Everyone seems to get pregnant around me. Need support.

[msshino]

I just can't believe it. Everyone get pregnant around me and I can't escape it.
My husband is infertile but does nothing about it but takes vitamins and here I am going to doctor's appointments, getting tests done and researching my butt off. I get so angry that no matter what I do, I get passed up by all. I know many will say to just get over it, but no matter how hard I try, it's just harder and harder to swallow as time goes on.

Anyone else feel the same way? We are going through an adoption process right now but we won't know the time frame nor is anything 100%. So again, we're waiting but I can't seem to give up on my fertility. But the more I see the endocrinologist and talk to my RE, the possibility of getting pregnant just seems so small.

What keeps everyone here going? Many are going through so much and I just would like to know the secret to going on. Deep down, I really just want to keep trying the fertility treatments but I'm getting scared that the truth will arrive, that no matter how hard I try, it just won't happen.

Sorry for the long post, I had to vent. The ladies here are the only ones that are so supportive.

Shino

[jennsmith7926]

I feel the same way. I am married and my husband and I have been going through the infertility process. We have male factor as well, and I also have my husband on 4 vitamins a day. Everyone is pregnant around me it seems my best friend just had her baby 4 months ago, one she didnt even want they already have 2 and didnt want anymore. Its hard but we just have to keep on hoping and praying that one day it will be us. I myself am going through the adoption process last thursday I got a call to come pick up a 4 1/2 month old and when we got there they decided to keep the baby it was a very hard and trying time but I am trying to stay positive. Its hard I know.

[didy]

Shino, going through infertility is so hard. You are not alone feeling that everyone around you is pregnant or can easily get pregnant or get pregnant by accident. It seems that the people who don't want to get pregnant are able to get pregnant so easily.

I am a lot older than you - 47. I started infertility treatment when I was 28. My DH and I adopted our 2 children, a boy and a girl, in 2001 when I was 40. I am still going through IVF with donor egg. My heart doesn't want to stop even though I have 2 beautiful children. I stopped the treatment after we adopted and started again last fall. That was the biggest mistake. I wasted almost 8 yrs by not trying ivf. So, follow your heart. You are still young. If you strongly want to experience pregnancy, keep going even after you adopt.

Good luck.

[cc81]

I completely understand... I just found out today that my cousin is pregnant.. It killed me. I cant seem to stop crying today. When my aunt broke the news to me i hung up on her. I could not deal with that.

We are also dealing with M/F issues. We are in the middle of a IUI cycle using donor sperm. I get poked and prodded every other day. I am so resentful at times that my DH does not have to deal with anything i am dealing with. RE visits... blood tests ultrasounds.. Mood altering hormone meds! all of that awful stuff. DH tries to be supportive but he will never completely understand. Which drives me nuts sometimes.

I just keep telling myself "One day at a time." even that is so hard for me to swallow.. because with all the stress it seems as if my time will never come. We will all get through this.. somehow.

[BC-donor]

Shino I don't know what your DH's issues are, but have you only done IUI's? If so, perhaps the time to consider moving on to IVF is here. Your odds of getting pg are much, much higher with IVF than with IUI. With IUI's, as you know, you have NO idea if the eggs are even being fertilized or not, nor do you have the opportunity to have a specialist choose with embryo's are the healthiest & best looking ones to transfer back to you!!

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Dealing with IF is NEVER easy. During all of our years of ttc, we had all of our younger cousins getting married AND getting pg & everyone just kept looking at us, asking "what are you waiting for??!!" (no one knew that we were dealing with IF issues)

The thing that keeps most of us going is the fact that if we give up, the odds of ever being able to experience pregnancy, childbirth & breastfeeding go to 0. So, at least for us, that is what kept us going.

Hang in there & NEVER apologize for venting & needing a shoulder to cry on. We are here to help get you through this so that you don't have to worry that someone won't understand- because we ALL understand your frustrations & fears!!!