1st IVF cancelled transfer

Dailystrength · 09-28-2009, 03:17 PM

I just found out that I will not be able to transfer today (day 5) because the embryos stopped dividing. The lab said they looked good on day 3. I am 32 and have high fsh of 11.9 (DH is perfect) and we were happy to have 13 eggs, 10 mature and 7 embryos. I am so sad, but now feel ready to fight back and keep going. I know that God has a plan for this situation, but I was wondering if anyone had thoughts about why they tried a 5dt? I just keep thinking what if they had stuck to a 3dt would we have better results. I don't see the RE for 10 days so I am left with so many questions.

TTCyears · 10-07-2009, 08:56 PM

Dailystrength, I am sorry that no embryos survived to Day 5.

I read lots of studies online and have concluded for myself that I will agree to a 5dt if my doctor recommends that. I found old studies that recommended 3dt, but with the advances in IVF technology that seems to be very outdated. I found a recent study about 3dt vs 5dt that was amazing, but I don't have it at my fingertips.

Your dr's appt is soon. Let us know what s/he says.

Hugs,
~Sharon

C-Mag · 10-22-2009, 07:19 AM

I am new to this site but I read what you said about failing transfer. I just completed my second IVF and I feel very much like I can't do it again. The first time I was in your shoes. Nothing was even beginning to fertilize then low and behold out of 3 eggs one fertilized late on the second day. It ended up not growing after that and all was cancelled. I was a wreck. Fortunately I work for the school system and this was this summer and I had time. Now however for my second time I am back at work. I got a lot further and I had hope. I went through all and the transfer too. I had 2 eggs transfered on Oct 9th Yesterday I was informed it did not work. After the first failure I did not believe I could feel this much despair again, now however I think it will never go away. With us we had a low sperm count and virtually no mobility. I forget what it is called but they put my husband under and took his sperm this time and low and behold 4 fertilized eggs. I was so sure I was pregnant. Now the heartbreak is overwelming. With no hope at all and a pregnant coworker to see every day I dont know if I can do it. i don't know why you guys did not fertilize, but if it is male fertility rest assure there is a solution to that problem..... C-Mag

Dailystrength · 10-27-2009, 06:18 PM

C-Mag, I am so sorry for your failed cycle. I am starting my next cycle now (in day 3 of stimms) and I am so fearful that it won't work again. There is an internal strength that made me do it again. I guess the hope that God has a plan and I have to try this to see if this is the plan. I read somewhere that infertility is like going though a major death or cancer due to the high level of stress. At least we know we are not alone in our grief. I hope you can feel better soon and look forward to your next steps to get to a BFP!

My RE agreed to do a 3dt with 3 embryos this time thinking that low quality eggs were to blame for my 1st failed cycle. We are also using 2x the amount of meds to stim more eggs.

C-Mag · 10-30-2009, 02:24 PM

Hi there, A few days time and I do feel better. I am not feeling hopeless anymore. I have been praying that things worked out for you and I will continue to do so. I have been blessed with a lot of helping hands no where else would I have had so many put in my path to encourage me, I want to do the same for all those out there going thru the same. So I wish to know how it went... C-Mag

Dailystrength · 10-31-2009, 02:24 PM

C-Mag- I will also pray for you in getting to a BFP. It is so good to have others to encourage you during this time. I know this site has helped a lot with feeling like I am not alone in the IF journey. I will hopefully have ER next Friday (Nov 6th). I will let you know how it goes. Do you know what your next steps are going to be?

C-Mag · 11-04-2009, 07:01 PM

Daily Strength, still thinking of you and wondering how you are doing. I appreciate your words. I do not know what the next step for us will be I have a wedding to attend in another state at Christmas time and am concentrating on that right now, but I am at a loss how to proceed. We are considering embryo adoption. However we cannot afford another round of IVF so as this is how embryo adoption works I am not sure this is the best route either. I am still looking for answers. I trust however if we were not meant to be parents then my feelings would not be so strong to have a child. I have asked God to take that feeling away if things were not meant to be, but you can see I am still here. Let me know how it goes I will pray for you.... C-Mag

Dailystrength · 11-06-2009, 12:33 PM

C-mag, I hope you find answers soon. God knows the desires of your heart and I pray that in time you will get your miracle. I don't know a lot about the costs of embryo adoption. Are there grants for IVF at your clinic? We are in our 2nd round of IVF and I thought it was going to be cancelled. On Tuesday the RE said the follicles were not growing and he had concerns. Today we went back in to see if they developed further, and there are 11 useable follicles so we are doing ER on Sunday. I am feeling anxious about the whole process, but I know that God is in control.

C-Mag · 11-09-2009, 03:22 PM

Well at least there is hope I know there are answers too but what they are I am not sure. It seems something so simple is so difficult. I will keep praying let me know how it goes... C-Mag

Dailystrength · 11-09-2009, 07:10 PM

Yes, hope is all we have. It is like we want science to have all the answers, but it just doesn't work that way. That is what is so frustrating! I had my ER Sunday and the RE retrieved 5 eggs. The fert report today was that out of the 5, 4 were mature and 2 became embryos. I am planning on a 3dt on Wed. I will pray for you too!

