Proud of myself....

[Darci]

I was at Morgan's basketball practice last night. Was talking with one of the dads of a boy on the team, and we were discussing how Morgan and Mason were adopted from Guatemala.

The dad (not the sharpest tool in the shed to begin with) said that he and his wife had just the one boy, and they had talked about adopting but "after having one of my own I just don't know how I would feel about having one that wasn't my own".

So, while the hairs on the back of my neck were bristling a bit, I just looked at him and sweetly said "oh, it wouldn't matter at all because the child WOULD be your own." I told him about how from the first moment I saw a picture of each of my boys, they were my sons. About how I know a lot of people who have had bio children and also adopted children and I knew for a fact that they love all of their children equally as much, and whether they are bio or not doesn't even matter.

But I did also tell him that it is important to talk about and consider such things, because once you bring a child into your family, it is a part of your family and needs to be accepted the same as any other family member.

[MarieL]

Good for you! You should be proud of yourself! It's not easy to hold those emotions in check and say the right thing.

[foelschg]

I agree with Marie -- good for you!

[Carmencita]

Way to go, Darci!! One of the questions I hate the most, especially when asked in front of my children is, pointing at Lucas "Well, he's your own isn't he?" I usually state emphatically, "Oh, they're ALL ours!" Most people get it right away and apologize. Sadly, though, some still just don't seem to.

[ItaliaGirl]

Good for you Darci....so proud of you for keeping your cool and getting the point across in a articluate and profound manner!
People really dont have a clue what they are saying. If I had a dollar for every stupid comment, I would be shopping right now
I had a girl say something to me the other day almost exactly, except that she is glad that she got pregnant first before considering adoption because pregnancy for her was such a hard ordeal.....as if adoption is not hard. Maybe not physically, but I can remember being sick to my tummy more than a few times, queasy, and downright distraught waiting for my babies...which I said. She got the point and it sounds like this guy did too!!!!

[mellymom]

well, you could have gone with...."well my guys are just rentals, you know try it then buy it" and really sent him over the edge. you did good. when I was dating the one idiot he actually asked if I would save my bio kids in a fire before my adoptee THEN my foster kids.

melanie

[Carmencita]

Melanie said: "when I was dating the one idiot he actually asked if I would save my bio kids in a fire before my adoptee THEN my foster kids."

WOW!! Unbelievable!

[carlal]

Some people are just life long members of the ID-10-T club. (That's the idiot club)

[BC-Tracik]

You Go Girl... you did a great job. Congrats on staying calm and making the moment a learning moment for the dad. Sometimes it is so hard to keep emitions in check and do that ... but you did so WOO HOO Darci.

[Sara-Madison]

Way to educate the ignorant! There is never a guarantee that it will do any good, but perhaps this dope may look at the world a little bit differently now.