Hypothalamic Amenorrhea Vets - Take 2! PREG, M/C, CHILDREN MENT'D

[Jaymie]

Thanks everyone for your kind words! :-)

nico- uggh sorry the doc didnt have more experience! i know it seems like if there was a problem at least they could diagnose it and have a plan to go with from there but really this seems like great news that there is no blockage or problem! And hopefully this month will be it because of the saline solution!! I dont think it'll be a problem if your kids have close birthdays! if its all they know then they won't know any different! I'm sure you'll do your best to make them both feel special on their special day every year and thats all that matters is that they feel important! No, i didnt quite ask about another child but i'm assuming it's just as much a risk with the next one! Especially with another c-section under my belt therefore upping the chances still more! BUT the simple fact that this one will hopefully arrive with no complications makes me more apt to try again for a 3rd! Dh definitely wants a 3rd!! So we will see!

bebe- so im assuming you passed the glucose test?? good job! have you ever brought the kids to an u/s with you? i'm sure its much harder with two kids tho! I always bring dh with too if i can! But i think her being able to see the baby on the screen helps her understand more it's a real baby that will be here some day! I think anyway, lol! She loves it!

mama- awesome news about your defense! I bet it is a huge weight off your shoulders this time of year especially!

[KatCT]

Hi all, I'm back! Against my better judgment, I had a glass of wine at our holiday luncheon today and now the big pile of legal documents on my desk doesn't seem so appealing. Sigh.

Nic -- I have been thinking of you, so I'm glad you wrote to update us! I'm sorry that you didn't have tremendous faith in your doctor, but I'm obviously happy that she didn't see any scarring. As far as trying this month, I say go for it! My sister and I are 7 years, 10 days apart and it has never bothered either of us that our birthdays are so close together. And my mom's sister has four kids, all born in October, two of whom were born on the same day (three years apart). That day also happens to be my sister's birthday and the birthday of two of my other cousins. Weird, but true. None of them have felt scarred by it. Quite the contrary, in fact -- they all think it's kind of special.

Dr. Molly -- I think I said this already, but it bears repeating: congratulations! What an honor! Thanks for your note... I agree that my profession is difficult (and add on to that the fact that I work in a very male-centric subspecialty: finance) and that the ranks of women have thinned out dramatically over the years. I am so often the only female in a meeting, on a call or on a working group list that I actually get surprised when another woman walks into the room. I use one female outside tax attorney who is a "reduced hours partner" (which, as far as I can tell, means that she works more than 40, but less than 100 hours per week) and who works from home two days per week. She is my only female colleague, however, who has reached partner status with such an arrangement. Most of the other female partners or GCs who I come across either don't have families or have stay at home husbands, so they aren't particularly good role models for me. I wish things were different, and I could probably spend all day talking about this topic (and the related issue of unequal pay) and how to fix it, but I suppose now isn't the optimal time... I think that, for now, I need to look on the bright side. I'm staying in the workforce, continuing to build skills, supporting my family (to some degree) AND getting to spend time with kids.

Okay, red wine with lunch or not, I must return to work! Bye for now.

Editing to say... Jaymie -- Woohoo!!! What wonderful news.

[Ruby08]

Nico - my birthday is June 2 and my brothers is June 3 (2 years apart). My brothers due date was actually on my birthday but he came out a day late! We have had no problems growing up with birthdays one day apart. Obviously there were a lot of combined birthday functions but we also had separate parties at times. I never felt disadvantaged at all.

[AngEmm]

Nico - My sister and I have birthdays a month apart and there was never a problem growing up. Sometimes we had joint parties and sometimes they were seperate. I seriously would not worry one iota about the birthdays being so close.

[ALP81]

Jaymie- yay, what great news!!! I have brought C to many of my appts too and she does a great job, loves listening to the baby's heartbeat and talking about the baby.

bebe- My glucose test is Wed, yuck not looking forward to it! Have you guys decided on a name yet? We haven't decided for sure, DH doesn't want to "commit" to a name this early, lol.

nic- My bday is Feb 7 and my brother's is Feb 8 (3 yrs later) and it was never a problem. We often shared a family cake but I don't remember ever minding at all. (My dad's is the same week too so we'd usually have a 3-way cake) It's all we ever knew, no big deal! I say definitely try this month!

Kat- Sorry about all the work frustration! I feel lucky in many ways to work in a female-dominated profession so family responsibilities are the norm and nobody thinks anything of it. Any luck on the new nanny search?

cycle- C's ped thinks she has some degree of asthma too, every time she gets a cold it turns into pretty bad wheezing. They have her on a daily regimen of an inhaled steroid in her nebulizer- such a pain! Hopefully it's something they'll grow out of in the next few years!

molly- Congratulations!!

writer- Congrats on AF! Your lining may gradually increase over the next few cycles, keep up the work and hopefully your BFP will be right around the corner!

jac- Good to hear from you! Sorry about the clomid not working this time, hopefully January will be your lucky month! Does your RE have any thoughts as to why your lining has been thin?

Kathleen- congrats on the new house!

Good news here- we got rid of C's paci last week!! We took her to see Santa and she gave him her paci in return for a present (a new Cinderella doll). We talked it up for a few weeks prior to going so she knew if she gave him her paci she'd get a present. She LOVES the cinderella doll- takes it everywhere, puts her to bed and has tea parties with her. I can't believe how smoothly it went. She asked about her paci a few times but we just say you gave it to santa and she's ok with that. She only had it at naps and bedtime but would throw an absolute tantrum if we tried to put her down without it, so it's pretty amazing to me that it went so well so far!

