Failed IUI-feel at such a loss - Page 3

dreamer79 · 11-03-2009, 07:17 PM

I'm so glad to know that the rest of you ladies are out there, feeling the same way about this that I do. I try to remind myself that we still have such a small percentage chance of getting pg, but when I see people that aren't even trying or have no problem I have trouble staying positive. The posts here help me stay positive.

We're sked for IVF in March, so two more IUI cycles before then. I hope they'll work but I'm trying not to get my hopes up too much. I guess I just wish I knew what the problem was.

And I'm having hot flashes from the clomid, boo.

Anyway, just wanted to say thanks for being there!

mira375 · 11-03-2009, 10:03 PM

Babyfaith I totally understand what you mean about feeling a loss each time. Each month, after I ovulate, I spend the next two weeks avoiding caffiene and alcohol, not eating sushi or tuna fish, taking vitamins, and of course those disgusting progesterone suppositories. I spend two weeks taking care of this little thing that MIGHT be growing inside me. Only to find out that it was never even there at all. psychologically, it IS a loss.

Although your husband is also dissapointed, he has not been taking care of this thing, that turns out to be imaginary. He did not have to think about it every morning when he woke up and every night before he went to bed, and all day long every time he ate or drank anything. It is totally different. My husband is also sad with each negative but he doesn't really get it either.

farout · 11-04-2009, 01:27 PM

Hi Everyone,
I am in the same boat as some of you. I found out my first IUI failed a few days ago. My doc is very encouraging, and wants me to try the IUI again because I'm young, 27, but I'm not sure about the cost effectiveness of the procedure. My husband is out of town 4 months at a time, and when he comes back its never on my ovulation days. Thanks to everyone for posting about their experiences... it really helps.

saw9004 · 11-07-2009, 04:47 PM

Hi Dreamer, thanks for the info! I may look further into this.

saw9004 · 11-07-2009, 04:56 PM

Far out, you have good odds because you are still young - you have time to keep trying and consider your options.

mira - I totally get what you are saying..for instance I went to a party and was the only one drinking sparkling apple cider. And I had to think twice before ordering something with cheese and ham (wasn't sure if pasteurized/cured respectively) all in the interest of protecting what I hope is developing inside me...it is a sacrifice but worth it...could never forgive myself if I drank and then learned i was p.

Anyone else...I have a question...3 days post iui I had cramps whcih I think was from prog. and ovulation pain. Now I am a week later and having uterine cramps..diff. type - not sharp - more dull. Anyone else?

mira375 · 11-08-2009, 01:16 PM

Saw, I have gotten pretty bad cramps every month that i did an IUI, both before and after ovulation, just from the drugs. Now I am on lupron and I have absolutely NO sex drive whatsoever. Next week i will triple my gonal-f dosage from what i have ever taken before, I expect to be doubled over with cramps. Looking forward to that!

mybabyfaith · 11-08-2009, 03:25 PM

I am so nervous, I started follistin on Thursday and went to my RE today for BW and Sono. I am going to be doing my first IVF this month if everything works out. I feel guilty because I am afraid to get excited, I am still not over the pain of my BFN. The last couple of days it feels like I have been just going through the motion with the shots, but today everything is starting to feel real...I just don't know if I can handle another heartbreak. My husband might be going out of town this week, which is going to make this whole process more difficult. Unfortunately we have to pay for everything out of our pocket, so we are not in the financial situation where my husband can turn down work.

mybabyfaith · 11-08-2009, 03:51 PM

Mira...I know exactly what you are saying. Last month I had all the symptoms, so natually I got my hopes up and did everything as if I was taking care of a miracle. Even when I called my RE about my cramps they told me that they were probably implantation cramps...I could not have been more excited about pain in my life. When AF came I was devasted and began to grieve the loss that never was. A couple of weeks ago I told my DH how I was still suffering from a loss and I told him about all of the symptoms that I had felt, which was something that I should of shared earlier because he said that he didn't realize all that I had gone through.

