I had a melt down today

[BC-Deswife03]

I had a compelte melt down today. I am feeling very pessimistic about the whole IF thing, and I started to think what our life will be like if we never have children....holidays, family reunions, my brothers having children and I just spirled down from there. I kept thinking that when we are in our 70's being all alone because we don't have children. I know that I may be over dramatic but I just need some hope tonight. My MIL came over yesterday and I think that is what pushed me over the edge. I just wish that someone in my life could understand where we are at and just support us with out giving us adivse like "just relax" or "take a cruse" or "don't worry your still young" all the other dumb stuff people say when they feal akward and don't know what else to say. Anyways thank you for letting me vent I am a mess tonight and just need some support. Thanks

[sailboat2006]

I hear you totally. I completely agree that if I hear one more person tell me I am young and it will be alright......urgh...! My personal favorite is one from a person who consistently keeps telling me that in some way or form I will be a mother one day. This person goes on to say that if I really want to be a mom I will be a mom. I don't know why but that really bugs me. How does this person know that?? No one knows what we are dealing with or going through unless they have walked in our shoes. Anyway, just wanted to tell you I hear what you are saying....

[Little fluff]

Hugs, I hope tomorrow is a better day.

[CMorrison]

My personal favorite piece of advice is that I just need to get really drunk and have sex. Yeah that will work! There are so many idiots out there that just don't get it.

Anyway I hope you feel better.

[Winnie817]

Hugs to you...I had a meltdown myself yesterday and today. So then I decided to make it worse and go to the Mall of America and I think every newborn was there. Sigh.............to better days and anything that gets us through this.

Winnie

[Writinit]

wannab,

So sorry you're feeling that way. I'm with you. I get so angry at everyone for how they dismiss what I'm feeling/experiencing. I have EVERY RIGHT to be angry and feel hopeless. It's not helpful to me when ppl say things like relax or it will happen, you WILL get prg. My boss does that constantly and I want to kick her. BECAUSE I MIGHT NOT EVER GET PRG. That is my reality.

Anyway, I understand where you're coming from. I'm sorry your MIL is one of those people too.

[beaglenutty]

I think about what it will be like if we never have kids too. I think we all do. I hate what everyone says stupid things too. My boss always says you can have one of mine. The other day she was mad about something her kids did. She said would you like a 12 yr old boy? I said no I would like a newborn baby. She know everything we have been going through. Then another girl I work with goes the religous route. Just leave in Gods hands. He has a plan for you. This just might not be the right time for you. So I guess God likes to put me through this when 14 yr olds and drug users get pg. I'm sorry but it makes me soooo mad. And dont forget the old relax it aill happen. AHHHHHH

[chicks1]

Hi there! I totally get what you're feeling. If one more person says to me, "just relax! It will happen when it happens.. When you least expect it", I'm going to throw myself over a cliff. If they only understood what we are all going through. That's why I love this site. Whenever I am feeling alone in this world, I come on here and I see that I'm not alone and I never have to feel that way. I too am starting to wonder if things will ever get better for us. I have PCOS, endo, and I don't ovulate, nor do I have a period on my own. DH has low count and motility due to an apparent prostate infection in which the doctor says, "this is the last round of antibiotics that I can try.. After this, there is nothing more I can try to rid the infection".. Thanks for the vote of confidence.. All of his swimmers are infected too.. I really hate it when people say, "relax and forget about it and it will happen", or "you're still young", it infuriates me because they don't understand what this is like.. To go through month after month of disappointment, they just don't get how a comment like that makes us feel. How do you forget about it, when you're going for bloodwork, ultrasounds and doctor's appointments 15 times a month? Or when your husband has got to wake up with only 2 hours of sleep to drive an hour to wait for a phonecall from me to tell him whether I ovulated or not.. If not, he has to turn around and go home. If so, he's got to do his thing in a cold bathroom and run it over to the doctor's office.. If someone can tell me how you forget that, I'll see to it that they win the lottery.. ;-) Anyways, we're always here for you when you need it! And we understand.. Lots of sticky vibes your way! Hopefully we all get the blessed baby we want, and soon!

[BC-Deswife03]

I got my hsg results on friday and it turns out one of my tubes is blocked And then on top of that we found out that our old obgyn mislead us about dh seeman results. It turns out that he has a low count. I am in a state of shock and dh is devistated. I have to have a lap in december and my re said that most likely our only options are iui or ivf.

Thank you ladies for all your support I don't know where I would be with out you. Please pray that we would find the funds to do ivf if that is what we have to do.