Devasted!! Needing Advice

hopes33 · 05-20-2009, 08:57 PM

I just found out 3 days ago that my first FET failed. I had OHS so I had to freeze all of the embryos. I have unexplained fertlity and I was very hopefully maybe too hopeful. I am emotinally wiped out! I want to continue but each time it fails the disappointments gets heavier and heavier. I am also having so many side effects to the hormones. I cry in the middle of the day with no warning. Starting to get hard to tell if it is because I am so upset or the hormones. Making work really difficult! My DH think I should just be positive and get ready for the next cycle. I fear emotionally I can not take another failed cycle. I just do not know what to do???? Anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with a failed cycle?

mmi · 05-21-2009, 05:20 AM

It is so tough picking yourself up. When I look back at my infertility years, I wonder how we got thru it. All I can say is keep having hope. Don't ever lose site of your goal. I do know our long infertility journey made us much better parents. It's ok to feel sorry for yourself and be sad. Hugs to you and praying you get a quick success soon.

hopes33 · 05-21-2009, 07:50 PM

Thank you for the response. Yesterday was a really tough day! Today was a little better. I am trying to take it one day at a time.

It is funny the things people will say to you. Today a parking attendant was making chit chat and asked me if I had any children?
I said "no, not yet."
He said " you're a little late"

I did not know what to say to him. I couldn't believe he said that to me.

I am 33 years old and I look like I am in my late 20's early 30's. I told my DH and he was not interested in my story at all. He just said the man was crazy and told me to let it go.

I am trying to go to bed but I feel like I drank 4 cups of coffee. These medications really do a job on you both physically and mentally.

Fed'sWife · 05-27-2009, 05:24 PM

Hugs. BTDT
Keeping fingers crossed for you for next time.

hopes33 · 06-01-2009, 05:55 PM

Thank you! I am finally feeling better. We are going to try again with my next cycle. I think the hormones made my disappoinment event more intense! I have finally started to feel like myself again!!

PaigeQ · 08-09-2009, 09:42 AM

Hi - I just had a failed IVF cycle myself. I started to spot 4 days before the blood test and I had an idea that it hadn't worked even before that. Then, they still wanted me to go for the blood test and when I went in, the phlebotomist saw that I was coming for a pregnancy test ordered by a fertility clinic and she got all excited - I just started to cry. It took several days for me to start to rally - and now - a week later, I'm starting to feel better. It does really take a toll on you - but it gets better with time...take care and good luck with your next cycle.

05-20-2009, 08:57 PM	#1 (permalink)
hopes33 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: May 2009 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 5	Devasted!! Needing Advice I just found out 3 days ago that my first FET failed. I had OHS so I had to freeze all of the embryos. I have unexplained fertlity and I was very hopefully maybe too hopeful. I am emotinally wiped out! I want to continue but each time it fails the disappointments gets heavier and heavier. I am also having so many side effects to the hormones. I cry in the middle of the day with no warning. Starting to get hard to tell if it is because I am so upset or the hormones. Making work really difficult! My DH think I should just be positive and get ready for the next cycle. I fear emotionally I can not take another failed cycle. I just do not know what to do???? Anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with a failed cycle?

05-27-2009, 05:24 PM	#4 (permalink)
Fed'sWife 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 89	Hugs. BTDT Keeping fingers crossed for you for next time. __________________ DS 11 Miracle (from a previous marriage- We were told we'd MC him. He's here!He has Asperger's Syndrome and we wouldn't want him any other way than he is!! Hoping a decade later for another miracle. Gave EVERYTHING a rest for a while. Decided we were good as is for a year. Got accepted into IVF clinical study at RE and couldn't resist one more go of it.

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05-21-2009, 05:20 AM	#2 (permalink)
mmi 5000-9999 post king of hearts Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 6,471	It is so tough picking yourself up. When I look back at my infertility years, I wonder how we got thru it. All I can say is keep having hope. Don't ever lose site of your goal. I do know our long infertility journey made us much better parents. It's ok to feel sorry for yourself and be sad. Hugs to you and praying you get a quick success soon.

05-21-2009, 07:50 PM	#3 (permalink)
hopes33 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: May 2009 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 5	Thank you for the response. Yesterday was a really tough day! Today was a little better. I am trying to take it one day at a time. It is funny the things people will say to you. Today a parking attendant was making chit chat and asked me if I had any children? I said "no, not yet." He said " you're a little late" I did not know what to say to him. I couldn't believe he said that to me. I am 33 years old and I look like I am in my late 20's early 30's. I told my DH and he was not interested in my story at all. He just said the man was crazy and told me to let it go. I am trying to go to bed but I feel like I drank 4 cups of coffee. These medications really do a job on you both physically and mentally.

06-01-2009, 05:55 PM	#5 (permalink)
hopes33 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: May 2009 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 5	Thank you! I am finally feeling better. We are going to try again with my next cycle. I think the hormones made my disappoinment event more intense! I have finally started to feel like myself again!!

08-09-2009, 09:42 AM	#6 (permalink)
PaigeQ 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Connecticut Posts: 5	Hi - I just had a failed IVF cycle myself. I started to spot 4 days before the blood test and I had an idea that it hadn't worked even before that. Then, they still wanted me to go for the blood test and when I went in, the phlebotomist saw that I was coming for a pregnancy test ordered by a fertility clinic and she got all excited - I just started to cry. It took several days for me to start to rally - and now - a week later, I'm starting to feel better. It does really take a toll on you - but it gets better with time...take care and good luck with your next cycle.