3rd Failed IVF

sweetshell1978 · 05-14-2009, 04:09 PM

So I got my 3rd official BFN today from a fresh IVF we had 1 with FET! So a total of 4!! I just don't get it. I am so mad,sad,frustrated,jealous,painstakingly confused. I don't know how many more times I can put myself through this. Everytime, there is nothing wrong with my cycle and the RE is surprised Im NOT pregnant. I think all RE's read the same book on how to discuss a failed cycle with their patients. Sorry to be a downer

Just very disappointed and sad. I want to be a mommy so bad, I don't think I can ever give up.

Stacypit · 05-15-2009, 07:51 AM

I'm so sorry, I know exactly how you feel. Unfortunately, we have run out of money for now.

tuboby · 05-17-2009, 05:00 AM

I am very sorry! I just found out that I'm not pregnant after an IVF that had no reason not to work. I know how you feel.... heartbroken! I will pray for you!

sweetshell1978 · 05-18-2009, 09:13 PM

Tuboby- I am so sorry for your BFN with no explanation. My prayers are with you as well

Was this your first IVF?

tuboby · 05-19-2009, 02:31 PM

Yes, this was our first. We haven't decided where to go from here. Still trying to deal. Thanks for your prayers. I'll do the same for you!

SYC · 05-29-2009, 05:39 PM

Ladies,

I just finished my 5th IVF with a BFN so I am devastated as well. Here's my history:

IVF#1 - suspected ectopic
FET #1 - BFN
IVF #2 - biochemical
IVF#3 - BFN
Did a lap and hysteroscopy and determined to have a septate uterus. Had it resected and dr attributes most of my problems to the septate uterus. Relieved to find something
IVF#4 - BFN - I just don't understand it. We transferred four beautiful blastocysts and I thought for sure it was going to work this time. I'm at my wit's end. Each time is just as devastating as the first! We haven't gone for our follow up yet. I've also been doing acupuncture and my acupuncturist is surprised it didn't work as he said my uterine environment was good. Why won't my babies implant????

Sorry but I really need to vent this out and I can't talk to my family and friends because they just don't understand.

We did conceive naturally prior to starting the IVFs via a different acupuncturist only to M/C at six weeks.....

This is all so heartbreaking...

tuboby · 05-29-2009, 06:27 PM

I'm sorry and I feel your pain! It's very hard to not understand! I'll pray for peace and comfort!

cookie2 · 07-01-2009, 06:13 PM

My heart goes out to you!! it is so painful and it does feel like no one understands. I am suffering through my 3rd mc after 5 fresh and 2 fet cycles so I totally understand how you feel.

05-14-2009, 04:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
sweetshell1978 100-199 post 3 of hearts Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Hayden, Id Posts: 118	3rd Failed IVF So I got my 3rd official BFN today from a fresh IVF we had 1 with FET! So a total of 4!! I just don't get it. I am so mad,sad,frustrated,jealous,painstakingly confused. I don't know how many more times I can put myself through this. Everytime, there is nothing wrong with my cycle and the RE is surprised Im NOT pregnant. I think all RE's read the same book on how to discuss a failed cycle with their patients. Sorry to be a downer Just very disappointed and sad. I want to be a mommy so bad, I don't think I can ever give up. __________________ Married to the love of my life TTC #1 for 9 long years IVF#1 2005 BFN Fet#1 2005 BFN IVF# 2 1/09 BFP Chem Pg IVF#3 w/ICSI 4/09 BFN Natural Miracle!! 2nd u/s 08/19 Last edited by sweetshell1978; 05-15-2009 at 09:07 PM.

05-15-2009, 07:51 AM	#2 (permalink)
Stacypit 100-199 post 3 of hearts Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: massillon, ohio Posts: 125	I'm so sorry, I know exactly how you feel. Unfortunately, we have run out of money for now. __________________ Me (37)Stacy DH (32)Michael TTC #1 since 2005 IUI #1 June 2005-BFN IUI #2 July 2005-BFN IUI #3 August 2005-BFN Lap October 2005 IUI #4 April 2006-BFN Lap August 2008-removed left tube (hydro) IVF #1 October 2008-BFN FET January 2009-Chemical IUI #5 with injectables-April 2009 BFN

05-17-2009, 05:00 AM	#3 (permalink)
tuboby 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Jacksonville North Carolina Posts: 6	sorry... I am very sorry! I just found out that I'm not pregnant after an IVF that had no reason not to work. I know how you feel.... heartbroken! I will pray for you!

05-18-2009, 09:13 PM	#4 (permalink)
sweetshell1978 100-199 post 3 of hearts Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Hayden, Id Posts: 118	Tuboby- I am so sorry for your BFN with no explanation. My prayers are with you as well Was this your first IVF? __________________ Married to the love of my life TTC #1 for 9 long years IVF#1 2005 BFN Fet#1 2005 BFN IVF# 2 1/09 BFP Chem Pg IVF#3 w/ICSI 4/09 BFN Natural Miracle!! 2nd u/s 08/19

05-29-2009, 06:27 PM	#7 (permalink)
tuboby 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Jacksonville North Carolina Posts: 6	:( I'm sorry and I feel your pain! It's very hard to not understand! I'll pray for peace and comfort!

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05-19-2009, 02:31 PM	#5 (permalink)
tuboby 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Jacksonville North Carolina Posts: 6	Yes, this was our first. We haven't decided where to go from here. Still trying to deal. Thanks for your prayers. I'll do the same for you!

05-29-2009, 05:39 PM	#6 (permalink)
SYC 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 1	Ladies, I just finished my 5th IVF with a BFN so I am devastated as well. Here's my history: IVF#1 - suspected ectopic FET #1 - BFN IVF #2 - biochemical IVF#3 - BFN Did a lap and hysteroscopy and determined to have a septate uterus. Had it resected and dr attributes most of my problems to the septate uterus. Relieved to find something IVF#4 - BFN - I just don't understand it. We transferred four beautiful blastocysts and I thought for sure it was going to work this time. I'm at my wit's end. Each time is just as devastating as the first! We haven't gone for our follow up yet. I've also been doing acupuncture and my acupuncturist is surprised it didn't work as he said my uterine environment was good. Why won't my babies implant???? Sorry but I really need to vent this out and I can't talk to my family and friends because they just don't understand. We did conceive naturally prior to starting the IVFs via a different acupuncturist only to M/C at six weeks..... This is all so heartbreaking...

07-01-2009, 06:13 PM	#8 (permalink)
cookie2 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: NJ Posts: 44	My heart goes out to you!! it is so painful and it does feel like no one understands. I am suffering through my 3rd mc after 5 fresh and 2 fet cycles so I totally understand how you feel.

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