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    Waiting to tell everyone?

    So...if you have not told everyone already, how long are you all waiting to tell everyone that you are preggo? We've told our immediate family (parents & my siblings) but have not told most of our friends yet. I've told a few people & made a few other people suspicious with things I've said (not on purpose), but I'm trying not to tell until after my 12 week appt. I'm just too paranoid. I was doing really well not telling until recently, when I have been wanting to tell. I feel like you can tell just by looking at me... but maybe that's just me. I want friends to understand why I have not been doing as much recently since I feel like crap all the time. But does it really matter? They will find out in a few weeks and realize "oh that's why she has seemed "off" recently!".

    So... just was curious to see what everyone else is doing.

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    p.s. I'll be 9 weeks on Saturday


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    I believe every day is a day for celebration! I tell right away! No matter what! It's exciting and scary all around but I figure if something is going to happen at 4wk through 39 wks it's going to happen! So take it day by day and celebrate this gift!

    Tell when you feel you are ready........
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    My sister knew I was doing IVF, so she knew the day I knew! I finally told my mom last week. DHs mom knew right away, too - because she watched my daughter while I was doing the ER and ET. My friends know. My boss knows. The co-workers that do know, want me to make some big announcement about it - but that's not really my style.

    So basically, everyone that I will tell, knows. Everyone else will find out as time goes on! My clothes are already snug on the belly - with twins I doubt I can keep the secret too much longer!


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    our immediate fam knows and we will tell close friend soon. we are waiting to tell extended family when i am at least 12 w or visibly pg. ( i will be 8w wed)
    we figure if something does happen the closest people to us would know and support us, so we tell them in the beginning.


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    I'm 8 weeks and our family knows and only 1 co-worker who says she hasn't told anyone because it's my news to tell. Me and co-workers are out for the summer (I work in a public school) so we're currently not around each other. By the time school starts I'll be a little more than 12 weeks so perfect time to start announcing (and sending a heads-up email to my supervisor).


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    Quote Originally Posted by hannahsmama
    I believe every day is a day for celebration! I tell right away! No matter what! It's exciting and scary all around but I figure if something is going to happen at 4wk through 39 wks it's going to happen! So take it day by day and celebrate this gift!

    Tell when you feel you are ready........
    I like the way you think That's so true that something could happen any time. My problem is, I am afraid that if I tell, that I can jinx it & make something happen. I know that's not true, though. So... we'll see. I might make it to the 12 week u/s, I might not

    Thanks for your responses. I know everyone is different & has to make their own choices


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    We will wait to tell most people until 13 weeks. A few friends know since they visited us and asked when they noticed I was not drinking and I went on a girls' trip and had to spill the beans. My ILs know since they were here during the FET.

    Last time we waited until 13 weeks to tell family and most friends. Some friends knew we were cycling so they knew right away. I told work around 15 weeks.


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    We told most of my family as soon as we found out. I was hoping that I could keep it a secret at work for a while longer, but someone asked me if I was pregnant during a meeting last week. My boss was there, so this wasn't exactly the way I wanted to tell him, but now they all know.


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