Hi Girlys, catching up
I thought I would check in with you all and give you an update. Life is much better now. I know that it was bad news him getting off like that. And I soooooo appreciate all your kind words, and whenever anyone has said anything supportive for my niece. I have always told her and she has always appreciated it. As much as I do. Your such wonderful girls here...all of you are inside my heart as deep as can be.
My sister left the UK a few days after the end of the trial and took my 2 small nieces with her, Me and my brother went with them to make sure they setttled into to their new apartment and their new lives. And now all these weeks later, I can hear the difference on the telephone when I speak to them. My niece, the one who was raped, she is so happy, so stress free, she sounds like a different girl altogether. And not only that but her Ulcerative Colitis has completely settled down that she doesnt even have to have her medication at the moment. Just hearing that.....listening to how happy she is...makes me feel so good inside. I do miss the 2 girls very much, and even my sister...whom I didnt always see eye to eye with. But there is always a reason for the things that happen in life, Im a great believer in that. And I think ultimately my sister made the right decision. Its not like she has gone to a strange country, its one we know and love. And of course we already have family there, so that helped very much. Im going to go out and visit them again soon. Thank you for your prayers for my niece and my family, because they worked. My niece is happy and peaceful, and maybe later on she will need some help, and when she does she will get it. But at the moment she is great. As for him...well, like Trina said, there is a higher judge and I believe that.
As for me....I wrote about the problems Im having in my marriage with my dh, I dont know whats going on with him these days. He took on a promotion in his work and Im not sure if its that that made him the way he was, but we started arguing badly. I cant go into it with you all, but I thought for a period of time that he maybe had, had an affair, or maybe an affair is not the right term for it, but perhaps an infatuation with someone in his work. I dont say this lightly, without some sort of evidence. As I trusted my husband completely prior to 3 things that happened. And his reactions to my questioning is what got me worried. And we got to a stage where we argued so much, as he was not wanting me to probe and anaylize that I said I think we need to break up. And he agreed that was what he wanted. And then nastiness was going backwards and forwards as we may not have children, but we have assets and so we was fighting about that. In the end, I told him to just get out as he was getting nothing from me. If he was seeing someone or had an infatuation with someone as he was being secretative with his phone etc..then I dont trust him no more and he can take me to court for half of whatever we had. And finally he came to his senses and sat down and spoke to me properly and denied that he liked anyone else or had an affair and the he loves me and he just didnt like me acccusing him etc.
The bottom line is, that we sorted it out. He leaves his phone all over the place in the house now. Infact I had to use it myself for a while as my phone was broken......but...I dont trust him. I know that something happened, I dont know what it was, I cant work out what, but I just know, instinctively. And whatever it was has stopped now. He obviously decided not to ruin his life with his wife. I chose to ignore this incident. and put it behind us. And be like we was before. I dont want to go ruining my whole world, I sure enough cant be bothered. but my trust for him is not way up. Even though he is behaving himself now. I resent him inside me for the way he treated me. Even though he said he didnt do anything, just the fact that he didnt reassure me that he didnt when I was worried that he did, is enough to make me resent him for it.
So I guess Im not as loving towards him as I used to be. Maybe that will slowly come back, we shall see. I wont leave him, cos I still love him. And hes all I know. So that was what was going on in my marriage, Im happy..ish. But then we cant be happy all of the time. Long as the happy times outweigh the unhappy times, then thats not bad huh
I read all the posts on you all and am so loving that everyone is doing okay. You have your whole hands full with your beautiful family Miss lovely Roo, KCdana, what an inspiration you are girly! so strong, so amazing. Thank you so much for your words for my niece. Your a wonderful human being and I pray for you that you go from strength to strength honey.. I really do.
Hey Miss Belle, and that gorgeous daughter of yours...woww..is she really 6 now...time passes by so fast.
Hey Trina, I think you and Vance have done a great job with Daniel and I know your gonna miss him of course you are sweetie, but you are wonderful, fantastic parents and its cos of you both, that he is the wonderful son that he is. thank you for your prayers sweetie, you are always there for me..always. and I so appreciate you for that, Im sorry if I dont say it enough to you.
And I want to say a hi to our lovely regina, god girly! never have I known anyone that studies and works as hard as you do to get where you are. To help so many IF women, oh how I admire your strength and your stamina. And your always there, always. And Sivje and Kary, and Nancy, and Bev tx and Bev and all the other girlys that used to frequent Fertile thoughts, I would never ever have gotten anywhere without you all, without you all standing right there behind me, ready to catch me when I fall, and then help me back up.
I really do love you girlys and Im not drunk..lol...I just wanted to express my feelings to you all.
I would love to hear from Maite.
Anyways, this has sure enough turned into the beginnings of a book, so time to go.
from across that now warming up sea~~~~~~~~~~in good ole England
bub
