Emailed our ED pictures of baby Archer!!!

[BC-MAV]

With evacuating TWICE, we do not have addresses and such, but I did have an email for our ED saved on DH's laptop. I sent pictures via email of Archer and ED says he's beautiful and at the same time "tooting her own horn" LOL! ED moved and she gave us her new address. I wonder if we should do anything else? We gave her a book of our city a few days before her donation when we met for dinner (coffe table type book filled with really nice pictures of where we live and architecture in our city) as a remembrance with a note inside from us.

Also I noticed she is donating again and am really curious. I would be discreet and since I have her address and phone, I might call to say hi and chat and tell her about how Archer is. At the same time I have considered asking whether she is going to donate again. If she says she already has donated I would say that's great you are helping out another couple. If she volunteered any further information like if the other couples want contact or pictures of Archer or whatever I would be open to that and interested. If she didn't then fine, that's her choice. What do you think of that approach. Keep in mind that we have met 2 times, talked on the phone a few times, and emailed a few times before the donation and during the pregnancy.

[genie]

I think your approach sounds reasonable. We've been in contact with our donor throughout the process but both she and I decided we'd end contact once the beta came back. I do not want to know if she donates again but we do plan on telling our child (assuming we are successful) about the how they came into the world.

Good luck with your decision.

[50/50]

CONGRATS on baby ARCHER!!! I think your approach sounds pretty good and if it's important to you I would go for it!

Good luck!

[DiIP]

Originally Posted by BC-MAV

Also I noticed she is donating again and am really curious. I would be discreet and since I have her address and phone, I might call to say hi and chat and tell her about how Archer is. At the same time I have considered asking whether she is going to donate again. If she says she already has donated I would say that's great you are helping out another couple. If she volunteered any further information like if the other couples want contact or pictures of Archer or whatever I would be open to that and interested. If she didn't then fine, that's her choice. What do you think of that approach. Keep in mind that we have met 2 times, talked on the phone a few times, and emailed a few times before the donation and during the pregnancy.

I think it is a good idea and a good approach! I know about my donor's surro baby and her subsequent pg and have gotten pics of all. I do believe that the donor's family and extended family as part of Lauren, so I like being able to see pics of everybody. We are planning to start the process of possibly meeting with our donor's mom (she lives in KY too) , so that is another interesting twist for us since starting this egg donor journey!

I don't see how it can hurt for you to at least leave the door open (notwithstanding that there are folks on this bb that would not even consider this type of arrangement, and that's ok too)...

Diana