Feeling really sad...

deeja · 09-26-2005, 10:53 AM

Well, thought I'd let you all know we got a BFN today!

It was a torcherous day...we were told we'd be called by 12:30 pm and when no call came by 1:05 DH called and we were told the RN would call us in another 10-15 mins. She called and delivered the sad news and told me my RE would call me later today/tonight.

The tears are pouring and when they dry, it is utter shock and anger! We have no embryos frozen so I suppose we'll have to let this sink in and explore our options.....talk to you all soon. Deeja

50/50 · 09-26-2005, 11:59 AM

My heartaches Deeja. I am so sorry it was not good news today. Please take care and keep us posted on your journey.

(((HUGS)))

Emily'sMom · 09-26-2005, 12:42 PM

Oh Deeja, I am so sorry. My eyes are filled with tears and my heart aches. I'm at a loss for words because I know there is really nothing I can say to ease your pain. Know that you're in my thoughts and prayers. Let us know if there's anything we can do for you.

((((HUGS))))

jlquilts · 09-26-2005, 02:24 PM

I'm so sorry that you received that news. Those calls are the worst. Do something nice for yourself.

genie · 09-26-2005, 02:30 PM

I'm so sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

buggybride · 09-26-2005, 03:06 PM

I'm so sorry

I'm new here, but everyone here seems so supportive, so please know that we are all here for you.

Shannon

Laenae · 09-27-2005, 05:49 AM

Deeja - I am so terribly disappointed for you. I was so hoping that you would get a BFP. Everything seemed to be going so well. :-( I can well imagine the upset and disappointment you are going through now. Please keep us posted on what your future plans are. There are so many unknown variables in these processes that we have no control over. I wish for your sake that things would have turned out differently.

My thoughts are with you. Mega

deeja · 09-27-2005, 11:32 AM

Hi and thanks for all of the kind words! It has been trying to say the least. I cried so hard and so much yesterday that I ruptured a vessel while blowing my nose and now I have an ear infection--oh joy!

My RE did end up calling and leaving us a message. We will speak live today hopefully. He did say that the only thing he can think of that was questionable was our "unproven" donor's egg quality issues...because the fertilization rate was markedly low...remember 24 mature eggs=4 embryos=2 blasts at transfer. So, from day one of fert, he said there may be something funky with her eggs...now he has to tell that poor girl! He did say that he thought if we had a different donor, we would have a different outcome. I'll probe him more later...maybe he means a "proven" donor.....now, DH and I just need to figure out how to finance an additional try. We are up to our you know what's in debt.....

I'll fill you in more later---so many thoughts racing thru the brain...I'm tired!

baby56 · 09-28-2005, 01:04 PM

Deeja, I'll keep you in my prayers. I'm sorry for all that you're going through right now. Keep your head up & think positive ~ we're all here for you!!
Belle

**BC-KarenS-MI** · 09-29-2005, 04:41 PM

I'm sorry I'm late in seeing this, but I'm so sorry Deeja.

Karen

09-26-2005, 10:53 AM	#1 (permalink)
deeja Registered User Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 182	Feeling really sad... Well, thought I'd let you all know we got a BFN today! It was a torcherous day...we were told we'd be called by 12:30 pm and when no call came by 1:05 DH called and we were told the RN would call us in another 10-15 mins. She called and delivered the sad news and told me my RE would call me later today/tonight. The tears are pouring and when they dry, it is utter shock and anger! We have no embryos frozen so I suppose we'll have to let this sink in and explore our options.....talk to you all soon. Deeja

09-26-2005, 12:42 PM	#3 (permalink)
Emily'sMom 5000-9999 post king of hearts Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 5,984	Oh Deeja, I am so sorry. My eyes are filled with tears and my heart aches. I'm at a loss for words because I know there is really nothing I can say to ease your pain. Know that you're in my thoughts and prayers. Let us know if there's anything we can do for you. ((((HUGS)))) __________________ Ellen Mommy to a sweet miracle - Emily- 3/02 1st DEIVF - TWINS!!!! - Alexander David and - Katelyn Rose Arrived at 35w on 2/6/06

09-26-2005, 02:24 PM	#4 (permalink)
jlquilts 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: PA Posts: 2,652	I'm so sorry that you received that news. Those calls are the worst. Do something nice for yourself. __________________ jlquilts Nicole and Janna 12/21/02

09-26-2005, 02:30 PM	#5 (permalink)
genie Registered User Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: ohio Posts: 300	I'm so sorry. You are in my thoughts and prayers. __________________ DS born March 6, 2007!

09-27-2005, 05:49 AM	#7 (permalink)
Laenae 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Blue State but Red State kind of Gal Posts: 2,691	Deeja - I am so terribly disappointed for you. I was so hoping that you would get a BFP. Everything seemed to be going so well. :-( I can well imagine the upset and disappointment you are going through now. Please keep us posted on what your future plans are. There are so many unknown variables in these processes that we have no control over. I wish for your sake that things would have turned out differently. My thoughts are with you. Mega __________________ Age 49/DH 45 - Married 24 yrs. K 02/19/00 (Clomid/C-Section) High Risk 12 IUIs/inject.; 6 IVFs; 1 FET; 1 M/C Twins M 11/10/05 (C-Section) High Risk "Live a good life; and in the end, it's not the years in a life that count...it's the life in your years!" Abraham Lincoln "Man is not free unless government is limited." Ronald Reagan


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09-26-2005, 11:59 AM	#2 (permalink)
50/50 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 1,927 Blog Entries: 18	My heartaches Deeja. I am so sorry it was not good news today. Please take care and keep us posted on your journey. (((HUGS)))

09-26-2005, 03:06 PM	#6 (permalink)
buggybride Registered User Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: MA Posts: 30	I'm so sorry I'm new here, but everyone here seems so supportive, so please know that we are all here for you. Shannon

09-27-2005, 11:32 AM	#8 (permalink)
deeja Registered User Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 182	Hi and thanks for all of the kind words! It has been trying to say the least. I cried so hard and so much yesterday that I ruptured a vessel while blowing my nose and now I have an ear infection--oh joy! My RE did end up calling and leaving us a message. We will speak live today hopefully. He did say that the only thing he can think of that was questionable was our "unproven" donor's egg quality issues...because the fertilization rate was markedly low...remember 24 mature eggs=4 embryos=2 blasts at transfer. So, from day one of fert, he said there may be something funky with her eggs...now he has to tell that poor girl! He did say that he thought if we had a different donor, we would have a different outcome. I'll probe him more later...maybe he means a "proven" donor.....now, DH and I just need to figure out how to finance an additional try. We are up to our you know what's in debt..... I'll fill you in more later---so many thoughts racing thru the brain...I'm tired!

09-28-2005, 01:04 PM	#9 (permalink)
baby56 Registered User Join Date: Aug 2005 Posts: 244	Deeja, I'll keep you in my prayers. I'm sorry for all that you're going through right now. Keep your head up & think positive ~ we're all here for you!! Belle

09-29-2005, 04:41 PM	#10 (permalink)
BC-KarenS-MI Board Coordinator Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Michigan Posts: 28,057	I'm sorry I'm late in seeing this, but I'm so sorry Deeja. Karen __________________ ttc #1 for 7 1/2 years ~ IVF #1, 6-93, cancelled; IVF#2/rescue ICSI- 7-99, failed ~(switched RE's) ZIFT/ICSI- 1-00, successful w/twins, lost 1 at 8w ~ ZIFT/ICSI #2, to try for #2- March '03- successful ~ GS- IVF #1, 7-05 failed. FET 10-05- BFP, m/c 5w5d

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