What now?

O-town girl · 04-23-2009, 07:03 PM

TTC for ~3 years. Not only am I not ovulating (taking clomid for the 7th cycle), but my hubby also got a sperm analysis done and results are not good. I have a bleeding disorder which makes bearing children a high risk to begin with (it's a type of hemophilia). So where do you draw the line? Not to mention that we're both very private when it comes to this kind of stuff and we couldn't get more grief from the parents..."when are you going to bless me with a grandchild?," or "the only thing your father wanted was to be a grandfather." I mean, the severe guilt....my dad died 2 years ago at age 52 and that's all that my mom lives for now...the idea of something to live for like a grandchild. The pressure from the family is overwhelming, but the fact is that it's none of their business and it would be the worst idea to disclose our predicament to then. For the first time I'm starting to resent my family and friends. I cringe when I hear the news of parents having their second when we started trying well before anyone else. I pretend to be happy for them but I really resent them. Not to mention a close friend who "accidentally" got pregnant and doesn't want it. I hate her now and she's been my best friend since I can remember. I'm sooooo discouraged and don't know how to handle the feeling of pain and loss. how to cope? please help.

budderfly002 · 04-30-2009, 02:43 AM

Maybe talking to your family and explaining to them what is going on will help them to understand ,so they would lay off you.Infertility is a very private thing.Sometimes if family is aware of the whole situation it helps them to understand that this is something out of your hands.Just a suggestion.I don't know your family,or the situation,but that is what I would do.SOme ppl mean well ,but don't always know the situation.I feel your pain.I have been married 8 years and have never been pregnant.My 2nd cycle of clomid was a bust.I started af yesterday and will begin cycle #3 on friday.As for other couple that concieve.I am happy for them,but human as well.I wish it was me that was pregnant.Maybe our day will come soon.We have to have hope.We're all human.We want what we want.PPl take for granted the fact that they are able to conceive.When they walk in our shoes only then will they understand the pain we feel .

04-23-2009, 07:03 PM	#1 (permalink)
O-town girl 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1	What now? TTC for ~3 years. Not only am I not ovulating (taking clomid for the 7th cycle), but my hubby also got a sperm analysis done and results are not good. I have a bleeding disorder which makes bearing children a high risk to begin with (it's a type of hemophilia). So where do you draw the line? Not to mention that we're both very private when it comes to this kind of stuff and we couldn't get more grief from the parents..."when are you going to bless me with a grandchild?," or "the only thing your father wanted was to be a grandfather." I mean, the severe guilt....my dad died 2 years ago at age 52 and that's all that my mom lives for now...the idea of something to live for like a grandchild. The pressure from the family is overwhelming, but the fact is that it's none of their business and it would be the worst idea to disclose our predicament to then. For the first time I'm starting to resent my family and friends. I cringe when I hear the news of parents having their second when we started trying well before anyone else. I pretend to be happy for them but I really resent them. Not to mention a close friend who "accidentally" got pregnant and doesn't want it. I hate her now and she's been my best friend since I can remember. I'm sooooo discouraged and don't know how to handle the feeling of pain and loss. how to cope? please help.

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04-30-2009, 02:43 AM	#2 (permalink)
budderfly002 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: arkansas Posts: 20	Maybe talking to your family and explaining to them what is going on will help them to understand ,so they would lay off you.Infertility is a very private thing.Sometimes if family is aware of the whole situation it helps them to understand that this is something out of your hands.Just a suggestion.I don't know your family,or the situation,but that is what I would do.SOme ppl mean well ,but don't always know the situation.I feel your pain.I have been married 8 years and have never been pregnant.My 2nd cycle of clomid was a bust.I started af yesterday and will begin cycle #3 on friday.As for other couple that concieve.I am happy for them,but human as well.I wish it was me that was pregnant.Maybe our day will come soon.We have to have hope.We're all human.We want what we want.PPl take for granted the fact that they are able to conceive.When they walk in our shoes only then will they understand the pain we feel .