[jac44]

that's great news Jaymie - I had a similar issue with a low lying placenta and mine moved too! Big relief.

kat - There is no reason for you to feel like you should be doing more, although for those of us that are Type A, high achievers, I don't think we can avoid it. I ended up in this "GC" type of role by accident, although I don't have the GC title (primarily because I don't want it), work only part time and am also under paid! The grass is always greener, right? You have plenty of time to accomplish your career goals.

writer - great news about o'ing. How long are your cycles? Mine are 40+ days long right now which is really frustrating. Your lining could be thin for a few reasons - it's your first cycle in awhile so your hormones are still a bit wonky; you had a short luteal phase; etc. In my case, they aren't sure why my lining never gets much above 6mm. I got pregnant with Lyla when it was only 4.5mm on the day of the hcg shot but the odds were in my favour considering I had double digit mature follicles.

nico - glad to hear everything looks fine. You said you wouldn't get pregnant until the New Year, so I think you called it! Baby #3 will be here before you know it.

alp - Good news about the paci. Lyla sucks her thumb but I don't mind it. She only does it when she's nervous (ie. in a group of people she doesn't know) or when she's trying to soothe herself to sleep. We took her to see Santa this weekend at DH's company Christmas party and she LOST IT! I had to hold her and kneel down beside him.

cycle - I'm using your monitor this month. I haven't had much of a chance to use it properly because of my tests and treatment. Keep your fingers crossed for me.

[allisonr]

Jaymie – YAHOO! I am so happy that you are in the clear!

Carol – Yes, I am at a lower weight than when I conceived Mallory, but I think I had to go quite a bit past my set point to ovulate again, ya know? I was a size 10 when I got pg….I really wouldn’t be at all comfortable in my skin if I had to be a 10 forever. Now I am a size 6 and have a good body image most days. I don’t restrict, eat plenty of fat, etc. I exercise 6 days a week, moderately. We’ll see what happens I guess. Are you planning to nurse until Sarah weans herself? Yes, we usually have family come to us for the holidays on our VT years. When do you leave for MD?

Kat – I totally agree with asking “what do I WANT to eat” before a meal. That’s what I try to do too, and I enjoy food so much more that way. A lot of times it means eating something like a tuna/cheese/pickle sandwich for breakfast, lol! I often feel the same way you do about my career. I am so far overdue for a promotion…if I let myself, I feel really bitter about that. I try to focus on the positive…I am am paid fairly well and have an extremely flexible set-up. But sometimes I get really let down about it. My profession is male-dominated too. How are L&J doing today? Better I hope!

Tras – Yes, we are still loving our nanny. Her downfall is that she is *never* on time. She ranges from 5 to 15 min late every day, so at this point I just plan that into my work day. But the girls adore her and she does so much with/for them. I think when we are ready to give her a raise, we will use the punctuality thing to entice her….tell her we want to raise her pay, but need her to be on time if she wants to keep the higher rate. Have you posted pics of the new house yet? Sorry if I missed them….would love to see it! And I must say, you have given me a craving for a baja fish taco!

Jac – I’m so glad you came back and posted – missed you! I really hope the new year brings your BFP….waiting for that is so stressful, even when you’re reassured that it’s just a matter of time. What’s new with Lyla these days? Her thumb-sucking reliance sounds identical to Mallory’s – sleep and stressful situations.

Jess – Ooh, so exciting that you find out the gender soon! Happy birthday in a couple days! Any plans? I agree….holiday season birthdays are rough!

Writer – Good to hear from you, and congrats on AF! That’s very encouraging news, but I know it’s not as exciting when you wanted to be pregnant. I like everyone’s advice to you about eating. I really try to eat what sounds good, rather than eating just to eat. Also try to eat plenty of fat from foods you LIKE. Nuts, nut butters, avocados, eggs, cheese, etc can become staples in your diet, rather than be considered as splurges.

Bebe – Wow, congrats on being in 3rd trimester! Hayden is the name you’ve picked? Love it!

Cycle – Are you feeling better?

Molly, Congrats again!

Nico – I agree, ttc every chance you can!

ALP – Congrats to Caitlin on being such a brave girl and giving up her paci! And to you for formulating such a great plan. We did something similar with Alaina and the “binky fairy.” She balled once she realized she couldn’t get it back….ugh, it was heart-wrenching. So glad you didn’t have the same experience! What is your due date?

[spindoctor]

Nico - Sorry you didn't get any answers, but I think it's good that they didn't find any problems. I have a feeling you'll get another BFP in the next few months.

Jaymie - Yay, I'm so glad to hear you are in the clear!

Writer - Congrats on AF! So what is the next step for you?

[jess04]

nico-definately try this month. if not, you may look back next month or whenever and wonder (if you're not preg yet) if you should have in fact tried in december. that stinks about the dr's inexperience with doing the procedure. sometimes, we just assume they know how to do it all...but def not the case!

allison-what about asking your nanny to be there 15 minutes earlier than actually needed? that way, she will arrive on time. i hate being late! since having olivia, sometimes it happens but just drives me crazy. no big plans for the birthday...maybe dinner or some last minute christmas shopping this weekend. birthdays just aren't as exciting as they used to be.

all this talk on the paci's makes me happy olivia never took to one. although, at the time i wish she would have to help eliminate all the crying. with this next baby, i would like to try lots of diff brands and hopefully find one he/she likes!

[trasf20]

Hi All! I am so behind and working too catch up so I can post to everyone - very busy week and the one nap transition is KILLING me!! I just wanted to post this - a friend of mine asked me very last minute (I got the email yesterday morning) to do this for her blog so its not ideal but she did a great editing job! I'm famous (ha!) - among the 10 of us that read this ( ;
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