My dh has a pretty strong family history of certain genetic medical problems. We still moved forward with having children as we figured that the children get half my genes anyway and no matter how healthy a couple is, there is always a risk of passing down anything. We figured the risk was not big enough to worry about basically.
Well now, dh has suggested we use donor sperm. He lost his brother a couple of years ago and had already lost his mother when he was a baby. These are things that are wrong that you generally do not find out you have until older. DH has suggested that with donor sperm, maybe the children would be happier and healthier, etc. But his real issue is, I think, possibly that he hates having to go in and give his donation when we do the IUI. He has said it is humiliating and that he thinks he has faulty sperm anyway and so on. (he does have low morphology on the percent, but he has a high sperm count so it all works out).
I am starting to wonder if dh is right. If maybe we should consider donor sperm and remove the risk of the next baby turning older and becoming sick. His mother died because of a combo of 2 major genetic illnesses and his brother died from just the one. The one his brother died of, dh has, just much more mild, and dh has much better control of it. But it is not something pleasant to have. (the disorders are Epilepsy and bipolar...DH's mother had both and failed to take her meds for the Epilepsy during a depressive phase and as a result, had a seizure and died. DH's brother committed suicide. DH has bipolar, but it is mild enough that he can take basic control of it, but he hates the depressive times, but he does very well in his career and makes good money and gets by much better than his mother or brother, now our first born is 13 and having to start seeing a doctor for depressive issues. the concern is that this is being passed down from dh's family)
SO...under these circumstances...would you consider donor sperm?
Thanks in advance for your nonjudgemental help.












