!!! Let's keep in touch!!!

Tina,
You are so sweet for not wanting to abandon me. I just am so grateful for you. Thank you for your support. I know I've said that before, but I honestly mean it. I wish you the best of luck. Please do NOT hesitate email me or sent me a note. I'm here and I'd love to keep in touch.

Girls,
You are both still in my thoughts and prayers. I'm sending you both my FERTILE VIBES!! I wish you both tons of success. Please please please keep me informed. You girls are my first friends here and you both have a special place in my heart. Thank you again for being happy for me. I'm excited and scared and SO incredible lucky and I know that. I never thought this would happen. I hope you get this feeling too.

FYI,
I did NOT think I was pg. It felt like AF was coming!! BIG TIME. I was cranky, crampy, bloated, sore bbs, I was convinced I wasn't pg. Actually my bbs were sort of itchy. I know how weird that sounds. But I woke up at 5am on the 31st and I just knew. I took a HPT (1 day early) and it showed up immediately. I know I gave my dh a heart attack, I came screaming out of the bathroom jumping on the bed like a 5 year old girl!! But like I said I was convinced AF was coming.


Here come MY Fertile Thoughts to you both!!!
I missed you both.
Liz
(Did you read my IUI Success story? It's sort of embarrassing but... Mine is the very last one up there)