Small update + OT trigs

[thebabyproject]

My donor is apparently CD3 today and made it through the first hurdle of the consult and baseline u/s. I'm CD21, so hopefully it won't be too hard to get our cycle's synced up when we get that far. I'll get her b/w tomorrow if I want it, though I'm still in PA.

My grandmother asked me to stay while my grandpa fades away. He won't make it through the weekend. I've been here 2 weeks already and it amazes me still how quickly he's slipped even though it amazes me he still is hanging in at all.

I know it's a little odd to be on a message board at a time like this, but for one, I'm exhausted because I'm on the 2 am - daytime morphine administration shift and I can't nap during the day and for two, it's very very quiet now that he doesn't talk, eat, move, drink, want to get up and need help, etc just sleeps relatively painlessly. I needed to pay some bills and it was nice to just be here and think of "normal" stuff.

Love to all,

Emily

[50/50]

So sorry to hear about your grandpa. (((hugs))).

Best of luck to you in your cycle! Hope you can get some rest.

[MommytoKamryn]

thebabyproject- so so sorry to hear about your grandpa. Let me know if there's something I can do for you.. My thoughts and prayers are with you all... Take care of yourself.
I know what you are going thru my grandpa died almost 4 years ago it was devastating on me. I still have a hard time. everything you said sounds exactly at the end with my grandpa but there are miracles too..

[cs1984cs]

Sorry to hear your grandfather is not doing well. It's not odd for you to be online; you still have to be in touch with the "outside" world which is waiting for you. I know how hard it is; you have my sympathy.

There has been some delays with my last donor since you last posted, i.e. had to find a new one, number 6 I think, I lost count, sad, eh? I'm waiting for my RE to review her health history to see if she can graduate to the next step (which is where yours is at) so it looks like I'm going to be trailing you.

When you said BW, if you want it, you mean the karyotype? Are you considering waiving it?

CS

[thebabyproject]

Home again.

First off, CS, we're not waiving the karyotype, this b/w was the regular CD3 b/w that they initially draw. I need to get a call into them to see where we stand on everything there.

Grandpa actually died later that night(Thursday, 8/17). It was peaceful and everyone was home. My cousins and one uncle had come to dinner, my other uncle and his wife had come after dinner, so all his living children and 3 of his 7 grandchildren were home with his wife. We were chatting and telling family stories while we each took turns checking in on him. My mom when she checked gave him a kiss and said "we're all here for you dad and we're all going to be here for mom too" and left his bedroom door cracked to let him hear.

When my aunt checked a little after 9, he was gone. We had an impromtu wake for him that evening. We all did a shot of scotch(which is HORRIBLE) in his honor and at one point someone ordered his favorite pizza, which before he had gotten sick he'd bring up on Thursday nights for whoever was home after fireman's.

So I'm sad and glad I was there and glad I could help and SO tired. The house is a disaster after letting DH be home alone that one week with 3 dogs, no food, and I'm just completely disoriented about where to even start after being gone 3 weeks.

Take care,

Emily

[cs1984cs]

I feel for you. The grieving process can be tricky.

I can relate leaving DH home alone with the pets. LOL It's double the work when I get back; my threshold for dirt accumulation is much much lower than his... by about a million years

The wait is the killer as your signature shows... I am looking at about 6 to 8 weeks before all is in order with ED.

[ms_sea]

So sorry to hear about your Grandpa.....After experiencing the same type of thing with my Dad this spring....I understand.....I hope you can find some rest and peace knowing that you were there for your grandma and grandpa...

Now...take care of yourself.....You need to be ready to be pg!!! Good luck!
Tracy

[thebabyproject]

I'm trying not to overreact, but this seems sort of silly to me.

A week or so ago I posted that my donor did CD3 bloodwork and u/s and did fine. This is true. She had good bloodwork and her u/s showed 9 antral follies.

I had spoken with the agency woman, but Friday I called for an update from the RE and today I get the voice mail that "She did fine on her u/s, b/w looked great, but at 9 antral follies, that's less than Dr. P likes so we need to re-do the baseline with her next cycle".

Ok, fine, guess another month won't kill me, but DUDE, the girl's TWENTY-ONE!

And yes, I know, he's looking out for my best interest, but it just seems sort of confusing.


Any thoughts,
Emily

[cs1984cs]

I know how you feel. My first reaction was that 9 is low until I finished reading where you said your RE isn't happy.

My RE turned down one of the ED I chose b/c she showed poor response with meds which is essentially what you're seeing here. I had to move on. Too much moola involved not to.

I am waiting for mine to start testing and pass it, too. In the grand scheme of things, it's not much time, but it is very difficult to come to term with it anyway.

Hang in there. You want the sure thing; sometimes it just means waiting a little longer.



CS

[thebabyproject]

Fifteen is the magic number, apparently. Amazing that they TAKE our money when we have less than that, isn't it.

I finally stopped playing phone tag with the DE coordinator. Right now we're thinking it could be a fluke of the u/s as she had it done off-site. They asked for a 3D volume of the ovaries, got a 2D picture instead, etc. As the donor is about an hour from the RE's office, they'll work it out to do it in Atlanta in September at their office. Even more glad I have a "local" donor now.

and if she doesn't pass, she doesn't pass and I can move on to the next donor. It's ok. Just wasn't what I wanted to hear.

Thanks CS. And thanks ms_sea for your condolences.

Emily