High FSH cyclers week of Jan. 23rd

[pray2rita]

Here is the list from resolve of what not to say to an infertile person. It is worth re-posting: For Family & FriendsRESOLVE: The National Infertility Association

[hhzz0313]

lol Rita, it was "Hope" by Idina Menzel but i will listen to this one that you posted on this thread anyhow i do not blame you it is been since last year nov.2010

cassandra: i am so sorry about your iui. However, you never know you might get your BFP next cycle on the natural. many do get pregnant right after a failed iui, i was on of them unforturnatly mine ended in a m/c but many including my sister in law got preg natural right after the IUI. so you will b in my prayer

Vacation: I know exactly how you feel c'ing sweet babies around you, it is such a hard thing. trust u r such a strong person. when i had my 1st misc my sister in law was not preg and now she has a 9 month old son where i went and had additional 2 m/c after that. after my last, i was not able to talk to her or c my nephew immagine that..i felt guilty bc i love him dearly but i could not bc he reminded me of my angels.. so hopefully you will have your bfp soon!

trying: Good luck on your IVF lots and lots of prayer going toward you..just to let you know that follie that measure 17mm on cd 3 might b the lucky one for u when i got preg the sec time around, was on the cycle right after my iui. my doc said oh u had a sys on one ovary and u have already a follie at 17mm so we wont do anything this cycle try naturally. guess what!?? i got BFP.. Soooo, good luck wish you all the best

jilly: good luck, hang in there i know 2ww is hard..hopefully you will get your BFP soon

good luck to all other ladies

[pray2rita]

hhzz: Ahhh, that song! Yes, I have that one my ipod! Sorry, I forgot. Don't bother looking at the other song on the last chance ivf website. You will just cry and not a good cry...an "I can relate" sort of cry.

[BC-tnahope]

Cassandra, Im sorry you are feeling down I hate to hear people say that about God...Would they day that about a cancer patient? Sickness and disease is not from God!!!! I had a hard time with this in the beginning so I dug in to His Word to see what He had to say about me having a child, I found a lot of info in the Bible about having children and along the way established a great relationship with God.

[hhzz0313]

curiousity killed the cat i tried looking for this song but i could not! was it on youtube? send me the link i will hear it one time i promise

[pray2rita]

curiousity killed the cat i tried looking for this song but i could not! was it on youtube? send me the link i will hear it one time i promise

There should be a link to a video on this site: lastchanceivf.blogspot.com

This girl does a video montage of her IVF experience to "Hold on tight to your dreams." But she never has IVF success.

[awlab]

Congrats to the PUPO ladies, fingers crossed to those in the throes of ER and ET and big cheers to those stimming.

Rita: you are right - I never thought I would forget a thing, but alas the details of the protocols, etc. are blurred. It's a blessing, I guess, but I can certainly see how it would be annoying to someone in the thick of IF. Please tell me if I stray into that territory. BTW I'm excited to see you have a frostie!

Cass, Hhzz and Tired: The Canadian contingent is on the rise... I know Tired is in Ottawa (I've been thinking about you, Tired. I'm so happy you are hanging in) where are you other ladies? (I'm in London) I'm sorry to see your m/cs Hhzz - keep buying lottery tickets as Tired would say. My RE put the odds of a good egg each time at 50%, well better than the lottery. I think it's great that you can conceive so well, it's just a matter of time before the planets align, I hope. Cass, I'm sorry about your IUI. Are you doing this solo (I see in your profile that DH hasn't entered stage right yet) or is there a tall, dark and handsome option to supplement the clinical timing of an IUI?

Thanks for the responses about Day 3. I suspect I blew it by not asking for E2 but it was worth a try We tried BMS every other day from about day 6 to 20 this month. If it's time to shell out the financial and emotional $$$$ again, ****ed if we're not going to try heck out of the natural route while we're waiting.

[pray2rita]

awlab: Oh, I feel bad. That was not directed at you. Feel free to ask any questions here about the process, if you can't remember. We won't be snarky. What I was referring to was insensitivity by people who are IVF alumnae. There was this one IVF gal that after her first baby, she asked childless me how many children do I want. I was dumbfounded. I can't even have one, and you, an IVF sister, are going to ask me that heartless question??? Then there was this other gal who now has two children (one was an IVF baby) who felt the need after one of my failed cycles to tell me how I should not go through any more treatment because my case was hopeless. You expect these things from the rest of the world but not from someone who has been through IF and IVF.

So, anyhow, I just want to remind everyone that when you get your BFP please remain supportive of the girls here on the cyclers thread. Please stop by and cheer us on and please never forget how it felt to walk in our shoes. No one wants or deserves any so-called "tough love" speeches, "God's will" speeches, "I had this friend who stopped trying and..." stories. We have the rest of the world to dish out that carp.

