Why???

Deno1977 · 02-18-2007, 06:34 PM

Why is it that when you have a hard time with fertility, people find it necessary to tell you every time someone is pregnant?? I finally just stopped my best friend, yes my best friend the one who knows what what we are going through, and told her to stop that I didn't care. I know it was "mean" but come on do I really need to hear this?

rb · 02-18-2007, 08:04 PM

It is possible that she was attempting to give you a boost of hope, not knowing the effect that that stuff has on folks struggling with infertility.

-rb

hbby · 02-18-2007, 09:32 PM

I don't think it was mean at all to tell her how you felt. The last thing I wanted to hear about when we were ttc is how easily others got pg. I think it is a good thing that you let her know.

maria2 · 02-18-2007, 11:00 PM

I found that people really didn't know what to say or not say unless I told them, so you did the right thing! Everyone's different. For me, while I didn't want to know about most pregnancies, I wanted to know immediately if it was a good friend, hated to be a last-to-know friend. There was a time during our six IF struggling years when people were being so sensitive that I didn't get invited to a couple of babyshowers for close friends. Then I told friends, you know, I want to be invited, and I don't want it to be a problem if I decline. They were glad I told them.
-maria2

02-18-2007, 06:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
Deno1977 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Fox Valley, WI Posts: 1,046	Why??? Why is it that when you have a hard time with fertility, people find it necessary to tell you every time someone is pregnant?? I finally just stopped my best friend, yes my best friend the one who knows what what we are going through, and told her to stop that I didn't care. I know it was "mean" but come on do I really need to hear this? __________________ DeNeil Rob ttc 6yrs 9iui all BFN IVF#1 BFP m/c @ 9weeks 3 FET all BFN IVF# 2 ER 6/29 ET 7/4 BFP!!! Beta#1 7dp5dt 72. Beta #2 10dp5dt 310 Beta#3 13dp5dt 1357 U/S on 7/31/09 It's TWINS!!

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rb 200-299 post 4 of hearts Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 226	People don't think. It is possible that she was attempting to give you a boost of hope, not knowing the effect that that stuff has on folks struggling with infertility. -rb __________________ 100% Mothra Compatible

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hbby 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 1,995	I don't think it was mean at all to tell her how you felt. The last thing I wanted to hear about when we were ttc is how easily others got pg. I think it is a good thing that you let her know. __________________ DH 29 / Me (EH) 28 Dx: POF - DE IVF Frat. twin boys born Aug. 27, 2005 at 32 weeks Q J

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02-18-2007, 11:00 PM	#4 (permalink)
maria2 Registered User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Oregon Posts: 477	I found that people really didn't know what to say or not say unless I told them, so you did the right thing! Everyone's different. For me, while I didn't want to know about most pregnancies, I wanted to know immediately if it was a good friend, hated to be a last-to-know friend. There was a time during our six IF struggling years when people were being so sensitive that I didn't get invited to a couple of babyshowers for close friends. Then I told friends, you know, I want to be invited, and I don't want it to be a problem if I decline. They were glad I told them. -maria2