Forum: Failed Adoptions

Edited to add: It has been another year. I still miss this little Boy more than words can say. Happy 4th Birthday :bday4: my sweet Karsten. I hope you get all the presents and love your heart desires. _____________________________________________________________ I write this now,...

To make a long story short: DH and I have 3 beautiful children and our family is complete. We are blessed beyond belief. In July of 2002 we were blessed by the miracle of adoption with our DS. In May of 2004 we had to give back our second DS when his BF decided to parent after 24 hours. ...

I see there's not much activity here but I thought I'd give it a go. We were in the adoption process for a year and a half and had four situations not work out at various stages. One of them was what I guess you'd call a failed adoption, in that the mother changed her mind two days after the...

hi i am not sure where i should be. i am thinking of placing a child. confused about with who.

Last Monday, my husband and I received the phone call we had been waiting 2 yrs for. A healthy caucasion baby boy had been born ina hospital 2 hours away. The birth mother didn't hold him or name him. We drove on the icy roads to get him. We were told to think of a name, so we named him Ryan...

I need some colorful words to put here... She refused to sign the papers but was willing for me to bring the baby home and take care of her and love her and she would just get her once and awhile when it fit into her schedule!!!!! I refused to do it and It was the hardest thing I have ever done...

My fiancee and I started looking into adoption about 6 months ago (right after I was told I may never have children of my own). At 25, that's not something you want to be told, but I was able to pick myself up and move on, convinced that I could love a child not biologically mine just as well as I...

I thought this was very interesting reading & thought I would share! Keri COPING WITH A FAILED ADOPTION-Tips for keeping the dream alive after a crushing disappointment. 1. Allow your friends to help you.

A year ago I decided that I wanted to adopt two wonderful boys that I met at work that were currently in foster care. However, after finishing the homestudy the boys were placed with another family. They have been gone five months and I can't seem to stop crying and I can't seem to move on with...

We had a very emotional 24 hrs as we were called on Monday morning about a baby girl (born Monday a.m.). We got all the info about the mother and the baby and the agency thought she would sign relinquishment on Wedn. morning. However, by Tuesday 1pm the SW called us to tell us the mother had...

Hello, I have volunteered to help out as a BC on this board & would like to introduce myself. My name is Keri and I have a 5 year old DS via open adoption. I found FT in 1998 while looking for information on Premature Ovarian Failure. I did one DE (using my sister's eggs) IVF in 2001 which...

A friend of mine wrote this for those who have lost pregnancies, or babies, or who never could get pregnant at all - I know it was hard to sit in church and hear the praise for all the moms. I know it hurt when they called up the youngest and oldest moms, or handed out flowers to them, and you...

My husband and I had the fairtale adoption story. We walked into an agency and became the only African-American Adoptive Parents working with the agency. There were no African-American birth mothers, but they did have bi-racial babies (caucasian mom/AA Dad) and we were ok with it. 2 days after we...

Well it has been 7 years......Seven years since my son was born( adopted)...You get the gest of where I am going. His name was Nicholas..We called him Nick. We had him 5 days and the bm changed her mind. IT is so hard on me...My heart aches for him and I just feel like our family should have him...

i never thought i would post this but our adoption has failed and we wont be getting our little girl now she bm decided to raise her in jail. i dont know what to do with myself right now. the bm's mom even had the nerve to call me and ask for everything she had bought back including the crib,...

Hi, I haven't posted here for a while. We adopted our daughter, domestically 4 1/2 months ago. Birthmom gave a fake name and identifying information for the birthfather, and it was published like that in the newspapers. Obvisiously nobody came forward, and it was a secret pregnancy throughout from...

I am done playing the victim role in this situation I have moved on to the anger and the fact that if I see a few certain people who actually happen to be family members I may actually hurt them! DH and I are childless and really want to change that.. Minding my own business not even considering...

I'm not sure if I'm writing this in the correct forum, so I'm sorry if this offends or upsets anyone. Here's my story..... My husband and I are were matched with a birthmother last November through our adoption attorneys and a facilitator. WE met with the birthmother, took her to dr...