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    Question Calling hours, what do you say?

    I have to go to calling hours soon, and I NEVER know what to say. This particular person was old (94?) and lived a long happy life. But I still don't know what to say when I see her family lined up at the viewing.

    So what do YOU say?
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    My line is always "I'm sorry for your loss", and repeat, and repeat!


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    "I'm so sorry."
    "I really loved her, she was a lovely lady. What a wonderful life."

    Say what you feel.

    BTW, I'm sorry for your loss.
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    And if you have a special memory of her, share that with them.
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    "I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles." — Audrey Hepburn


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    I just give hugs and say we'll keep you in our prayers....
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    I can't plan it. I say what I feel when I see the people and most of the time they end up talking first and I just go from there. But, it's usually something like "I'm so sorry for your loss" or "I just can't believe this, I loved them so much..." Whatever it is, you want it to be genuine, so say what YOU feel.
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    I like many of the responses above, especially the one about sharing a story. Just fyi, and I know it's different for everyone, the one line I grew to absolutely dread hearing was "it's God's will." I believe that down to the very depths of my being....but for some reason I HATED it when people said it to me. It was like I was being talked down to and I know that wasn't their intention.

    Also, just a hug with either no words or a simple "I'm sorry" speaks volumes.
    8 years old


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    I agree -- "I'm so sorry" says everything. Just being there says a lot!
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    "But Charlie, remember what happened to the man who suddenly got everything he ever wanted." "What?" "He lived happily ever after." Willy Wonka


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    "I'm sorry" and a hug usually work for me. When my mom died, I loved when people told me stories/memories of her. It made me feel better to know that she touched so many people in such positive ways.
    babywearing, breastfeeding, homeschooling mama to:
    M ~ born in Russia August 31, 2002 ~ home August 5, 2004
    J ~ natural miracle ~ born March 20, 2005
    E ~ another natural miracle ~ born December 8, 2008


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