When should we decide to go for IVF?

DKSra · 11-12-2009, 11:45 AM

Hello everyone! This site was invaluable when I finally got pregnant after 2 failed pregnancies (1 at 16w and 1 at 24w). I finally had a beautiful daughter in 2006. Since 2007, we have been trying to conceive and it is taking its toll on us. As others have said here, I'm tired of people telling me that at least I have one, or others who want to know why we're waiting to have another. I'm excited when I hear of friends and family who are expecting, but a part of me is soooooo jealous (I hate that about myself). I have tried clomid and we are on our last round of clomid coupled with ovidrol. I just turned 34 yrs today and am wondering if I should just suck it up and try for IVF? Any suggestions, comments, or ideas that I should ber aware of would be helpful. Oh, ironically I became pregnant last time when I finally came off all of the meds and were going to try IVF in the new year b/se my sis was getting married...so dh and others feel it should happen naturally again.

LowFat · 11-12-2009, 02:23 PM

I would talk to your doctor about that. It depends on your situation and what medical issues you have. Usually the next step after clomid is injectables. However, if you have endo or male infertility or other issues ivf might be better.

DKSra · 11-13-2009, 08:15 AM

Thanks! My OBGYN now doesn't do much of the injectibles or even IVF so he has to refer me to someone else...which sucks b/se I don't want to start all over with another dr. We have unexplained infertility. My cervix was the issue with the 2 unsuccessful pregnancies and I had a stitch put in at 13w with dd. Now they've put a permanent stitch in (meaning it will have to be a c-section), but in the back of my mind is that the stitch is preventing me from becoming pregnant....the dr. has assurred me it's not...but I can't shake that feeling.

I'm just so tired of people telling me to be thankful I have one child and to calm down and it'll happen!

pepper · 11-13-2009, 08:33 AM

I have also never been pregnant with treatment even though we did IVF-ICSI 3 times. I am not sure exactly why - I started some in-depth testing but not all the antibodies yet. I have low AMH (a new test that seems to show ovarian reserve) and hypothyroidism. I really think my eggs have antibodies to themselves or something... I may do more testing next year.

I think if I were you, I would try to get excited about going to an RE and require that they test for everything before starting any cycles. I think they get excited about the paycheck and want it fast, but IVF-ICSI can fail, multiple times. If they don't test for everything I think you'd be wasting your time.

DKSra · 11-13-2009, 09:07 AM

You are right! I just need to get my mindset back in place and start the hamster wheel of appointments, drugs, etc all over again. My dh isn't very supportive about it b/se it did take over our life...but I really feel men don't really get it since they are not the ones charting, taking drugs, or injecting themselves.

I'm going to get off the site now and call for an appointment. Thanks for the encouragement!

11-12-2009, 11:45 AM	#1 (permalink)
DKSra 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Windsor Ontario Canada Posts: 92	When should we decide to go for IVF? Hello everyone! This site was invaluable when I finally got pregnant after 2 failed pregnancies (1 at 16w and 1 at 24w). I finally had a beautiful daughter in 2006. Since 2007, we have been trying to conceive and it is taking its toll on us. As others have said here, I'm tired of people telling me that at least I have one, or others who want to know why we're waiting to have another. I'm excited when I hear of friends and family who are expecting, but a part of me is soooooo jealous (I hate that about myself). I have tried clomid and we are on our last round of clomid coupled with ovidrol. I just turned 34 yrs today and am wondering if I should just suck it up and try for IVF? Any suggestions, comments, or ideas that I should ber aware of would be helpful. Oh, ironically I became pregnant last time when I finally came off all of the meds and were going to try IVF in the new year b/se my sis was getting married...so dh and others feel it should happen naturally again.

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11-12-2009, 02:23 PM	#2 (permalink)
LowFat 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 7	I would talk to your doctor about that. It depends on your situation and what medical issues you have. Usually the next step after clomid is injectables. However, if you have endo or male infertility or other issues ivf might be better.

11-13-2009, 08:15 AM	#3 (permalink)
DKSra 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Windsor Ontario Canada Posts: 92	Thanks! My OBGYN now doesn't do much of the injectibles or even IVF so he has to refer me to someone else...which sucks b/se I don't want to start all over with another dr. We have unexplained infertility. My cervix was the issue with the 2 unsuccessful pregnancies and I had a stitch put in at 13w with dd. Now they've put a permanent stitch in (meaning it will have to be a c-section), but in the back of my mind is that the stitch is preventing me from becoming pregnant....the dr. has assurred me it's not...but I can't shake that feeling. I'm just so tired of people telling me to be thankful I have one child and to calm down and it'll happen!

11-13-2009, 08:33 AM	#4 (permalink)
pepper 5000-9999 post king of hearts Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: GA Posts: 9,371 Blog Entries: 103	I have also never been pregnant with treatment even though we did IVF-ICSI 3 times. I am not sure exactly why - I started some in-depth testing but not all the antibodies yet. I have low AMH (a new test that seems to show ovarian reserve) and hypothyroidism. I really think my eggs have antibodies to themselves or something... I may do more testing next year. I think if I were you, I would try to get excited about going to an RE and require that they test for everything before starting any cycles. I think they get excited about the paycheck and want it fast, but IVF-ICSI can fail, multiple times. If they don't test for everything I think you'd be wasting your time.

11-13-2009, 09:07 AM	#5 (permalink)
DKSra 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Windsor Ontario Canada Posts: 92	You are right! I just need to get my mindset back in place and start the hamster wheel of appointments, drugs, etc all over again. My dh isn't very supportive about it b/se it did take over our life...but I really feel men don't really get it since they are not the ones charting, taking drugs, or injecting themselves. I'm going to get off the site now and call for an appointment. Thanks for the encouragement!