Secondary infertility using donor eggs

[gigi2]

This is my first post so here goes. I am 38 years old and I have 2 biological children my husband and I would really like another child. Unfortunately my only option is donor eggs at this point. Has anyone had any experience using donor eggs after having biological children. I feel selfish for some reason, like I should be content with what i have. also I would be working with Dr Schoolcraft in Denver at CCRM. Has anyone done a donor cycle with this clinic. If so how long did it take you to get a donor match? Any information would be greatly appreciated.
Angie

[Emily'sMom]

Hi Angie! Welcome to FT and the Donor Gamete board You'll find a lot of support and a wealth of information here! Well I'm not sure what you're "looking" for but I have a bio dd (4 y/o) and now have 6 month old b/g twins from donor egg I don't regret for one minute using donor eggs to add to our family!!!! Well if it makes you feel any less selfish, I have 3 blessings now and yet I still hope to have success with a future FET

I've heard of Dr. Schoolcraft but don't have any experience with them. Wishing you the best of luck in your journey and hope to "see" more of you around here

[gigi2]

Emily'sMom
Thank-you for responding. Donor eggs is so new to me. I never thought I would be faced with these types of decisions, but here I am. Can I ask you did you chose a known donor or an anonymous donor? I am considering using my sister, however she is 36.

[Emily'sMom]

We used a donor from our RE's pool. By doing so we had no choice but to have it an anonymous donation I know many wonderful ED's from a couple other boards I've been on for years (egg donors/surrogates) and would have preferred a known donation. However my dh wanted anonymous. I compromised on that aspect of the process b/c I knew he was making other "sacrifices" for us to try donor egg. Unfortunately I still struggle with that and feel like I sold my soul to the devil

Anyways, I think it's great that you have a sister that would consider being your egg donor, however you might be losing some of the benefits of using an egg donor due to her age My clinic's ED program accepts people from 21-32. My donor was almost 26 at the time of our cycle. There's another person on FT (I think she goes by SandyLI) that just has 3 children and she used 2 of her sisters for her ED cycles. Not sure how old they were at the time of their donation. You might be able to do a search and contact her. But she's probably pretty busy these days because she has newborn twins

Let me know if there's anything else I can help with.

[Laenae]

Hi Gigi

I have a biological DD who is 6 years old. I was married 14 years before she was born and most of that time was spent TTC. I had surgery to correct a septum as I had a bicornuate uterus. I also have a blocked right tube. We tried numerous IUIs and 6 IVFs after my DD was born with our own eggs, only to have miscarried twins which was utterly devastating for us. We did not want DD to grow up without siblings. I wanted the chance to become pregnant again, and DH and I both liked the idea of DE because the resultant baby would at least be 1/2 a blood relation to our DD.

The donor we chose was anonymous as we would not want it to be any other way. We went with an outside agency as our Clinic does not show you pictures of ED's in their donor pool. We have thought long and hard about it and have decided not to tell our baby about how he came to be. We do not want to make any distinguishment between him or DD. We do not want either one to feel differently or less loved. If we did not already have a bio child, perhaps our thinking on that would be different. Our circumstances are such that we are comfortable with our decision.

The first donor we chose was 21 and was a spitting image of my sister-in-law and could have been mistaken for her. That is why we first selected her. Unfortunately, our first donor's medical tests came back with results showing that she carried a genetic mutation for Tay Sachs Disease. We felt it was best not to persue a cycle knowing that our child might have a chance of being a carrier too. Our second donor was already a 4x successful donor and 22 years old. We did get to see many pictures of her as a child and adult and also several pictures of her immediate family. Our main concern is that she had the same blood type as me. While she did have many of the same features like me, our DS looks nothing like me, DH or the donor. DH, the donor and I tan easily. DS is fair and has blondish hair and beautiful piercing blue eyes. The donor and I have brown eyes and DH has green eyes. So, I am prime example that just because you chose a donor that looks like you or DH, it does not mean that the baby will turn out to look like either your DH or the donor.

I have 6 embies left over. Most likely we will not go for an FET, but have not yet made a final decision.

I am not familiar with your Dr. but wish you success with your pursuit of completing your family. Best of luck.