Getting excited...but

KNITWIT · 02-06-2007, 07:34 PM

OK ladies, I'm new here. I have had 2 failed ivf's and one canceled cycle - considered a "poor responder". I've decided to do ED and am really excited - especially after reading so many of your stories. I am getting closer to actually being matched with a donor. Did anyone else find the process of selecting a donor a bit bizarre, though?

I mean, I laugh sometimes wondering if anyone would even select my eggs (if I was 25) after seeing my baby pics, adult pic, and reading about my pedigree? And these were the eggs I fought so long to use!!!!

Would love to hear your thoughts....

Also, what has been the most difficult part after you were matched?

Thanks,

Knitwit

CrystalAZ · 02-07-2007, 12:03 AM

Welcome!

The most difficult thing for me was my first DE BFN. I just ASSUMED that doing DE would equal instant success. Luckily for me, my FET was a ++, but that BFN was hard!!!

Yes, choosing a donor was bizarre. It was almost like online dating, where you say no to some people just by seeing a photo, and you are ruling out others based on other criteria. Weird.

But - I am pg because of her!!! So incredible, and I still giggle when I rub my belly and can't believe it is actually true.

You'll be here soon too!

Crystal

Annaandy · 02-07-2007, 06:44 AM

Welcome!!!

The hardest part for me was excepting that I had to use a DE but as soon as I excepted it was easier, I am forunate to be PG with my 1st try w/ DE I go for my first ultra sound today , but Crsystal had a funny but good point, it is like on-line dating. you want to pick the best one that matches

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But I am so thankful for her because I now have a child I am caring in my body and am able to raise so I do not regret it one bit!

Good luck.

DeeMarie · 02-07-2007, 08:13 AM

The hardest part for me too, same as Anna, was accepting that I had to go the donor route. But we're here and it doesn't matter anymore. I'm now in the waiting period, my pregnancy test is Monday. It's going to be really hard if I get a BFN, because, like Crystal said, you just assume that this will be it. But I do have other embies to fall back on. Anyway...choosing was pretty easy for us...we chose to do anonomys donor...I didn't want to see a picture. But I did have LOTS of info about her. It's funny, there was an article in Elle Magazine this month about it and the girl said "it was like her husband was cheating on her"...DH & I thought it was very funny. Anyway...good luck with the whole journey, it is exciting too! We're here for you!

Danasingle · 02-07-2007, 10:37 AM

I am single and use an anonymous sperm donor. I chose my donor seven years ago, but I still remember how 'strange' it felt. I would NEVER choose a man the way I chose a sperm donor!

It was fun though, because ruling out certain characteristics or health risks helped me believe I WOULD be a parent.

Have fun!

Dana Single - 44
ttc #3 via DIUI
CD10

cs1984cs · 02-07-2007, 03:00 PM

After being comfortable with the idea of using an ED, hands down, the WAIT is the worst part. It feels like I'm constantly behind the side line, waiting for the ED to clear a test or another. I have no expectation when it comes to me, but I have a lot when it comes to the ED.

The process of choosing is awkward at first, but after you go through a few ED, it just becomes second nature. This is the 7th ED we chose; all the others dropped out for a reason or another. We never made it to ER. We went to having strong feelings about characteristics to having very few of them we cared about except for race and wanted one that's healthy.

CS

02-06-2007, 07:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
KNITWIT Registered User Join Date: May 2006 Location: GEORGIA Posts: 155	Getting excited...but OK ladies, I'm new here. I have had 2 failed ivf's and one canceled cycle - considered a "poor responder". I've decided to do ED and am really excited - especially after reading so many of your stories. I am getting closer to actually being matched with a donor. Did anyone else find the process of selecting a donor a bit bizarre, though? I mean, I laugh sometimes wondering if anyone would even select my eggs (if I was 25) after seeing my baby pics, adult pic, and reading about my pedigree? And these were the eggs I fought so long to use!!!! Would love to hear your thoughts.... Also, what has been the most difficult part after you were matched? Thanks, Knitwit

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02-07-2007, 12:03 AM	#2 (permalink)
CrystalAZ 10000-15000 post ace of hearts Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Phoenix AZ & Flagstaff, AZ Posts: 10,835 Blog Entries: 455	Welcome! The most difficult thing for me was my first DE BFN. I just ASSUMED that doing DE would equal instant success. Luckily for me, my FET was a ++, but that BFN was hard!!! Yes, choosing a donor was bizarre. It was almost like online dating, where you say no to some people just by seeing a photo, and you are ruling out others based on other criteria. Weird. But - I am pg because of her!!! So incredible, and I still giggle when I rub my belly and can't believe it is actually true. You'll be here soon too! Crystal

02-07-2007, 06:44 AM	#3 (permalink)
Annaandy Registered User Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: FL Posts: 368	Welcome!!! The hardest part for me was excepting that I had to use a DE but as soon as I excepted it was easier, I am forunate to be PG with my 1st try w/ DE I go for my first ultra sound today , but Crsystal had a funny but good point, it is like on-line dating. you want to pick the best one that matches , But I am so thankful for her because I now have a child I am caring in my body and am able to raise so I do not regret it one bit! Good luck.

02-07-2007, 08:13 AM	#4 (permalink)
DeeMarie Registered User Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: New Jersey Posts: 304	The hardest part for me too, same as Anna, was accepting that I had to go the donor route. But we're here and it doesn't matter anymore. I'm now in the waiting period, my pregnancy test is Monday. It's going to be really hard if I get a BFN, because, like Crystal said, you just assume that this will be it. But I do have other embies to fall back on. Anyway...choosing was pretty easy for us...we chose to do anonomys donor...I didn't want to see a picture. But I did have LOTS of info about her. It's funny, there was an article in Elle Magazine this month about it and the girl said "it was like her husband was cheating on her"...DH & I thought it was very funny. Anyway...good luck with the whole journey, it is exciting too! We're here for you!

02-07-2007, 10:37 AM	#5 (permalink)
Danasingle 5000-9999 post king of hearts Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Western Canada Posts: 8,324	I am single and use an anonymous sperm donor. I chose my donor seven years ago, but I still remember how 'strange' it felt. I would NEVER choose a man the way I chose a sperm donor! It was fun though, because ruling out certain characteristics or health risks helped me believe I WOULD be a parent. Have fun! Dana Single - 44 ttc #3 via DIUI CD10

02-07-2007, 03:00 PM	#6 (permalink)
cs1984cs Registered User Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 2,198	After being comfortable with the idea of using an ED, hands down, the WAIT is the worst part. It feels like I'm constantly behind the side line, waiting for the ED to clear a test or another. I have no expectation when it comes to me, but I have a lot when it comes to the ED. The process of choosing is awkward at first, but after you go through a few ED, it just becomes second nature. This is the 7th ED we chose; all the others dropped out for a reason or another. We never made it to ER. We went to having strong feelings about characteristics to having very few of them we cared about except for race and wanted one that's healthy. CS