(children mentioned) In case you're feeling discouraged - about my kids

maria2 · 07-29-2006, 01:38 PM

I just wanted to post something about my children, 4 and almost 2, and both conceived via my eggs and two different donors.

It took us 3 years after a disasterous ICSI cycle to decide to use donor gametes to try to conceive our first child. Then, truth be told, I was sad when we couldn't conceive our second child using the same donor, worried, trepidatious, etc. I had so many worries that they would be so completely different, maybe not gel at all.

Now...They are such a unit! They play together, help each other, fight, tease each other, want each other around. The younger one plays horsey on the older one, they roll around on the floor together, they sing together, they build lego towers together, they each want to wake up the other if one is sleeping, when we're shopping alone, the older one looks for what we can buy his little sister.

I don't know, I'm just so incredibly greatful. Thought I'd post this for anyone in this situation, or for anyone needing a heartening tale of successful families using donor gametes. We spent 8 years, start to finish, searching for the right way to have our kids and boy did we find it. Positive thoughts to you all.
-maria2

CrystalAZ · 07-29-2006, 04:15 PM

I am one of those that believe that we all have the children we are meant to have, and whatever road we take to get there is always the right road.

I am very happy for you and your family!

Crystal

Julie_MA · 07-30-2006, 06:41 AM

Maria, thank you so much for posting your story. I'm currently in the 2ww of my 3rd diui. Each time I go in for a DI, I think what am I doing? Am I crazy? Am I REALLY going to try to do this? Will we ever feel like a "normal" family? This was the FIRST time that I confidently responded to my thoughts with, Yes!! And although our future family maybe different in some ways we'll all make it through this and be okay. It's so nice to hear stories like yours, where although you struggled to conceive your children--you did it and now it sounds like for the most part your family is experiencing many of the same joys and disappointments of a family who's children were conceived in the traditional manner. Your post came at the perfect time for me. Thanks again for sharing, for me your story brings hope, it means that there may just be a light at the end of this dark tunnel.

Julie

cs1984cs · 07-30-2006, 10:54 AM

Maria2,

Genetics is not the whole story; it with environemnt is the whole story and you just showed it. Our state of mind is what we make of it. Thanks for the reminder.

CS

07-29-2006, 01:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
maria2 Registered User Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Oregon Posts: 477	(children mentioned) In case you're feeling discouraged - about my kids I just wanted to post something about my children, 4 and almost 2, and both conceived via my eggs and two different donors. It took us 3 years after a disasterous ICSI cycle to decide to use donor gametes to try to conceive our first child. Then, truth be told, I was sad when we couldn't conceive our second child using the same donor, worried, trepidatious, etc. I had so many worries that they would be so completely different, maybe not gel at all. Now...They are such a unit! They play together, help each other, fight, tease each other, want each other around. The younger one plays horsey on the older one, they roll around on the floor together, they sing together, they build lego towers together, they each want to wake up the other if one is sleeping, when we're shopping alone, the older one looks for what we can buy his little sister. I don't know, I'm just so incredibly greatful. Thought I'd post this for anyone in this situation, or for anyone needing a heartening tale of successful families using donor gametes. We spent 8 years, start to finish, searching for the right way to have our kids and boy did we find it. Positive thoughts to you all. -maria2

07-30-2006, 06:41 AM	#3 (permalink)
Julie_MA Registered User Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 255	Maria, thank you so much for posting your story. I'm currently in the 2ww of my 3rd diui. Each time I go in for a DI, I think what am I doing? Am I crazy? Am I REALLY going to try to do this? Will we ever feel like a "normal" family? This was the FIRST time that I confidently responded to my thoughts with, Yes!! And although our future family maybe different in some ways we'll all make it through this and be okay. It's so nice to hear stories like yours, where although you struggled to conceive your children--you did it and now it sounds like for the most part your family is experiencing many of the same joys and disappointments of a family who's children were conceived in the traditional manner. Your post came at the perfect time for me. Thanks again for sharing, for me your story brings hope, it means that there may just be a light at the end of this dark tunnel. Julie Last edited by Julie_MA; 07-30-2006 at 06:49 AM.

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07-29-2006, 04:15 PM	#2 (permalink)
CrystalAZ 10000-15000 post ace of hearts Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Phoenix AZ & Flagstaff, AZ Posts: 10,835 Blog Entries: 455	I am one of those that believe that we all have the children we are meant to have, and whatever road we take to get there is always the right road. I am very happy for you and your family! Crystal

07-30-2006, 10:54 AM	#4 (permalink)
cs1984cs Registered User Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 2,198	Maria2, Genetics is not the whole story; it with environemnt is the whole story and you just showed it. Our state of mind is what we make of it. Thanks for the reminder. CS