Where do I go from here?

whitney · 12-04-2008, 04:20 AM

I just had another failed IVF. I have approval for another fresh cycle, as I had none to freeze. I was wondering how long I should wait before starting again. My nurse said I could start bc pills as soon as I get my period. This seems a little soon to me! Any opinions or advice?

Whitney
3 IUIs, last one + but ectopic
1st IVF, DS 3/13/06
1st FET, + but ectopic
2nd IVF, negative

everhopeful24 · 12-09-2008, 01:59 PM

Hello Whitney,

My doctor told me I should wait a month and then could try IVF again.

Good luck

Gillian x

whitney · 12-09-2008, 06:43 PM

I am thinking about taking about two months to try and get myself geared up before trying again. I am just so tired and down about this whole thing! This is just so hard!

Little fluff · 12-10-2008, 02:05 AM

My clinic makes you have a rest cycle between treatments.

drag5_0s · 12-11-2008, 10:57 AM

Some places make you wait a month, some others let you jump right back in. If you think its too soon to do another cycle, then it is. You know youself better than anyone else does. Sometimes taking a break can do wonders!

I wish you the best in your upcomming IVF cycle!!

Lisa Marie

toniweston · 12-11-2008, 04:40 PM

first ivf 11 eggs retrieved 9 fertilized, 6frozen 2 tranfered. failed
fet 2 x 4day embryos. negative blood test.
I am shattered did not want to answer the phone, knew in my heart what the result was going to be doesn't stop the hurting though or the tears.feelings of despair,loss and failure. My nurse says hey "you have four frozen left" be happy.. ironic..... how do you smile? i wanted this baby so much.
i am 43 in june and my time is running out. have only been on ivf for the last 12 months. is thre any hope for me,for us?

armywife8799 · 03-14-2009, 04:56 PM

Hi guys,

I am new to the board, but just found this thread, and wanted to let you know I understand too. I had a failed IVF in Oct '08, and was devastated beyond belief. Considering that was the closest I had EVER been able to come at actually getting pregnant and having the baby we want. I was even more devastated when my RE said we had to wait 3 months between cycles. I wanted to go again right away. So we decided on January, then pushed it to February, then in the end we are actually pushing it until May of this year. I thought the second I heard the bad news that I wanted to jump back in and do it again. But in reality, I needed to give my body a break and give my emotions a break too. I needed the time to grieve and make sense of everything, and most of all, realize I have to take care of me first because rushing right back in, I know for me, would have been the wrong decision. In short, I would say give your body a chance to re cooperate, a month or so, and when you're ready again...you'll know it. Good luck!

brenda80 · 03-16-2009, 09:51 AM

Hello All:

I also did IVF in 2008. Transferred 2 embryos, on 5/21/2008 @ day 5 blast... No embies to freeze. (by choice, due to lack of knowledge) The 2ww was just torture... I finally got the phone call while at work, and was told by my nurse that it was a BFN... I felt my heart shatter into millions of pieces. I couldn't even talk, let alone grasp for air.... BTW, never thought it would be that hard... Boy was I wrong... So I called my DH, who also broke down... I felt horrible... I just walked out of my office and drove home.... God must've been the driver because I don't remember the ride home... Honestly, I never thought I'd get over it... Thankfully, after many prayers.... I now have the strength to try again... I started taking Provera yesterday to brinf AF back and will soon start BC.....

Good luck to all....

Stacypit · 03-16-2009, 09:59 AM

I am also dealing with failed ivf. I have had 4 iui's (2005 & 2006). One fresh ivf (2008) and one fet (2009). All failed. The last fet turned out to be a chemical. Now we are out of money for anymore ivf cycles and going back to iui with injectables. I am not mentally ready to move forward yet. I am still very frustrated and depressed that I have decided to take a break for a couple of months before trying again. After 3 iui's with injectables I am afraid we will have to call it quits. I dont know how I will go on if I cant even try anymore.

