IVF Failed

stellz · 04-23-2009, 05:35 PM

Well, I'm pretty new to this forum, and joined because I started my IVF journey a couple of weeks ago. Last night I got a call from my Doctor telling me my blood test had been negative, so my first cycle has failed. I had the perfect cycle with my ovaries responding great, my eggs fertilized and I had 2 strong blastocysts transferred, and none took.

I've had 3 failed IUI's and one failed IVF. I have another cycle that's been paid for, so I have another chance at IVF, but when I go through ART and get the negative news, I feel like the whole world crashes down on me and I feel like I can't go through it again.

It's so devastating!!! Thanks for reading my post.

hopeful88 · 05-01-2009, 05:04 PM

stellz - welcome to FT! am glad you found this forum. i joined last sept and the support system here is great!

I am so sorry about your failed cycle! What a slap in the face huh? I know the feeling of the world crashing down on you. I too have been down that ugly road too many times. Surprisingly you will find that you can pick yourself back up again! You may not feel it at this moment, but you will be able to move on to the next second IVF.

I had my second failed IVF this past January. Oh boy, it was devastating! Like you, it was a perfect cycle too. It hit me pretty hard. I was depressed for a month. :-(

you are smart to buy a package deal! i should've negotiated that with my RE. do you have any frozen embryos left? what is your diagnosis?

good luck to you!!!

SGMWife · 05-04-2009, 06:20 AM

I am the type of person where I will research something until I can't find ANYTHING else to read that is new!

So I researched the crap out of IVF. I knew IUI wouldn't work for us because of my endo. So I was ready. I knew about the IM's and I new it wouldn't happen in the snap of a finger. I also knew there was about a 50% chance that we would be pg. I was sooooo overly positive that this would work for us. My OB told me that my ovaries were beat to death, but my uterus was beautiful!! That gave me a false hope.

We failed our first cycle. I don't need to tell you what went through my mind. All the woulda, shoulda, coulda's!

I am so sorry about your losses. Keep your chin up!! I wish we could all give you a big hug and tell you it will be ok! I know thats not a baby and I know that is more of a bandaid than anything, but at the time you are feeling lost in this world and like you failed something that wasn't your fault!!! It feels good to be hugged for that moment!

salcedo75 · 05-04-2009, 08:24 PM

i know how the devestation feels. i just got my bfn call today and i feel like my whole world is crashing down on me. my husband and i have a ds through and de and ivf 20 months ago. we tried with another egg donor for a second child in oct 2008 with no succes with the fresh cycle. had 4 frozen tried with 2 in 1/2009 and 2 on 4/23/2009 with no success so we have used all our frozen embryos. now we are trying to decide if we want another donor or to just stop and be happy with our ds.

04-23-2009, 05:35 PM	#1 (permalink)
stellz 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: San Diego, CA Posts: 19	IVF Failed Well, I'm pretty new to this forum, and joined because I started my IVF journey a couple of weeks ago. Last night I got a call from my Doctor telling me my blood test had been negative, so my first cycle has failed. I had the perfect cycle with my ovaries responding great, my eggs fertilized and I had 2 strong blastocysts transferred, and none took. I've had 3 failed IUI's and one failed IVF. I have another cycle that's been paid for, so I have another chance at IVF, but when I go through ART and get the negative news, I feel like the whole world crashes down on me and I feel like I can't go through it again. It's so devastating!!! Thanks for reading my post. Last edited by stellz; 04-23-2009 at 06:00 PM.

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05-01-2009, 05:04 PM	#2 (permalink)
hopeful88 100-199 post 3 of hearts Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Southern California Posts: 136	stellz - welcome to FT! am glad you found this forum. i joined last sept and the support system here is great! I am so sorry about your failed cycle! What a slap in the face huh? I know the feeling of the world crashing down on you. I too have been down that ugly road too many times. Surprisingly you will find that you can pick yourself back up again! You may not feel it at this moment, but you will be able to move on to the next second IVF. I had my second failed IVF this past January. Oh boy, it was devastating! Like you, it was a perfect cycle too. It hit me pretty hard. I was depressed for a month. :-( you are smart to buy a package deal! i should've negotiated that with my RE. do you have any frozen embryos left? what is your diagnosis? good luck to you!!!

05-04-2009, 06:20 AM	#3 (permalink)
SGMWife 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: NE right now Posts: 6	I am the type of person where I will research something until I can't find ANYTHING else to read that is new! So I researched the crap out of IVF. I knew IUI wouldn't work for us because of my endo. So I was ready. I knew about the IM's and I new it wouldn't happen in the snap of a finger. I also knew there was about a 50% chance that we would be pg. I was sooooo overly positive that this would work for us. My OB told me that my ovaries were beat to death, but my uterus was beautiful!! That gave me a false hope. We failed our first cycle. I don't need to tell you what went through my mind. All the woulda, shoulda, coulda's! I am so sorry about your losses. Keep your chin up!! I wish we could all give you a big hug and tell you it will be ok! I know thats not a baby and I know that is more of a bandaid than anything, but at the time you are feeling lost in this world and like you failed something that wasn't your fault!!! It feels good to be hugged for that moment!

05-04-2009, 08:24 PM	#4 (permalink)
salcedo75 100-199 post 3 of hearts Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: illinois Posts: 134	i know how the devestation feels. i just got my bfn call today and i feel like my whole world is crashing down on me. my husband and i have a ds through and de and ivf 20 months ago. we tried with another egg donor for a second child in oct 2008 with no succes with the fresh cycle. had 4 frozen tried with 2 in 1/2009 and 2 on 4/23/2009 with no success so we have used all our frozen embryos. now we are trying to decide if we want another donor or to just stop and be happy with our ds.