Second adoption

[Sharon]

A few months ago we decided we would begin working on a second adoption and due to our rediculous financial situation we decided fost adopt would be the only way. It has been so hard getting the paperwork together but finally---its all in.

Next week is our homestudy update. So by end of February we will be ready to...wait. A match with a child 2 or under can be long. It can also be lightening fast. I've spoken to a few parents who matched as soon as their homestudy was complete.

This is such a confusing time. I am trying to make some career decisions, and Edan is waiting on a job that might have us moving across the country in a year.

So "yay" paper ready within a couple of weeks. And at the same time "woa" am I confused.

I should be over at the fost adopt board. But I thought that here a few of you remember me from our first go around

And you know what...while I think fost adopt is the right choice for us I do so long to be going back to Guatemala too. Its odd but I actually feel a little "guilty" about not going back. Can't put my finger on why.

[BC-Tracik]

Sharon... Hang in there. I have no doubt that it will all come together just as it should. The homestudy will be a breeze and then you will just have to deal with all thowe wait nerves , can't say that I don't miss those LOL.

Keeping my fingers crossed for a speedy assigment and you had better make sure we all know what is up... no sneaking off to the fost adopt board to post all your good news.

[CarolineM]

Sharon

I absolutely believe that your second child will bring you immense joy. My hope is that your sanity doesn't get too tested during the wait - hold on tight!

Yes, I know that feeling of being uncomfortable changing paths. As difficult (insane, heartbreaking, nerve-damaging) as our second Mexican adoption was I mourned not adopting another Mexican-born child on the third journey and the only reason I didn't was that my family would (literally!) have had me committed if I tried again. And yes, there is something about Guatemala that is hard to leave behind....

Please do share your journey with us - we want to celebrate your daughter's arrival when she joins your family. You know we'll wait with you as long as it takes .

Caroline

[foelschg]

Good luck with everything Sharon. I hope dealing with our state foster system doesn't drive you crazy.

I wouldn't worry too much about what might happen in a year or so. Your 2nd baby will come when it's supposed to and if it's not California it will be some other place.

[capeach]

Sharon, I'm so happy that you're now working toward adding another child to your family. I definitely hope that you won't leave us for the foster/adopt program. I want to follow your journey.

Your feelings sound a little familiar. I remember feeling remorse, guilt and sorrow when we decided to adopt in China. I was sure I wanted to adopt in China, but those feelings were still there. BTW, I STILL wish we could adopt in China. (Don't tell DH!! )

[MarieL]

You know, Sharon, I think everyone second guesses at least at some point in time if they are doing the right thing with a second adoption. We make our choices based on our lives the way they are at that point in time. Fost adopt is just as good (even better in some ways) than international adoption. Your family will come together the way it was meant to be.

[Sharon]

Sharon, I'm so happy that you're now working toward adding another child to your family. I definitely hope that you won't leave us for the foster/adopt program. I want to follow your journey.

Oh you guys--I'm not leaving this board, just double dipping at FT (triple dipping if you take into account my masochistic journeys on the debate board). But this will always be my FT home; the most tranquil, lovin', supportive place on the internet. Just sometimes I pop in and realize that I'm not in Kansas anymore---who are all these new people, and do they have any idea who the heck I am?!

[delaware1]

I'm really excited for you! I'm sure everything will work out fine.
hugs-
Kathleen

[april86]

Sharon....I am so excited for you!! Looking forward to following your journey!!

Beth

[Pat in St Louis]

What wonderful news! I'm excited about the new baby for your family!

Pat