can IVF "kill" a relationship? - Page 2

damina · 12-21-2005, 01:08 PM

Thanks Lou Hoo!

Hope to hear from you again soon, the board seems to be a good place to meet sensitive people like you!

LOL

egirl · 12-30-2005, 07:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by damina

Lou Hoo, I have a stupid question:

does a woman need to rest or lie down during the 2ww?

Zouves told me complete bed rest the first 24 hours, only rising to go to the bathroom...next two days are to be mostly bedrest and laying low. Then to take it easy.

Guess it depends on the RE.

Linda

Tess914 · 04-08-2006, 06:52 AM

Hi,
My dh and I have been trying for 9 months with one failed IUI and another coming up. If that doesn't work we are on to IVF with Icsi also (but since my ins doesn't pay we are hoping the next iui works). Anyway, this has been such a very very difficult road. I, especially, have been very depressed, crying all the time and emotional. My dh has been very supportive but we deal differently. I know he feels bad but doesn't show it all the time, however, I can tell it's all he thinks about. I have isolated myself from friends, family and really even wish I didn't have to go to work. I want to escape from society

Well, that all said, I do feel that this experience has brought my dh and I closer together. Don't get me wrong, we have our ups and downs and sometimes we are both so stressed that we take it out on eachother, but I think we are both very aware of that and accepting of it. My only advice is to keep that in mind and don't ever think that the other person doesn't feel your pain...everyone deals and expresses differently. Make sure to keep open communication and to also realize, it doesn't have to be the only topic all of the time (easier said than done).
Good luck honey, I will say a prayer for you - and for me while I'm at it

xo Tess

Hannah-Candy · 05-13-2006, 09:50 AM

On another board, one of the women mentioned a fertility blend vitamin at GNC, it improves low sperm count. My DH thinks its a lot of pills but since he takes daily vitamin anyway, it didn't affect his spirit as much. All Infertility can be relationship killers, even with the 4 IUI cyles I had and clomid, it took the romance out of things and made sex so mechanical. Have sex these days not on these days, and sometimes your just not in the mood. Me and my DH have had months where we just have to take a break so we don't feel like a baby making factory and have time to remember we love each other and sex is fun.

I have found if you give the DH less information is sometimes better, Only tell him what he needs to know. In the meanwhile I am enjoying this website for the support so I don't have to bother the DH with all the clinical stuff until I need him to go down an do his part at the RE. Welcome to the board.
-Candy

Hannah-Candy · 05-13-2006, 09:57 AM

Therese:

Why are you stopping at 2 IUI cycles? Are you using clomid or anthing to assist in your cycles? I've had 4 IUI cyles in the last 5 years ttc. but I think that they have been so much less invasive than IVF and less problems with the DH participating for us. It took possible adoption discussions and classes with my DH before he was even willing to consider IVF. But now he will do anything to avoid having to reconsider adoption. Speaking of DH, he just woke up so I have to go. Glad you joined the forum-Candy

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12-21-2005, 01:08 PM	#11 (permalink)
damina Registered User Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Greece Posts: 9	Thanks Lou Hoo! Hope to hear from you again soon, the board seems to be a good place to meet sensitive people like you! LOL

04-08-2006, 06:52 AM	#13 (permalink)
Tess914 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 2,343	Hi, My dh and I have been trying for 9 months with one failed IUI and another coming up. If that doesn't work we are on to IVF with Icsi also (but since my ins doesn't pay we are hoping the next iui works). Anyway, this has been such a very very difficult road. I, especially, have been very depressed, crying all the time and emotional. My dh has been very supportive but we deal differently. I know he feels bad but doesn't show it all the time, however, I can tell it's all he thinks about. I have isolated myself from friends, family and really even wish I didn't have to go to work. I want to escape from society Well, that all said, I do feel that this experience has brought my dh and I closer together. Don't get me wrong, we have our ups and downs and sometimes we are both so stressed that we take it out on eachother, but I think we are both very aware of that and accepting of it. My only advice is to keep that in mind and don't ever think that the other person doesn't feel your pain...everyone deals and expresses differently. Make sure to keep open communication and to also realize, it doesn't have to be the only topic all of the time (easier said than done). Good luck honey, I will say a prayer for you - and for me while I'm at it xo Tess

05-13-2006, 09:50 AM	#14 (permalink)
Hannah-Candy Registered User Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Central Coast, CA Posts: 635	On another board, one of the women mentioned a fertility blend vitamin at GNC, it improves low sperm count. My DH thinks its a lot of pills but since he takes daily vitamin anyway, it didn't affect his spirit as much. All Infertility can be relationship killers, even with the 4 IUI cyles I had and clomid, it took the romance out of things and made sex so mechanical. Have sex these days not on these days, and sometimes your just not in the mood. Me and my DH have had months where we just have to take a break so we don't feel like a baby making factory and have time to remember we love each other and sex is fun. I have found if you give the DH less information is sometimes better, Only tell him what he needs to know. In the meanwhile I am enjoying this website for the support so I don't have to bother the DH with all the clinical stuff until I need him to go down an do his part at the RE. Welcome to the board. -Candy

05-13-2006, 09:57 AM	#15 (permalink)
Hannah-Candy Registered User Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Central Coast, CA Posts: 635	Therese: Why are you stopping at 2 IUI cycles? Are you using clomid or anthing to assist in your cycles? I've had 4 IUI cyles in the last 5 years ttc. but I think that they have been so much less invasive than IVF and less problems with the DH participating for us. It took possible adoption discussions and classes with my DH before he was even willing to consider IVF. But now he will do anything to avoid having to reconsider adoption. Speaking of DH, he just woke up so I have to go. Glad you joined the forum-Candy