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11-03-2009, 07:17 PM	#21 (permalink)
dreamer79 100-199 post 3 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Georgia Posts: 128	I'm so glad to know that the rest of you ladies are out there, feeling the same way about this that I do. I try to remind myself that we still have such a small percentage chance of getting pg, but when I see people that aren't even trying or have no problem I have trouble staying positive. The posts here help me stay positive. We're sked for IVF in March, so two more IUI cycles before then. I hope they'll work but I'm trying not to get my hopes up too much. I guess I just wish I knew what the problem was. And I'm having hot flashes from the clomid, boo. Anyway, just wanted to say thanks for being there!

11-03-2009, 10:03 PM	#22 (permalink)
mira375 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: New York NY Posts: 6	Babyfaith I totally understand what you mean about feeling a loss each time. Each month, after I ovulate, I spend the next two weeks avoiding caffiene and alcohol, not eating sushi or tuna fish, taking vitamins, and of course those disgusting progesterone suppositories. I spend two weeks taking care of this little thing that MIGHT be growing inside me. Only to find out that it was never even there at all. psychologically, it IS a loss. Although your husband is also dissapointed, he has not been taking care of this thing, that turns out to be imaginary. He did not have to think about it every morning when he woke up and every night before he went to bed, and all day long every time he ate or drank anything. It is totally different. My husband is also sad with each negative but he doesn't really get it either.

11-04-2009, 01:27 PM	#23 (permalink)
farout 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Chicago Posts: 10	Hi Everyone, I am in the same boat as some of you. I found out my first IUI failed a few days ago. My doc is very encouraging, and wants me to try the IUI again because I'm young, 27, but I'm not sure about the cost effectiveness of the procedure. My husband is out of town 4 months at a time, and when he comes back its never on my ovulation days. Thanks to everyone for posting about their experiences... it really helps.

11-07-2009, 04:47 PM	#24 (permalink)
saw9004 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: nyc Posts: 11	Hi Dreamer, thanks for the info! I may look further into this.

11-07-2009, 04:56 PM	#25 (permalink)
saw9004 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: nyc Posts: 11	Far out, you have good odds because you are still young - you have time to keep trying and consider your options. mira - I totally get what you are saying..for instance I went to a party and was the only one drinking sparkling apple cider. And I had to think twice before ordering something with cheese and ham (wasn't sure if pasteurized/cured respectively) all in the interest of protecting what I hope is developing inside me...it is a sacrifice but worth it...could never forgive myself if I drank and then learned i was p. Anyone else...I have a question...3 days post iui I had cramps whcih I think was from prog. and ovulation pain. Now I am a week later and having uterine cramps..diff. type - not sharp - more dull. Anyone else?

11-08-2009, 01:16 PM	#26 (permalink)
mira375 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: New York NY Posts: 6	Saw, I have gotten pretty bad cramps every month that i did an IUI, both before and after ovulation, just from the drugs. Now I am on lupron and I have absolutely NO sex drive whatsoever. Next week i will triple my gonal-f dosage from what i have ever taken before, I expect to be doubled over with cramps. Looking forward to that!

11-08-2009, 03:25 PM	#27 (permalink)
mybabyfaith 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Erie Posts: 11	I am so nervous, I started follistin on Thursday and went to my RE today for BW and Sono. I am going to be doing my first IVF this month if everything works out. I feel guilty because I am afraid to get excited, I am still not over the pain of my BFN. The last couple of days it feels like I have been just going through the motion with the shots, but today everything is starting to feel real...I just don't know if I can handle another heartbreak. My husband might be going out of town this week, which is going to make this whole process more difficult. Unfortunately we have to pay for everything out of our pocket, so we are not in the financial situation where my husband can turn down work.

11-08-2009, 03:51 PM	#28 (permalink)
mybabyfaith 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Erie Posts: 11	Mira...I know exactly what you are saying. Last month I had all the symptoms, so natually I got my hopes up and did everything as if I was taking care of a miracle. Even when I called my RE about my cramps they told me that they were probably implantation cramps...I could not have been more excited about pain in my life. When AF came I was devasted and began to grieve the loss that never was. A couple of weeks ago I told my DH how I was still suffering from a loss and I told him about all of the symptoms that I had felt, which was something that I should of shared earlier because he said that he didn't realize all that I had gone through.