How Supportive Is Your Dh?

[BC-IrishBrat1313]

Trying to get this board hopping?


Do you feel like your DH is on the same page with you about having a child?

During our TTC times it felt like that's all I was thinking about and pushed our marriage to the side. My drive for having a child blinded me for a lot of things, but I noticed when I was getting the BFNs my DH wasn't taking it hard. Just a brush off. Are your Dh's with you emotional on everything? Are they as driven as you are to have a baby?

[dee32]

My dh is totally onboard but he reacts differently than I do I guess. He was so stress free and when I got a BFN he said maybe next month. I guess I carried all the stress and worry.

[TigerGirl]

I know my DH isn't as worked up as I am. I am like irishbrat, it is the only thing on my mind. Right now he's waffling about the whole thing. I think for him it's case of "if it happens, that's good; if not, then oh well." After our failed IVF, he doesn't really want to go any extra effort (IVF, donor eggs, adoption). I do my thing (lose some weight, take some supplements, etc.) and hope. Didn't mean to sound so depressing. Sorry.

[homie]

I have been amazed that DH has stuck through this for 3 IVF, 2 ED cycles & multiple low tech hormone treatments prior to that....but in the end they want it as much as we do. Their part is not as demmanding, so I think any silence or brush off is toning it down for us gals. I know they are wired differently & most guys do not talk about it which can be unhealthy, too. I thank God for him. but I know it has taken a toll on the marriage, the sex life and the pocket book. But in some ways, it probably made us stronger, too.

[rayne1120]

Dh has been wonderful and supportive through our IF journey, although it's rare when he'll have the physical outpouring of emotions that I do; but he's always there for when we have a breakthrough, and he's definitely there for the setbacks.

Dh is very involved and definitely wants children; but he doesn't obsess the way I do. He's at the place that if we're able to have our own baby great, if not he's fine with living childfree or adopting. Our main focus at this time is keeping our relationship solid and getting through whatever is in store for us together.

[BC-IrishBrat1313]

Wow. What a bunch of great guys there are here.

[RiazVW32]

My DH, I feel, is sometimes more nervous and wanting a child than I can be. He's very involved in asking the Dr. what more he can do to help things along. He also wants to go on every visit with me. The first to cycles of Clomid I took, I failed to get a +OPK; however this last one was. We were both so happy! I just had my first IUI on Sat and then again on Sun. I told him about all the posts I've read where the first IUI doesn't seem to be successful. He's already prepping for what to do next time if it doesn't work out this time.

[nicolerlowe]

My DH is really supportive, we have been trying for over 2 yrs so he is jumping on any bandwagon i hand him lol

[Sarah1124]

he is totally on board with the whole wanting a baby thing. at first when we found out the problem was on his end, he seemed dejected. when i told him he didn't have to do a thing but continue to give samples, and eventually shoot me up with all sorts of drugs, he got happy again!

I'd say he's now 100% on board with all this craptasticness!!! (the shots are so close now!) weird what motivates some guys...