Question for DE recipients/IM/IF's

[DBee]

I went to my RE's office this morning to meet with my co-ordinator and get my meds. While I was in the waiting room a man started chit-chatting with me. I told him I was doing IVF and was there for bloodwork and meds. He started telling me EVERYTHING. His wifes struggles and their journey through IVF and how they were using a egg donor and my heart stopped. He was telling me how the Donor Co-ordinator told them about a donor that looked just like his wife and how they picked her based on her history and looks. The dates and timing was all the same for me being matched. Something told me I was their donor. I didn't know what to do or say. Then he said "Wow, you kinda look like my wife, that's why I looked at you when you walked in, hope you didn't think I was being creepy." I almost passed out. All I kept thinking about was how nice he was and how special their family was going to become. He said a few things about everything being so anon it was and he wanted to atleast know a little bit more about their donor. I stutted and stammered about my treatment and lied about doing a mock cycle. I didn't know what else to say! As a DE recipient would you have wanted me to say something or left it alone? I just let it go and really wasn't sure what the appropriate thing wouldve been to do. I wouldve felt ok introducing myself and meeting them. I would just be so curious to know if their cycle worked. I just would want to know that my donation answered their dreams. What would you do? If you had a chance encounter would you ask someone if they were your donor. I smiled at him before I left and he had this look on his face like "OMG she is our donor." I then ran like the wind for my car! LOL. It made my day and so much more excited for my cycle.

[rjc0704]

OMGosh! WHAT an awesome story! MOST of us would give dearly for an experience like that!!! But, understandably, you just dont know how people would react, so you were right to follow your instincts on that one. Just the "knowing" look on his face when you left is priceless.

4 pages in there is HARD TO WAIT thread I have been with a year. It has recipients who are preg, and various stages of cycles. A dear friend there recently had her ET and is the agonlizing 2ww. Her DH went the day of retrival to do his thing and saw the donor by chance because she was holding the gift bag they had for her. He contained himself but he and his wife were so excited that he seen her and that she looked like she made it through everything comfortably and seemed happy.

[DBee]

Awwww that's such a sweet story about your friend and their donor. I bet he almost wanted to jump through his skin. I knew on my previous donation so there wasn't a lot of mystery behind it, it was funny if anything else. There are plenty of jokes during family reunions. My family is very open so we all know inside the family of course. My Uncle (who is older and doesn't get the whole IVF thing) called to ask me to bring some eggs over during Thanksgiving. I asked him why he didn't just go to the store if I brought some they would've been bad by the time I made it upstate. His reply "Well your Aunt said you were donating eggs to her so I figured you could get them cheaper from the farm than the store and they would be better eggs anyway." I'll wait for the ba dump dump......I then had to explain that my eggs were to help her have a baby not to cook with. He still didn't get it. LOL. Why does she need eggs to get pregnant? I love my family. LOL

I was reading some of the above threads and a few women are doing their cycles right around the time I'm doing my donation and it makes me wonder if they are my intended recipients. I'll be thinking of everyone as I cycle!

DBee