How Did Infertility Happen To Me!

[Kallypso]

Hello all,
I know this sounds a bit corny - but this really is my first time posting to a forum like this.

My husband & I have been married for just over 9 years - I was 18 at the time so we decided to wait a decent number of years before TTC. Then his ailing father moved in with us and that was followed by 5 very very stressful years of helping him. I'm certainly not going to say that I was happy when he passed on - but it really did leave such an empty space in our lives! We had devoted years to feeding him, taking him to dialysis, meeting with doctors and nurses... all the while putting aside our wanting to start a family.
After that my hubby & I decided to wait a while and then try.

Scoot foward to today - and nothing!
How did this happen to me?
I used to laugh with a friend when I was younger - we'd laugh that it was so funny that we could probably get pregnant at the drop of a hat and not want the baby when there are so many women in the world who are desperate to get pregnant!
Yes, very funny... I wound up getting pregnant at 16. I didn't consent to the sex, so it was doubly difficult. Made even worse then by my parents forcing me into having a D&C.
Yes, I was 16 and unable to care for a baby by myself, but it just broke my heart to think that I had no choice - not even the option to let someone else raise my child.
Now I'm 27 and I'm one of those women who is so desperate to get pregnant!
We've been TTC for 2 years now. Without any treatments. About the most we've done until recently is to buy Preseed.

My sister announced last November that she was pregnant. She gave birth in January. She was just finishing school and didn't want to have our family do to her what they did to me. So - even though I'm very envious of her - I'm a little comforted by the fact that knowing what happened to me made her decide to keep her baby a secret until it was too late. I love my niece. Everyone loves her.
But I'm still envious....

My husband's best friend - his wife announced her unplanned pregnancy 5 months ago! She has never even WANTED kids! It's so hard for me to be happy for them!

I just finished my first cycle with the Clear Plan Ovulation monitor - turns out that I was missing my O date by DAYS! My cycle averages 40+ days - and it turns out that O-Date is around day 23.
Unfortunately, despite our best efforts - I can feel AF's affects.

My OB/GYN has prescribed Provera to regulate me - she wants me to start it on November 1'st. I'm a bit nervous about using a drug to do something that seems to be so easy for everyone else I know to do!
All my tests came back normal on everything else - so she just thinks it's a timing issue.
She told me to at least try a HPT at the end of this month before taking my first dose of Provera.
So! Even though I'm 99% sure I'm not pregnant now - I'll follow her instructions and take it from there.

Has anyone had problems with taking Provera? What about Preseed? Does it really work like it says it does? I'd hate to think that was the problem!
What about the Clear Plan monitor? Anyone had problems or concerns with it? Right now my biggest concern is how much those darn test sticks cost! I used 24 out of a 30 box this last cycle!

I live in the Dallas area - so if anyone is around me - maybe we could get together and vent!

Okay - enough venting for now.... thanks for "listening"..

[MomZ]

I know how painful it can all be. I seem to have fertile myrtyles all around me as well. You can always come here to vent, we cerainly understand
Julie

[Ferret Mommy]

Hi,
I am sorry about all the bad stuff... so lets make everything good now. With your dr giving you provera. are you going to be taking clomid? If you take provera, to start AF you 99% chance will not ovulate that cycle. ( learning from my past) I wanted to be sure that you talk that over with the Dr. since you are activlly trying. One month out of the game can really suck.

Pre Seed can help. I use clomid, so the pre seed helps with the missing CM. I only use it after I get my peak on the monitor. Are you temping? BBT? That has helped me learn my body alot. I am at the point now that I temp a week before O... and after the rise.. then when I want to, just to see where I am. ( my link has my charts if you want to see one) About the monitor sticks... I would buy some cheapies online and use the monitor test strips as you get closer to O. I only use about 7 now... But I have been using the monitor for about 3-4 months. U say that you O late... even if you start using them on CD12 or 15, that can still save you money!!

I wish you luck and many well wishes on this journey. Just remember that you are not alone and that we are all here! Make sure that you make BMC fun and not a chore!!

Hugs!! Kat

[Kallypso]

Oooh - no - she didn't give me clomid. She said to try the Provera for 3 months and then she would put me on the clomid if the provera didn't work!
Hmmm! Thanks for the tip - I'm going to call her and make sure! Like you said - I'd hate to miss a whole month!! Especially since we've been trying for sooo long!!

I was temping for a while - but it just didn't seem to work with me! My temp seemed to always be up! I think I'll try it again with my next cycle and see how that goes.

Thanks for the reply!

[Ferret Mommy]

I would really look into that. From what I have been told any medication taken to jump start AF will cause you to not ovulate... until the next round. I would think someone else would no better.... maybe ask that question to the group??!!

Best Wishes!!!!