Donor Egg Program

crystal07_11 · 09-08-2008, 02:24 PM

I was just hoping for some advice on people that gave donor eggs with IFV. My husband and I are thinking about doing that with IVF, but it is a little rocky on how sure we are if we can do it emotionally. Someone please share, need good advice.

**BC-donor** · 09-10-2008, 12:01 PM

I'm not a donor, but as a recipient, I want to thank you for even considering doing this!!

Since I"m not saying this from a donor's point of view, if you look at your donation as a simple donation of a cell, maybe that will help you with the emotional aspect. You're not donating a baby, because as you know, without the egg being fertilized, it is nothing more than a cell. So, it wouldn't be like you were donating embryo's, where it's the beginning of a baby that you & your DH both contributed to. Does that make sense? I hope that is coming out the way I mean it to be coming out!!

Any way, I just want to wish you the best of luck with your decision!! If you were to do a shared cycle, where you'd donate 1/2 of your eggs that are retrieved, then the cost of your cycle is discounted AND you get the satisfaction of knowing that you're giving someone who is in need of donor eggs the chance at having the baby thtat they've been dreaming of having!!

Good luck to you!!

crystal07_11 · 09-10-2008, 07:13 PM

Yes, that does make sense and help me out a little. And I am glad you were a recipient and everything went well for you. One question though, do you know what would happen if lets say I only have three eggs that were retrieved, then what would happen. How would you divide only three eggs?

rjc0704 · 09-14-2008, 06:24 AM

crystal - Very nice of you to share your cycle. It really is a great gesture and it benefits everyone financially. With regards to the egg sharing, you may speak to your RE and request a minimum that you are willing to share. For example, if you want to ensure you have 4 mature egg, you could request that if you don't get atleast 8 mature eggs, then you won't share and the other recipient will be cancelled. Most clinics have a minimum and if that isn't met, they will cancel recipients

cs1984cs · 09-19-2008, 04:15 PM

From a recipients perspective here:

After months of refusing to do DE-IVF b/c it was not my genetic material, rather than thinking in terms of cells, it was only when we thought in terms of parenting... did we want to be parents or not?... that we actually made the leap.

It's an emotional journey... we put three cut off dates, so to speak, when we started. We said we'd stop if one of the following was reached:

1. we'd started to feel it financially
2. one of us cracked emotionally
3. I set one of my birthdays as a time limit

It gave us peace of mind that we set an end to it no matter what, but it wasn't an easy decision.

Check this book out: Mommies, Daddies, Donors, Surrogates by Dr. Diane Ehrensaft

No other like it.

09-08-2008, 02:24 PM	#1 (permalink)
crystal07_11 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Ohio Posts: 73	Donor Egg Program I was just hoping for some advice on people that gave donor eggs with IFV. My husband and I are thinking about doing that with IVF, but it is a little rocky on how sure we are if we can do it emotionally. Someone please share, need good advice.

09-10-2008, 12:01 PM	#2 (permalink)
BC-donor 500-599 post 7 of hearts Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 587	I'm not a donor, but as a recipient, I want to thank you for even considering doing this!! Since I"m not saying this from a donor's point of view, if you look at your donation as a simple donation of a cell, maybe that will help you with the emotional aspect. You're not donating a baby, because as you know, without the egg being fertilized, it is nothing more than a cell. So, it wouldn't be like you were donating embryo's, where it's the beginning of a baby that you & your DH both contributed to. Does that make sense? I hope that is coming out the way I mean it to be coming out!! Any way, I just want to wish you the best of luck with your decision!! If you were to do a shared cycle, where you'd donate 1/2 of your eggs that are retrieved, then the cost of your cycle is discounted AND you get the satisfaction of knowing that you're giving someone who is in need of donor eggs the chance at having the baby thtat they've been dreaming of having!! Good luck to you!! __________________ Multiple DE cycles, finally successful

09-14-2008, 06:24 AM	#4 (permalink)
rjc0704 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Madison, CT Posts: 1,036	crystal - Very nice of you to share your cycle. It really is a great gesture and it benefits everyone financially. With regards to the egg sharing, you may speak to your RE and request a minimum that you are willing to share. For example, if you want to ensure you have 4 mature egg, you could request that if you don't get atleast 8 mature eggs, then you won't share and the other recipient will be cancelled. Most clinics have a minimum and if that isn't met, they will cancel recipients __________________ Rhonda & DH ttc#1: 5 long years 3 natural preg - all m/c before 8wks 1 IVF - cancelled-poor response 11/06 On to Donor Cycles: 3 DE-IVF - BFN BFN BFN Immunity Issues, IR, hydrosalpinx tube 4 totcyles FET #1 Cycle now IN PROGRESS ET est. Dec 7th

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09-10-2008, 07:13 PM	#3 (permalink)
crystal07_11 0-99 post 2 of hearts Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Ohio Posts: 73	Yes, that does make sense and help me out a little. And I am glad you were a recipient and everything went well for you. One question though, do you know what would happen if lets say I only have three eggs that were retrieved, then what would happen. How would you divide only three eggs?

09-19-2008, 04:15 PM	#5 (permalink)
cs1984cs Registered User Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 2,198	From a recipients perspective here: After months of refusing to do DE-IVF b/c it was not my genetic material, rather than thinking in terms of cells, it was only when we thought in terms of parenting... did we want to be parents or not?... that we actually made the leap. It's an emotional journey... we put three cut off dates, so to speak, when we started. We said we'd stop if one of the following was reached: 1. we'd started to feel it financially 2. one of us cracked emotionally 3. I set one of my birthdays as a time limit It gave us peace of mind that we set an end to it no matter what, but it wasn't an easy decision. Check this book out: Mommies, Daddies, Donors, Surrogates by Dr. Diane Ehrensaft No other like it.