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Old 01-30-2009, 07:18 PM   #1 (permalink)
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She refused to sign the papers but was willing for me to bring the baby home and take care of her and love her and she would just get her once and awhile when it fit into her schedule!!!!! I refused to do it and
It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life to pick up the diaper bag, the blankets and walk out of the hospital!
I have cried a bucket of tears and think there is an ocean still in me but I know it is the right thing. I also know she cannot take care of that baby and nor does she really want to but she said she just can't sign the papers. She said, now get this. "We can share her with you having her the majority of the time and that she would try to help us out when she can financially!" These are the words she uses often when we were on the phone and this is what I want to repeat back to her, "Girl, are you trippin?" So she was going to live with us, and we would provide 100% for her but she could just come and get her when she wanted to play Mommy! She's trippin!
So once again this family has burned me.
She's very upset right now because her boyfriend is leaving her over this. But he's leaving because we had a plan and SHE changed it. He also knows they aren't even making it with the two they have and she's adding a third!

It's just sooooooooooo sad! I just wish for once I could have a baby and not have to worry if I will bring it home. I wish that I could freely tell ppl without the fear that it won't happen. I wish I could set up a crib and decorate a room and know that when I am in the hospital that I am bringing the baby to home to go in that crib.

Can you stand one more reason why I am hurting and pissed? She kept the name I chose...Karrington. I went over there today to talk to her and when I left...she put the baby in the carseat and put it in a corner so she could go talk to her boyfriend while he packed!

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Old 01-30-2009, 11:22 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I am so sorry to hear this report. You are in my thoughts.
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Old 01-31-2009, 07:37 AM   #3 (permalink)
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I am soo very sorry. And keeping the special name you choose?!! Add more salt to the wound.
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Old 01-31-2009, 08:03 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Ohhh...I'm so sorry. Just love and hugs from me. And remember that you can come here and vent and work through this all you need to.

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I'm really really sorry. And why do I have the feeling she will be calling you for help soon? You have such a big heart, but you did what you need to to protect it. Hugs.
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I am so so sorry. Adoption is such a roller coaster. I know there is nothing I can say that will make it hurt less, but please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so so sorry.
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Oh my I am so sorry. I wish I could take the pain away. hugs to you..
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