HELP, ds hates going to school but a great student once in school

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HI, I am been struggling with my 5 yo ds to get him into class, once he is in class he is a great student, he has his twin brother in there and a friend from preschool too so he is not alone but not with me, although he is doing better, he still doesn't go without crying and staying in the back of the room until he calms down, we have been going through this since the start of school in Aug, at first, he would be totally out of control, I couldn't even keep him in class, the vice principal who is also physiologist kept him with her in her office for 5-10 min until he calmed down, they always made me leave, so I called his pedi Dr and he told me that he is suffering from seperation anxiety and for me to go to class with him for 30 min for the first week, 20 for the 2nd and 10 for the 3rd, but I didn't have to do that because he is actually staying in class but in the back but geeze, when will he just go in like the other kids???? He went to preschool with only melting down the first day, but, the preschool he went to was a private Christian one that is very loving and gives kids hugs and smiles, etc, kindergarten is a whole different world, I think that is part of it, but I can't change that, I even swithed teachers thinking it was her but the other one isn't very "welcoming or smiling either" anyway, I was just wondering if anyone else has experienced this and how long did you have to go through it, I have tried many things to get him interested in going to no avail, thanks

[SgtMom]

I am sorry that you are going through this situation. It sounds to me like your ds is a very sensitive soul which is no doubt a good thing in other situations. My dd is not old enough for K yet but I know that it is a big transition for the kids. The K teachers are charged with getting the kids to sit in one place for longer periods (than in preschool) and listen to instruction. But it does sound like a psychological thing with your ds and I hope he learns soon that school is not a scary place! Good luck and sorry I dont have any advice, just empathy.

Take care,
Kate