new needing support

[JayNae]

my husband and I are begining the process we have been ttc for 2yrs and have been referred to an RE. It's very hard when both of my sister in laws are pregnant and no one seems to understand what we are going through. He has had his SA and I've had my HSG we are waiting to see what's next. Any advise and support would be greatly appreciated.

[HolmesHX2]

Hi Jaynae.. First welcome to the boards all of us understand where your coming from. Everyone handles this journey slightly different but the emotions your going through really are normal. Most of us get really down and quite honestly torn when loved ones are pregnant. Part of us knows we should be happy for them we love them and their getting pregnant has nothing to do with us getting pregnant but the other part kinda seems like a slap in the face of why everyone else can seem to get pregnant but not us. From what I've learned from the awesome ladies on this board as well as my own experiences you will have all types of people you come into contact with during this process. I've kind of put them into 3 categories but some only seem to encounter 2 thankfully. Type 1 is the person that is empathetic tries to understand and be supportive (on bad days this type of person tends to get on my nerves because they generally have kids and have no clue what its like to go through this process and when your down and frustrated hearing I understand from someone lucky enough to have them is just obnoxious.) Type 2 are the people that care because they know your emotional but stay very stand offish because they have no clue how to handle the situation so they really don't bring it up or talk to you about it and will avoid it at all cost. Type 3 that thankfully not everyone encounters I personally like to call the Idiots. The people that say all the wrong things such as maybe it's gods will you can't have kids etc... those that ramble on and on about why infertility treatments are bad completely oblivious to how much it hurts us because its our only hope. Then the wonderful people that are pregnant or have children and flaunt it around how fertile they are etc.. never seeming to care how bad it hurts us. There is a post on this board I believe its called 1000 things not to say to someone going through infertility (probably shorter title) but either way it was nice seeing others hearing the same thing no matter how simple and them having the same reaction this board has help me so much to feel "normal" when you feel like a freak in the rest of the world. Best advice use the boards as much as you can for questions support whatever it is so necessary to surround yourself with people who do understand even if it's just to vent. Fell free to send me a message whenever I'm here alot throughout the day. I have been TTC with hubby for 5 years now and still feels so new as I learn so much from the other ladies here it really is an invaluable resource to have.

[GGG2006]

Hi JayNae - I wish I had some amazing words of wisdom for you. Some days I am better than others at reminding myself that while pregnancy may be my challenge, there are so many blessings in my life. But today, I am just sad. My best friend is pregnant and just posted the video of telling her parents on facebook. I watched it and now I'm having a tough day. It comes and goes I guess. So all I can say today is to tell you that I am in the same boat. I have been TTC for almost 2 years and have had 1 miscarriage. My HSG showed both tubes are open and my progesterone level suggests that I am ovulating fine. My HSG did show that I might have a fibroid on the wall my uterus so I have to have an SIS to give the doc a better look. So just more waiting. How were the HSG and SA results?