Were U successful w/ DSIUI?

bebeblues · 09-25-2007, 05:27 AM

If so, does your baby look like you or the donor?

If the baby looks like the donor (presumably), is it weird for you? Was it weird on the day the baby was born?

I'm not even close to pg w/ a donor baby, just curious, reading the book Helping the Stork and its freaking me out a little bit.

I guess I'm hoping that if it ever happens that the baby would look like me.

Let me know.

TIA, Bebe

shopgirl · 09-25-2007, 09:08 AM

We were successful with our first try with DIUI. We are completely male factor.

Our son looks like my husband but has some of my traits. People make comments how much he looks like my husband, but people see what they want to see.

Once we got pregnant we were so thrilled to be pregnant that I honestly thought of the baby as "ours". Our son is 2.5 yrs and we forget that he is from donor, honestly.

The day he was born wasn't weird at all. It was very special for us all.

We are trying for a third with a different donor.

GinaB · 09-25-2007, 09:24 AM

Hi Bebe,

We have a 13 month old dd from a donor. So many people comment that she looks like dh more than I. Its odd, but she does look like him, and we didnt use the photomatching option. Her birth wasnt weird at all. It was very natural, and dh bonded with her right away, and she's still a daddy's girl. We're now 7wks pg from diui, using the same donor.

Hope that helps, and good luck to you!!!!

Sony · 09-25-2007, 09:24 AM

When the baby gets here, you won't care who he/she looks like. One of my dd's look like me, the other doesn't...no difference. Even if conceived in the old fashioned way, you have no guarantee who the baby will look like (may even look like old uncle Henry who you never even knew) that is the beautiful thing about genetics. Who my girls look like is sooooo not even an issue now, even though I do understand where you are coming from because I wondered too before I had them.

Danasingle · 09-25-2007, 12:09 PM

Hi Bebe!

I have a sister and a brother and I'm fond of saying the 'only thing we have in common is my parents.' LOL Siblings not looking alike or like their parents is so common that I don't hear people commenting much about it.

My eldest looks a lot like my Mom, though now she is older, her mouth and chin look like the donor. My youngest so far, again, looks like my mother. My looks are about half and half both my parents. Both girls inherited my eyes, one hazel like mine and the other brown, but both have the dark rim around them.

Intestingly, I received an adult photo of my children's donor when my eldest was over two. His eyes and eyebrows look amazingly like our family's. I had a blurry photo of the donor as a toddler and he looked NOTHING like he did as an adult!

I've conceived 6 times with this donor and praying the next time is another keeper.

Pictures of people are one thing, but it is the expressions on their faces and mannerisms that make them come alive. Many of these they 'learn' from their parents as they grow up.

Freaking out a little is normal. I did too, once it looked like one of my pregnancies would stick. I re-read the donor profile and said a few times 'I don't remember reading THAT!' LOL

Dana
CD5 of Clomid DIUI

nelly07 · 09-25-2007, 05:58 PM

Just wondering if there is anyone out there doing DIUI's who is either single or partnered with another woman?

Danasingle · 09-25-2007, 06:22 PM

I'm single---until I meet Mr. Right.

Why do you ask? Are you single? or is your partner a woman? There are a few of both all over the FT boards.

I sometimes get comments from women I meet (not in cyber friendships) saying it must be so hard being a single parent, etc.

I'm always surprised, because I don't think of myself that way. I think of myself as a Mother or a parent. Being single seems separate from that fact.

Dana

nelly07 · 09-26-2007, 12:38 PM

Hi-
I was only asking because I noticed that most posts I've read mention a "DH"... I never really see anything else like DW or DP, so I started to wonder....

My partner is a woman, which is why we're using donor sperm. I know it's very common but I'm having a hard time finding anyone else going through a similar situation....

How many children do you have Dana?

mmi · 09-26-2007, 01:02 PM

I got pregnant very easy once we went to donor. My oldest daughter looks just like me, but has dark brown eyes(like her daddy and the donor). My youngest looks very different from our first.... somewhat like my side, but probably got more donor.

People see whatever they want in a kid. On dh's side, some will say my oldest looks like HIS niece(where as, she really looks so much like me).... and others will say our youngest looks exactly like dh. ??? Noone knows we used donor and I doubt noone suspects it either.

I think the things most people look at is hair color, eye color and skin tone. Once your miracle is here, you truly forget the donor stuff. Not that you are not so grateful for their gift, but you are mom/dad and it just feels right. For us, we only wish we would have gone to donor so much sooner.

If you look around at other people and their kids, you will quickly see they are not all clones of their parents. Heck, I am sure there are probably some you know who are either ds or de babies... and noone knows.

good luck.

bebeblues · 09-27-2007, 05:43 AM

Wow-this is so great-you all are right-I won't even care as long as my prince or princess comes...I just found that a lot of people say that others make comments that their donor baby looks just like their DH.
I know I'll freak out and be so happy if i actaully get pg, which is not a gurantee, I already know.
Nelly, please feel free to post here.