Now, I will step off of my soap box.

[tiredofBFN]

silver - Thinking of you today ... I hope you get a pleasant surprise with your follie check. Though I know you have bigger things on your mind with your Dad being so sick. How is he doing? How are YOU doing? Many prayers going out to you and your family.

trying - Yay for stimming! I hope you see a nice bunch on Friday.

Andrea - any news on whether they will let you come in this week for more monitoring? I really hope that your lining is plumping up and you get to do your FET this cycle. I hope you update us soon with good news.

lady - I don't know you IRL, but from the little time I've gotten to know you on this board, I say you are filled with dignity. And strength and kindness. It just shines through.

snuggles - I'm sorry for your roadblocks but I too am happy you have found an open-minded RE. Sometimes that is half the battle for us girls. Good luck with the estrace/progesterone combo!

cassandra - oh boy, your Aunt is totally out to lunch. She has no clue what to say to somebody struggling with infertility. I'm with the other girls ... this is not God's will. That is one of the dumbest things that people can say. That's like saying "you have diabetes, but you shouldn't take insulin because it's God's will" or "you've been hit by a car, but we're not going to bring you to the hospital because it was God's will that ran your car off the road". I mean really. The only thing God is contributing to this situation is the strength to get you through this, the support you will find here, and friends you will make along the way. I thank God for THOSE things.

hhzz - you have been through a lot of pain and heartache. I hope that you receive results from the genetic testing soon so that they can treat any existing problems. May your next baby end up in your arms.

awlab - I don't honestly know how you have that much sex. I'm exhausted just hearing about it! We may try the very same thing if this cycle fails, but I am NOT looking forward to it and I know I can speak for DH and say he's not either. TMI, but you know we need a fresh sample for ER, so 2 days before I looked at DH and said "can you take care of this yourself?" and he's like "no problem". There is just no getting in the mood for us anymore. Anyhow, I hope your BMS'ing worked so you don't have to deal with drugs, clinics, procedures, etc.
I am hanging in, but coming to the end of my road. If this doesn't happen for us soon, it won't be happening at all. DH will not consider DE or adoption, so it our genetics or nothing. And since my body can't spit out more than a couple of eggs at a time, it's not looking promising but trying to hang onto a thread of hope.

Rita - I hope that all of us here continue to support the new bunch of girls that will join the boards after we all move on to the Moms board!

[sashablum]

Jilly- Congrats on making it to the 2ww! I hear you about thinking ahead. I may still have a few rounds of IUI's left in me but I'm already talking to IVF programs just in case. Planning ahead for the worst case scenario is one of my primary coping mechanisms! I have a phone appt. with CCRM and SCRC (down in your area) in the next several weeks. So, I figure if I have another mc, at least I'll have the next step in place. I hope this 2ww ends in success for you you!

Vacation- I'm sure it was incredibly bittersweet holding your niece. I feel like I know so many women lately who had previous mc's who now are pregnant....it's hard.

Cassie- I'm so sorry to hear about your failed IUI. I agree with the other girls about the timing. Take care of yourself and try to keep hope!

Andrea- I hope your lining plumps up quickly and that you can get in for a check this Friday. It's so hard waiting!

Trying- I'm thinking about you for your follie check this Friday. Keep us posted. I hope you see lots of little follies popping up ready to go

Silver-I'm so sorry about you father. I hope your ok. How are you doing??

Snuggles- I started taking DHEA several weeks ago after my mc with the hope of improving egg quality. For what it's worth, my FSH dropped 2.5 points and my AFC yesterday was 13! I have no idea if this is related to the DHEA or the other supplements I'm taking but I'm certainly not going to stop taking them now

Lady- Congrats on your frozen embie!! I could see how it would be hard to know what to do with no 2ww. More running???

Tired- Congrats on being PUPO! I'm sending serious sticky vibes your way!

Hhzz- I'm so sorry about your mc. I hope you get some answers. I've had 2 mc's in the past year. It's incredibly hard to go through.

AFM- I had my saline sonogram yesterday and all was clear. So far my bloodwork has come back normal except for one test....I forget what enzyme is off for me but I have to take 4 mg of folic acid a day to correct it...although my RE doesn't think my mc was caused by that. She still thinks egg quality which I agree with. So, in 2 weeks I anticipate my next AF then I'll be cycling again (2nd IUI)! I think I've decided though that I can only stand one more mc. If that happens again I think I'll move on to IVF. I'm already doing phone consults with programs out on the West coast. Blech....it's so awful to even have to think about that possibillity but I have to mentally prepare myself for everything!