09-28-2009, 03:17 PM	#1 (permalink)
Dailystrength 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: May 2009 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 89	1st IVF cancelled transfer I just found out that I will not be able to transfer today (day 5) because the embryos stopped dividing. The lab said they looked good on day 3. I am 32 and have high fsh of 11.9 (DH is perfect) and we were happy to have 13 eggs, 10 mature and 7 embryos. I am so sad, but now feel ready to fight back and keep going. I know that God has a plan for this situation, but I was wondering if anyone had thoughts about why they tried a 5dt? I just keep thinking what if they had stuck to a 3dt would we have better results. I don't see the RE for 10 days so I am left with so many questions.

10-22-2009, 07:19 AM	#3 (permalink)
C-Mag 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Florida Posts: 8	after the transfer I am new to this site but I read what you said about failing transfer. I just completed my second IVF and I feel very much like I can't do it again. The first time I was in your shoes. Nothing was even beginning to fertilize then low and behold out of 3 eggs one fertilized late on the second day. It ended up not growing after that and all was cancelled. I was a wreck. Fortunately I work for the school system and this was this summer and I had time. Now however for my second time I am back at work. I got a lot further and I had hope. I went through all and the transfer too. I had 2 eggs transfered on Oct 9th Yesterday I was informed it did not work. After the first failure I did not believe I could feel this much despair again, now however I think it will never go away. With us we had a low sperm count and virtually no mobility. I forget what it is called but they put my husband under and took his sperm this time and low and behold 4 fertilized eggs. I was so sure I was pregnant. Now the heartbreak is overwelming. With no hope at all and a pregnant coworker to see every day I dont know if I can do it. i don't know why you guys did not fertilize, but if it is male fertility rest assure there is a solution to that problem..... C-Mag

10-30-2009, 02:24 PM	#5 (permalink)
C-Mag 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Florida Posts: 8	Response. Hi there, A few days time and I do feel better. I am not feeling hopeless anymore. I have been praying that things worked out for you and I will continue to do so. I have been blessed with a lot of helping hands no where else would I have had so many put in my path to encourage me, I want to do the same for all those out there going thru the same. So I wish to know how it went... C-Mag

11-09-2009, 03:22 PM	#9 (permalink)
C-Mag 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Florida Posts: 8	Hope Well at least there is hope I know there are answers too but what they are I am not sure. It seems something so simple is so difficult. I will keep praying let me know how it goes... C-Mag

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10-07-2009, 08:56 PM	#2 (permalink)
TTCyears 200-299 post 4 of hearts Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Colorado Posts: 239	Dailystrength, I am sorry that no embryos survived to Day 5. I read lots of studies online and have concluded for myself that I will agree to a 5dt if my doctor recommends that. I found old studies that recommended 3dt, but with the advances in IVF technology that seems to be very outdated. I found a recent study about 3dt vs 5dt that was amazing, but I don't have it at my fingertips. Your dr's appt is soon. Let us know what s/he says. Hugs, ~Sharon

10-27-2009, 06:18 PM	#4 (permalink)
Dailystrength 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: May 2009 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 89	C-Mag, I am so sorry for your failed cycle. I am starting my next cycle now (in day 3 of stimms) and I am so fearful that it won't work again. There is an internal strength that made me do it again. I guess the hope that God has a plan and I have to try this to see if this is the plan. I read somewhere that infertility is like going though a major death or cancer due to the high level of stress. At least we know we are not alone in our grief. I hope you can feel better soon and look forward to your next steps to get to a BFP! My RE agreed to do a 3dt with 3 embryos this time thinking that low quality eggs were to blame for my 1st failed cycle. We are also using 2x the amount of meds to stim more eggs.

10-31-2009, 02:24 PM	#6 (permalink)
Dailystrength 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: May 2009 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 89	C-Mag- I will also pray for you in getting to a BFP. It is so good to have others to encourage you during this time. I know this site has helped a lot with feeling like I am not alone in the IF journey. I will hopefully have ER next Friday (Nov 6th). I will let you know how it goes. Do you know what your next steps are going to be?

11-04-2009, 07:01 PM	#7 (permalink)
C-Mag 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Florida Posts: 8	Daily Strength, still thinking of you and wondering how you are doing. I appreciate your words. I do not know what the next step for us will be I have a wedding to attend in another state at Christmas time and am concentrating on that right now, but I am at a loss how to proceed. We are considering embryo adoption. However we cannot afford another round of IVF so as this is how embryo adoption works I am not sure this is the best route either. I am still looking for answers. I trust however if we were not meant to be parents then my feelings would not be so strong to have a child. I have asked God to take that feeling away if things were not meant to be, but you can see I am still here. Let me know how it goes I will pray for you.... C-Mag

11-06-2009, 12:33 PM	#8 (permalink)
Dailystrength 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: May 2009 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 89	C-mag, I hope you find answers soon. God knows the desires of your heart and I pray that in time you will get your miracle. I don't know a lot about the costs of embryo adoption. Are there grants for IVF at your clinic? We are in our 2nd round of IVF and I thought it was going to be cancelled. On Tuesday the RE said the follicles were not growing and he had concerns. Today we went back in to see if they developed further, and there are 11 useable follicles so we are doing ER on Sunday. I am feeling anxious about the whole process, but I know that God is in control.

11-09-2009, 07:10 PM	#10 (permalink)
Dailystrength 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: May 2009 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 89	Yes, hope is all we have. It is like we want science to have all the answers, but it just doesn't work that way. That is what is so frustrating! I had my ER Sunday and the RE retrieved 5 eggs. The fert report today was that out of the 5, 4 were mature and 2 became embryos. I am planning on a 3dt on Wed. I will pray for you too!