Donor egg/sperm/embie successes (pg/children ment)

[CrystalAZ]

After seeing tab11's post about pregnancy updates, I thought a success thread was something that this board is missing! We have so many new members come here with doubts and fears about using a donor and I thought it would be great to see a thread with nothing but positive outcomes!

So if you've had children due to the decision to use a donor, please post your story!

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My story:

DH and I started ttc in January 2003. We tried for about 6 months before we talked to my OB. My periods were very irregular, so he put me on Clomid and I responded very well to it, ovulating regularly for the first time ever. But no pg. I tested every month for 8 months before we went back.

The OB suggested an HSG to check whether my tubes were open. I had it (ouch!!) and found out that my tubes were indeed closed. So the OB referred us to an RE down the street.

The RE said that IVF was our only option, so he tested my FSH (3.2) and DH's sperm (slightly low motility but definitely good enough) and we went forward.

After starting stims, we went in to check the follies. No matter how hard the RE looked, he couldn't find my ovaries. Finally, he found them - way up by my belly button! There were 22 follies, but unfortunately he had to cancel my cycle since there was no way to retrieve them. I was heartbroken. He told me that it may be possible to do a laparoscopic retrieval but that he didn't have the equipment to do it.

He did say that he could do a diagnostic lap to find out what was going on in there. We found that due to a surgery I had in 1993 to remove a large ovarian cyst, that my ovaries were pulled up and encased in intestines with scar tissue. He wasn't able to free them or to unblock my tubes.

So I went online and found an RE who said he could do a laparoscopic retrieval. We drove to Vegas to consult with him and when we got there, he hemmed and hawed and said "Welllll... *I* know how to do laparoscopic retrievals, but I don't have the equipment and my staff has never done one." So we had hit a roadblock again.

During a routine OB visit, my OB told me that a colleague of his just opened a clinic and that I should go talk to him. He told us that he could do another diagnostic surgery (open) and try to free the ovaries and move them down, OR we could go with donor eggs.

DH and I discussed it and since the surgery would possibly entail bowel reconstruction, we felt it was too dangerous to attempt. So after much heartache and grieving, I agreed to donor eggs. I was really sad at first, but then realized that this was a way to get to my goal of being a mother, and I would still be able to experience pregnancy and childbirth.

We used a donor agency recommended by the RE office and found a donor who looked somewhat like me, was smart, and most importantly to me, was doing it for more than the money.

The RE gave us an 80% chance of success, so we went forward happily anticipating a pregnancy. Then I was devastated when my beta came back "less than one".

We had 9 embies left, so we decided to do an FET. I was not as optimistic this time. We implanted 3 embies - 2 good ones and one that would have been discarded if we didn't implant it. I was shocked when my beta came back at 363! An ultrasound a couple weeks later confirmed that it was twins!

We were THRILLED! Then we went back for a third u/s after hearing the heart beats twice and found that one of the twins vanished. I was heartbroken AGAIN... yet still happy that the remaining twin was doing well.

The next few months were uneventful as I got sick, got sore boobs, and watched my tummy grow.

Then around 28 weeks, I started getting high blood pressure. It got worse and I was put on bed rest. Then it got WORSE and I stumbled into the hospital one night at 2AM with a blood pressure of 208/118.

After being air evaced to a better hospital, the high blood pressure turned into preeclampsia. I was told that it was a waiting game to see how far we could go before delivering. The baby was doing fine - it was all me.

Then on June 8, they gave me Cervidol to start softening my cervix. The baby didn't like that at all and his heart rate started decelerating every time I had a tiny contraction. They took the Cervidol back out and continued monitoring the baby.

At about 8AM on June 9, the doctor on call came in and strongly recommended a c-section since the baby's heart rate was still unstable. After a short discussion, DH and I agreed.

I was attacked by about 10 nurses and doctors, undressing me, dressing me, giving me shots, asking me questions... it was chaos! Then at 10:03 AM, my son Wyatt Douglas was born at 3 lbs 2 oz at 31 weeks 4 days. I was very groggy from meds but sighed with relief when I heard his cry.

I got to see him later that day and fell in love. He stayed in the NICU until July 6 - that was SO difficult.

