Do not be afraid of donor egg... relating my thoughts!

[BC-MAV]

I was going through old emails 2 days ago that I saved and ED sent us some pictures of her recently. I am not good at the technology so I save the links to a folder so DH could help me order some pictures or save them to a file and print them.

I took both boys to the Dr. yesterday but it was only the baby that had a possable ear infection. Turns out his ears were clear and his chest was clear too so no concern.. just a cold and cough. The nurse had me fill out forms for BOTH boys because of their affiliatin with a local children's hospital to update records. It asks for family medical history. As I was filling out younger DS (born via DE) I was putting down my family history of various things and then realized he only has DH's family medical history and our ED's medical history. So I had to scratch out a ton of not so great things like cancer, cholesterol, etc....

It was very reassuring that I could think of our ED 2 days before the baby's appointment and how pretty she is and how smart she is and how glad I am that she is getting married. Then the next day I am writing down the baby's medical history and writing my own medical history instead of ED's!!!

So yes everyone you can temporarily forget the link your children have to your donor and at the same time still have thoughts of your wonderful donor and the children you have through them at the same time!

[tab11]

Thanks for your thoughts, BC-MAV. That's interesting. Sometimes I wonder if this will sort of linger over me every day through the years. Based on your experience, probably not. Not that I won't be forever appreciative to our donor, but it's not something I would want foremost in my mind every day.

When we had our psych-counseling, I told the therapist that I feel like I will always be scanning crowds, looking for our donor. She said I probably feel that way now because we are just starting this process and our donor is foremost in my mind (at the moment). She predicted that in time I won't even think about it.

[BC-MAV]

We have met our donor in person and have pictures of her so we "know her". We have her address too and phone number and email. We have only called maybe 2-3 times and emailed a few times. It's just nice to know and have the info when you want. Like now that DS is turning 2 I just want to say thanks and that I think she and her fiancee are gonna have beautiful children when they get married! And if she disocvers that her DH has some infertilty I would love to give our embryos to her (that were her eggs). I just don't know what to do with them.....

[sanddollar]

It is amazing isnt it dear Thank you for posting as the IM cause I know many times when I post people feel threatened because I am a known donor and I am a big advocate of it.

Your ED sounds Amazing!!!