Bebe

09-25-2007, 05:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
bebeblues 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,723	Were U successful w/ DSIUI? If so, does your baby look like you or the donor? If the baby looks like the donor (presumably), is it weird for you? Was it weird on the day the baby was born? I'm not even close to pg w/ a donor baby, just curious, reading the book Helping the Stork and its freaking me out a little bit. I guess I'm hoping that if it ever happens that the baby would look like me. Let me know. TIA, Bebe

09-25-2007, 09:08 AM	#2 (permalink)
shopgirl 300-399 post 5 of hearts Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 396	We were successful with our first try with DIUI. We are completely male factor. Our son looks like my husband but has some of my traits. People make comments how much he looks like my husband, but people see what they want to see. Once we got pregnant we were so thrilled to be pregnant that I honestly thought of the baby as "ours". Our son is 2.5 yrs and we forget that he is from donor, honestly. The day he was born wasn't weird at all. It was very special for us all. We are trying for a third with a different donor. __________________ shopgirl (39) 6 yr Daughter (IVF) 4th attempt 3 yr Son (DIUI) 1st attempt Trying for #3 (got the Donor Egg speech)

09-25-2007, 09:24 AM	#4 (permalink)
Sony 700-799 post 9 of hearts Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Sunnyville Posts: 717	When the baby gets here, you won't care who he/she looks like. One of my dd's look like me, the other doesn't...no difference. Even if conceived in the old fashioned way, you have no guarantee who the baby will look like (may even look like old uncle Henry who you never even knew) that is the beautiful thing about genetics. Who my girls look like is sooooo not even an issue now, even though I do understand where you are coming from because I wondered too before I had them. __________________ Sonja L. 8 years and growing too fast J. 4 year old spitfire Check out my Etsy shop for boutique childrens items www.beachbabydresses.etsy.com

09-25-2007, 12:09 PM	#5 (permalink)
Danasingle 5000-9999 post king of hearts Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Western Canada Posts: 8,321	children mentioned Hi Bebe! I have a sister and a brother and I'm fond of saying the 'only thing we have in common is my parents.' LOL Siblings not looking alike or like their parents is so common that I don't hear people commenting much about it. My eldest looks a lot like my Mom, though now she is older, her mouth and chin look like the donor. My youngest so far, again, looks like my mother. My looks are about half and half both my parents. Both girls inherited my eyes, one hazel like mine and the other brown, but both have the dark rim around them. Intestingly, I received an adult photo of my children's donor when my eldest was over two. His eyes and eyebrows look amazingly like our family's. I had a blurry photo of the donor as a toddler and he looked NOTHING like he did as an adult! I've conceived 6 times with this donor and praying the next time is another keeper. Pictures of people are one thing, but it is the expressions on their faces and mannerisms that make them come alive. Many of these they 'learn' from their parents as they grow up. Freaking out a little is normal. I did too, once it looked like one of my pregnancies would stick. I re-read the donor profile and said a few times 'I don't remember reading THAT!' LOL Dana CD5 of Clomid DIUI

09-25-2007, 06:22 PM	#7 (permalink)
Danasingle 5000-9999 post king of hearts Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Western Canada Posts: 8,321	children mentioned I'm single---until I meet Mr. Right. Why do you ask? Are you single? or is your partner a woman? There are a few of both all over the FT boards. I sometimes get comments from women I meet (not in cyber friendships) saying it must be so hard being a single parent, etc. I'm always surprised, because I don't think of myself that way. I think of myself as a Mother or a parent. Being single seems separate from that fact. Dana

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09-25-2007, 09:24 AM	#3 (permalink)
GinaB 900-999 post jack of hearts Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 937	Hi Bebe, We have a 13 month old dd from a donor. So many people comment that she looks like dh more than I. Its odd, but she does look like him, and we didnt use the photomatching option. Her birth wasnt weird at all. It was very natural, and dh bonded with her right away, and she's still a daddy's girl. We're now 7wks pg from diui, using the same donor. Hope that helps, and good luck to you!!!!

09-25-2007, 05:58 PM	#6 (permalink)
nelly07 300-399 post 5 of hearts Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Western Massachusetts, USA Posts: 322	Just wondering if there is anyone out there doing DIUI's who is either single or partnered with another woman?

09-26-2007, 12:38 PM	#8 (permalink)
nelly07 300-399 post 5 of hearts Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Western Massachusetts, USA Posts: 322	Hi- I was only asking because I noticed that most posts I've read mention a "DH"... I never really see anything else like DW or DP, so I started to wonder.... My partner is a woman, which is why we're using donor sperm. I know it's very common but I'm having a hard time finding anyone else going through a similar situation.... How many children do you have Dana?

09-26-2007, 01:02 PM	#9 (permalink)
mmi 5000-9999 post king of hearts Join Date: Jan 2002 Posts: 6,471	I got pregnant very easy once we went to donor. My oldest daughter looks just like me, but has dark brown eyes(like her daddy and the donor). My youngest looks very different from our first.... somewhat like my side, but probably got more donor. People see whatever they want in a kid. On dh's side, some will say my oldest looks like HIS niece(where as, she really looks so much like me).... and others will say our youngest looks exactly like dh. ??? Noone knows we used donor and I doubt noone suspects it either. I think the things most people look at is hair color, eye color and skin tone. Once your miracle is here, you truly forget the donor stuff. Not that you are not so grateful for their gift, but you are mom/dad and it just feels right. For us, we only wish we would have gone to donor so much sooner. If you look around at other people and their kids, you will quickly see they are not all clones of their parents. Heck, I am sure there are probably some you know who are either ds or de babies... and noone knows. good luck. __________________ 3 years and 15 medicated cycles(clomid, injections, iui's, ivf's, fet, you name it) and 2 angels before finally getting princess 1 (1999) 2 injection cycles for princess 2(2002) Truly miracles! "Life isn't measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away."

09-27-2007, 05:43 AM	#10 (permalink)
bebeblues 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 1,723	Wow-this is so great-you all are right-I won't even care as long as my prince or princess comes...I just found that a lot of people say that others make comments that their donor baby looks just like their DH. I know I'll freak out and be so happy if i actaully get pg, which is not a gurantee, I already know. Nelly, please feel free to post here. Bebe

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