Now, I am finally a mother. Nothing went the way I would have planned. Not my conception, not my eggs, not my pregnancy, and not the birth. But you know what? NONE of that matters. Not one bit. Because in the end, my dream came true. And when your dream comes true, the path you took to arrive there suddenly becomes SO unimportant.

My son is 100% mine. I never think about the donor (although I am eternally grateful for her contribution to us). He is mine. And I love him more than anything in the world.

See pics at Wyatt's page

Crystal

[Isabelle2006]

That is a wonderful story - you made me cry. I am so happy you were able to be a mom! It never goes the way you plan...but that's ok.

Thank you for sharing this!

Isabelle

[notreallyme]

Thank you. A very heartfelt, thank you! This is so hard...IF is so painful. I am trusting that the path I have to take to become a mother won't matter when I have my baby in my arms.

[Misty]

I will add to my story later when I have more time, but we have 3 year old triplets as a result of using donor sperm. My husband has Klinefelter Syndrome/azoospermia. I did 14 IUIs and 2 IVFs, all with donor sperm. None of the 14 IUIs ever worked. The 1st IVF was a chemical pg (transferred 2 embies) and the 2nd IVF was a success x3 after transferring 3 embies. We had 4 embryos frozen which we donated to another couple as our family is now complete.

[Annaandy]

God bless what a beautiful boy and loving story. Thank you for sharing. I am now 34 weeks prg w/ donor eggs and I am very grateful because i had the experience of pregnancy and soon to be a mom, which is all i ever wanted. I was diagnosed w/ POF at age 30 and was told I could not have children and didn't want to excpet but with the support of my DH we decided this was the best option. I had a baby girl at age 23 and she never made it out of the NICU so i feel blessed that I am this far with a beautful baby on his way. Whether genetics or not once you take him home he is yours forever to nutore and take care of, no one can replace that. I am just grateful for women out there who cares about infertiity and as Crystal mentioned not the money. Good luck to every one.

[janessa]

crystalAZ You are so right they did need some positive encouragement over here. Thank you for your story. I will add my story shortly I posted under Donor Egg/Sperm issues. You are so right once you have that baby nothing else matters. You are just grateful for the women that donate eggs and allow us to achieve are dreams. I have a 2 and a half year old from donor egg who rocks my world every day. I am just thankful for him everyday.

[BC-MAV]

9 years ttc with my own eggs and DH's jewels our SM gave birth to our miracle DS.... after 2 years of trying with her!!! Talk about perisitence. She really wanted to see us be parents. She is a wonderful fertile lady with a great DH and 5 beautiful kids. Since it took so long with her we deciced to change the variables and do donor egg with a SM. I had never been pregnant in my entire life so that's why we have done surrogacy. Our 1st time SM got pregnant with our 1st time ED's eggs and DH's jewels. We are grateful to have 2 wonderful boys and are thankful to the women that helped us!!!

[janessa]

BC-MAV great story thanks for sharing. The women that are in the transition stage leaning toward donor eggs need to hear more stories like ours. They really need to know that things will work out and there is a path to motherhood for them. Plus it alows them to get off the fertility rollercoaster and get there finances back in order and move on in life.

[janessa]

Notreallyme the fact that you got pg once is a really positive thing. At least you know that you can get pg that is really important. I have no doubt that you will get pg again. I know the pain is excruciating. But persistence is the key to your success. Keep the faith.

[NJHeidi.]

Ok, short and sweet b/c I'm short on time but I just HAD to post if we're sharing success stories. The bottom line: 7 IVFs w/ my own eggs - great response, great fert, lousy quality by day 3. Of the 7 transfers, 2 were + but both ended w/ no baby (1 chem, 1 early mc). 1 donor cycle bfn. Then everything fell into place: 1 donory cycle BFP resulted in ds (now 3.5 years old), 10 frozen embies. Thawed 3 embies, transferred all 3, along came dd (now 8 months old). There you have it. I still sometimes mourn the loss of my eggs (I think I'm unique in that - most people seem not to have that issue after having children w/ de), but my children are AWESOME and would not be here without de!!!!! (I gues it wasn't so short after all ).