12-04-2008, 04:20 AM	#1 (permalink)
whitney Registered User Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Maryland Posts: 237	Where do I go from here? I just had another failed IVF. I have approval for another fresh cycle, as I had none to freeze. I was wondering how long I should wait before starting again. My nurse said I could start bc pills as soon as I get my period. This seems a little soon to me! Any opinions or advice? Whitney 3 IUIs, last one + but ectopic 1st IVF, DS 3/13/06 1st FET, + but ectopic 2nd IVF, negative

12-11-2008, 10:57 AM	#5 (permalink)
drag5_0s 900-999 post jack of hearts Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Moving to Ft. Lee Virginia!! Posts: 913	Some places make you wait a month, some others let you jump right back in. If you think its too soon to do another cycle, then it is. You know youself better than anyone else does. Sometimes taking a break can do wonders! I wish you the best in your upcomming IVF cycle!! Lisa Marie __________________ Me (26) DH (27) married 5yrs!! Initial appt in May @ Womack! Hopefully starting 7th d/s IUI in June @ Womack

12-11-2008, 04:40 PM	#6 (permalink)
toniweston Registered User Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: townsville queensland Posts: 3	blood test negative first ivf 11 eggs retrieved 9 fertilized, 6frozen 2 tranfered. failed fet 2 x 4day embryos. negative blood test. I am shattered did not want to answer the phone, knew in my heart what the result was going to be doesn't stop the hurting though or the tears.feelings of despair,loss and failure. My nurse says hey "you have four frozen left" be happy.. ironic..... how do you smile? i wanted this baby so much. i am 43 in june and my time is running out. have only been on ivf for the last 12 months. is thre any hope for me,for us?

03-14-2009, 04:56 PM	#7 (permalink)
armywife8799 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: NC Posts: 49	It's hard... Hi guys, I am new to the board, but just found this thread, and wanted to let you know I understand too. I had a failed IVF in Oct '08, and was devastated beyond belief. Considering that was the closest I had EVER been able to come at actually getting pregnant and having the baby we want. I was even more devastated when my RE said we had to wait 3 months between cycles. I wanted to go again right away. So we decided on January, then pushed it to February, then in the end we are actually pushing it until May of this year. I thought the second I heard the bad news that I wanted to jump back in and do it again. But in reality, I needed to give my body a break and give my emotions a break too. I needed the time to grieve and make sense of everything, and most of all, realize I have to take care of me first because rushing right back in, I know for me, would have been the wrong decision. In short, I would say give your body a chance to re cooperate, a month or so, and when you're ready again...you'll know it. Good luck!

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12-09-2008, 01:59 PM	#2 (permalink)
everhopeful24 Registered User Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: UK Posts: 1	Hello Whitney, My doctor told me I should wait a month and then could try IVF again. Good luck Gillian x

12-09-2008, 06:43 PM	#3 (permalink)
whitney Registered User Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Maryland Posts: 237	I am thinking about taking about two months to try and get myself geared up before trying again. I am just so tired and down about this whole thing! This is just so hard!

12-10-2008, 02:05 AM	#4 (permalink)
Little fluff 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Albury NSW - Australia Posts: 1,908	My clinic makes you have a rest cycle between treatments.

03-16-2009, 09:51 AM	#8 (permalink)
brenda80 200-299 post 4 of hearts Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Maryland Posts: 260	Hello All: I also did IVF in 2008. Transferred 2 embryos, on 5/21/2008 @ day 5 blast... No embies to freeze. (by choice, due to lack of knowledge) The 2ww was just torture... I finally got the phone call while at work, and was told by my nurse that it was a BFN... I felt my heart shatter into millions of pieces. I couldn't even talk, let alone grasp for air.... BTW, never thought it would be that hard... Boy was I wrong... So I called my DH, who also broke down... I felt horrible... I just walked out of my office and drove home.... God must've been the driver because I don't remember the ride home... Honestly, I never thought I'd get over it... Thankfully, after many prayers.... I now have the strength to try again... I started taking Provera yesterday to brinf AF back and will soon start BC..... Good luck to all....

03-16-2009, 09:59 AM	#9 (permalink)
Stacypit 100-199 post 3 of hearts Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: massillon, ohio Posts: 125	I am also dealing with failed ivf. I have had 4 iui's (2005 & 2006). One fresh ivf (2008) and one fet (2009). All failed. The last fet turned out to be a chemical. Now we are out of money for anymore ivf cycles and going back to iui with injectables. I am not mentally ready to move forward yet. I am still very frustrated and depressed that I have decided to take a break for a couple of months before trying again. After 3 iui's with injectables I am afraid we will have to call it quits. I dont know how I will go on if I cant even try anymore.