What would you do???

[DogLover]

My parents are divorced, have been since I was 14. My dad and I have always been very close. He knows I'm having trouble getting pregnant but he doesn't know all the money I'm putting out and of all the treatments I have gotten. About two months ago, we were talking on the phone and he said, "you're never going to have a baby, what are you going to do when you turn 30 and still have no kids" (I'm 25 right now)...And, he has made comments like that a couple of times since then. Well, I stopped talking to him as much because I would get depressed when we hung up...And like two weeks ago we had this long conversation about how insensitive his comments are and I told him how it hurt my feelings. He just sort of laughed and brushed it off. Well, I just got off the phone with him and he was talking about my step-brothers, girlfriends kid(no relation at all!) and how he loves him..blahblahblah..and then he goes you aren't ever going to have any kids..I just said okay whatever. I'm so sick of his comments, what would you do, I don't understand why a parent would intentionally want to hurt their child..I'm clueless...am I being too sensitive? I'm tired of brushing off his comments!

[jeppy]

I'm sorry to hear that he is treating you this way. I think guys in general are not as sensitive as we wish they were...especially our fathers generation,
My dad will say every now and then on the phone -" So are you pregnany yet?" Last time he said that I started to cry and told him that if I was I would tell him and that he is trying to be there for me in the worst possible way. Maybe your dad is just trying to find out what he can do to help, but he does not know how to say it....just a thought.

If he truely cares, he would not say things so negatively. Let him know how you feel-at least this is my opinion.

Best of luck to you!!!!

[BC-blu_sky]

That is rough. The last thing you need right now is stress. As much as it hurts maybe you should just not talk to him for awhile. Or if he brings up something about kids just say I am sorry I have told you how your comments hurt me I have to go now. Maybe he will get the hint.


Good Luck.

[DogLover]

Your story sounds similar to mine, my dad kept asking me, "you pregnant yet" and the last time he asked that, I started crying and that's when I had to tell him about the problem with getting pregnant. My dad is just being a jerk, and he knows he's doing it. It blows my mind, though. I have quit talking to him as much and every time I do, I get nervous that he's going to say something out of the way and today happened to be one of those days. I'll survive! And just ignore his comments, I'm going to try and not let his bad confessions on my life bother me. Thanks for the replies...Have a good weekend!

[Little fluff]

I would tell my dad once again how cruel and insensitive his comments are and that they hurt your feelings, if he tries to laugh it of I would say please don't laugh I am serious and you are hurting me. If he continues after that with insensitive comments I would tell him you prefer not to discuss your IF and TTC efforts with him.

I hope that by you being really adamant it might make your dad sit up and think about the added pain he is causing you.

Hey doglover, by the way I believe you will be a mummy one day, hang in there sweet.

Debbie

[DogLover]

Thank you, you're very sweet, it brought a smile to my face, I will tell him once again how it makes me feel....good luck in your journey =) I hope no one here thinks I'm a whiner...cause I rarely ever whine about my problems..take care!

[Little fluff]

Your welcome and the very best of luck to you too. Thanks for the good wishes.

[MEstrada]

Just another suggestion: Put it in writing, like in a little letter to him. It's on paper, no room for interpretation!

Best of luck!
Maria