So Sad Donor 2 Failed..

syme5 · 09-05-2007, 06:56 AM

Her drug test. I cant beleave this... Im so burnt out. First donor never called back, this donor was wonderful, but just found out yesterday she failed her drug test. WE were just getting ready to get our cycle calender, i have been sicker then a dog on these stupid birth control pills for 3 weeks, and now this.

$2500 dollars in testing, out the window, i told the de corninator, if she cant get a return de who has already passed her testing, that we want out, we do not have anymore money for any more donors to be tested.. this is a mess!!! I mean, what now. I picked her out at the beggining of july.

My de cordinator said my re kept going back and fourth weather or not to use her or not because they were all so surprised because she was so nice, but they said that it wouldnt be right to me and my dh not knowing if she would be using drugs during stims... Im just wondering if it was weed???? They wont tell me.

Anyone have any advice, should i just give up, or wait for a return de to agree to another cycle, i asked if we would have to pay for another donor testing, and de corndinator wasnt sure, welp, thats jut out of the question, we dont have the money... and thats it.

so what should it do.. im so so sad, im ready to just let go of a 3 baby... and just be greatful of my 2 big kids and granddaughter. but my heart still wants a baby. any advice good or bad is welcome.

bethy (florida)

cs1984cs · 09-13-2007, 11:47 AM

Don't give up. We had to go through 7 EDs. Only the 7th passed all the tests and was able to move on to stimming etc and she delivered. It took us about 1.5 yrs to get this done. Unfortunately, donations are a waiting/patience game that will wreck your nerves if you let it.

You could also investigate donor embies which is a lot cheaper and could bring the baby home.

Good luck

CS

TreeHugger · 10-19-2007, 07:16 AM

lezzgurl, please don't barge in on others' threads with this. As someone posted in your thread, this is not the forum for this ... there are hardly any males on this board, and they are experiencing infertility with their partners.

TreeHugger · 10-19-2007, 07:17 AM

Bethy, I'm really sorry to hear your news. Do not give up; the right one will come along.

Best wishes,
Jennifer

09-05-2007, 06:56 AM	#1 (permalink)
syme5 Registered User Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Florida Posts: 7	So Sad Donor 2 Failed.. Her drug test. I cant beleave this... Im so burnt out. First donor never called back, this donor was wonderful, but just found out yesterday she failed her drug test. WE were just getting ready to get our cycle calender, i have been sicker then a dog on these stupid birth control pills for 3 weeks, and now this. $2500 dollars in testing, out the window, i told the de corninator, if she cant get a return de who has already passed her testing, that we want out, we do not have anymore money for any more donors to be tested.. this is a mess!!! I mean, what now. I picked her out at the beggining of july. My de cordinator said my re kept going back and fourth weather or not to use her or not because they were all so surprised because she was so nice, but they said that it wouldnt be right to me and my dh not knowing if she would be using drugs during stims... Im just wondering if it was weed???? They wont tell me. Anyone have any advice, should i just give up, or wait for a return de to agree to another cycle, i asked if we would have to pay for another donor testing, and de corndinator wasnt sure, welp, thats jut out of the question, we dont have the money... and thats it. so what should it do.. im so so sad, im ready to just let go of a 3 baby... and just be greatful of my 2 big kids and granddaughter. but my heart still wants a baby. any advice good or bad is welcome. bethy (florida)

09-13-2007, 11:47 AM	#2 (permalink)
cs1984cs Registered User Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 2,198	Don't give up. We had to go through 7 EDs. Only the 7th passed all the tests and was able to move on to stimming etc and she delivered. It took us about 1.5 yrs to get this done. Unfortunately, donations are a waiting/patience game that will wreck your nerves if you let it. You could also investigate donor embies which is a lot cheaper and could bring the baby home. Good luck CS Last edited by cs1984cs; 09-13-2007 at 11:51 AM.

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10-19-2007, 07:16 AM	#3 (permalink)
TreeHugger 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 1,328	lezzgurl, please don't barge in on others' threads with this. As someone posted in your thread, this is not the forum for this ... there are hardly any males on this board, and they are experiencing infertility with their partners.

10-19-2007, 07:17 AM	#4 (permalink)
TreeHugger 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 1,328	Bethy, I'm really sorry to hear your news. Do not give up; the right one will come along. Best wishes, Jennifer