Thoughts on different donor for siblings (children and m/c mentioned)

[Danasingle]

Hi!

Looking for someone who has experience with this.

I only have one unit left of my children's donor. My very popular donor is only available for siblings---but there are many families (20?), so there are not many units left. The last three I bought were 'returned' from reserve. I'm spending about $4,000. on alternative tx to prevent another m/c. I'm of course praying my hard work and investment in alternative pays off with a healthy baby(ies) from my next cycle, but if not..........


Dana Single
ttc in Fall 07 @ 45 years
Breaking for alternative tx after fifth m/c

[BC-MAV]

I guess since you have children from your donor you feel some sort of affinity, connection, whatever you want to call it. Are you concerned you would feel differently about a future child conceived with another donor's sperm? I know it's different but DS #1 is completely our biology and DS #2 has none of my genetics. I feel the same about them both and love them dearly even though they were not born of my body. They are both different children... 1st DS is laid back, even keeled, sensitive, and not a rough house kind of boy. 2nd DS is exploratory, full of action but has a great attention span, and is a rought house typical boy. Still I love them both. I know it is not the experience you were looking for but they both have different genetics and I love them the same. I will say they BOTH look a lot like DH with the exception of DS #2's eybrows-LOL! Funny how I though our ED who looked a lot like me would perhaps result in a child that had olive skin, dark hair, dark eyes, etc... and it is the opposite: 2 faired skinned, blonde haired, light eyed boys!!! DH is fair and green eyes and red hair. Just rambling. Thought I'd add my .02. Hope others chime in with your situation of usuing another donor.

[CrystalAZ]

Genetics have NOTHING to do with what makes a family. That's my opinion and if I were in your situation, I'd do whatever I needed to do to give me the best chance at another baby, whether it is by using the same or a different donor.

Crystal

[Danasingle]

Thank you for sharing your views. It will be interesting to see how this plays out. I will be cycling soon.

Dana Single
ttc #3 @ 45 yrs via Donor sperm IUI
Five Angels (2000 - 2007)

[shopgirl]

Our first child is our biological child through IVF/ICSI, our second is from donor sperm through IUI and we are now working on our third. Since our donor from our second child is no longer active and available we have chosen another donor. Ironically our second child looks just like my husband. Partly because people see what they want to and as far as everyone is concerned he is my husbands biological child. We love our children dearly and are so blessed to have them.

[bondgirl]

best of luck