Brand New - What steps to take?

[decbrowneyes]

Good Morning! DH and I have decided to move forward with IUI using DS. I was ready months ago but I need my DH to be on board 100% before I could start anyting. Last night he told me he was ready! I am so excited and nervous all at the same time.

Now that we have decided to go this route...I am not sure what steps to take to get things rolling.
1st I made my annual female check up apt to make sure everything is in check. That is schedule for the 19th of Feb.
I have called for pricing on the IUI using DS.
Once I know that info I will schedule a consultation apt with the new Dr (we have never been here before, I was recommended by a friend).

So here are my some of my questions for my consultation. What kind of questions do I ask my Dr? I know they should cover most of it...but I have read about so many different things. What do you suggest?

I have no clue what blood types we are. Will the new Dr do this? Should I make an apt with my regular Dr to have this info checked out.

Ok...I think that is enough for now. This is all brand spanken new to me...so any suggestions would be great!

Thanks & Take Care!
Mindy

[maria2]

Hi there - congratulations to you guys for reaching a new phase of your infertility - no matter the time or the years, it feels good to move on!

I have only a couple of ideas for you. I would call to schedule a consultation with the new doctor ( an RE?) right now if you know who you are going to see because it can take quite a while to get an appointment. You can always cancel if there's some unforeseen need, but get something scheduled so you aren't waiting weeks or months when you want to get going! And when you call, I would ask about that very question - I'm about to see my doctor - is there particular information or question I should ask for there? I'm not sure you need your doctor to do anything - depending on who you'll see for the diui's, that office will probably take care of everything? Also, some clinics recommend or require that you to go to a counselor together (though ours didn't) to make sure you know about various issues relating to using donor gametes, so that could be more scheduling ahead before you enter treatment.

The blood type issue isn't an issue unless you don't plan to disclose to the child, or have not really decided about that. (if you don't disclose, it's better that the donor have the same blood type as you or your dh; I think I have that right).
Good luck!
-maria2
mom to David, 5, and Katie, 2, via diui

[decbrowneyes]

Ok...I have a silly question...

What is the difference between a Dr & an RE?

[maria2]

reproductive endochrinologist (sp?) specializes in treating infertility. Ask away!
-maria2

[decbrowneyes]

Thanks for the clarification! That helps!

One more question if NOT disclosing to child do I really need to pick a DS that has the same blood type as DH. Won't having my blood type really be enough (say for example if child find out in a chem lab class their blood type?)

Thanks for all the help!

[GinaB]

Hi Mindy, (pg and child mentioned)

Just want to congratulate you and dh on making the decision to use ds and forging ahead. I remember when my dh and I made that decision, I was happy to finally be moving forward! We also did iui with donor sperm. (and have a 5 mo old dd) We got pg on our first try, which we were excited about.
Maria mentioned helpful suggestions. I agree that its a good idea to schedule an appt with the RE, because sometimes it is harder to get in depending on how busy the clinic is. And yes, if you plan on not disclosing to the child you'd want to choose a donor with the same blood type. You will have some lab work done with the RE, and one thing they look for is your blood type.
Have you already been researching sperm banks? If not, we can suggest some for you. Just let us know!

Gina

[btvictim]

I just wanted to congratulate you on moving ahead. It is a very hard decision to make.

[Annaandy]

Wanted to welcome you and wish you luck!!!