Finally some good news

GinaB · 09-10-2005, 10:22 AM

Hello!

Whew! I'm happy to report that my DH and I have made the decision to proceed with IUI using donor sperm. We've been struggling all summer as to what route to take next....we've done a lot of reading and researching. Yesterday we met with our priest and discussed the issue with him. He told us that using DS is okay and is supportive of this! My dh and I were both shocked-I don't think we really knew what to expect.

We need to save a bit more money until we can finally begin the procedure...we hope to begin in Feb/March. We are so excited that we've made the decision and are moving forward on our journey to having a family.

I have info on cryobanks so we are going to begin the search for a donor.

Thank you all for your support you've given over the last few months

Gina

infertile_frog · 09-10-2005, 12:17 PM

Thats wonderful to hear. We too are a Catholic family and kind of wondered what the churches view was on the subject. DH and I have been considering using DS as well. DH has a very low count. We have been trying with IUI's but it hasnt been working. I am interested in hearing more of what your priest had to say about it, if you dont mind sharing. I have been concerned that the church would see it almost like an affair. It seems silly though, seeing as you never even meet the person... =)

GinaB · 09-10-2005, 06:13 PM

Hi Infertile Frog,

Thanks so much for your reply!

Our priest said that the Catholic Church does not have an official stance on donor insemination. He said since we are a married couple and are practicing Catholics who tried to conceive naturally but were unsuccessful he has no problem with us using donor sperm. We specifically asked, "Would we go to hell if we use donor sperm?" He smiled and said "Absolutely not." In fact our priest has baptized a few babies who were conceived using DS. He was supportive and said the most important thing is being good parents and raising a child with good morals and Christian values.

Even though we are unable to use IVF since my DH has no sperm, we were curious about the church's position on IVF. He did specify that the church’s stance on IVF is not the same as donor sperm. The church believes that since embryos are discarded or have no chance of survival if implanted all at once is considered a form of abortion and thus not morally acceptable. We don’t agree with everything the church says but you had asked for what he had said.

Our opinion for what its worth, and not to offend anyone, is that you need to do what you and your spouse feel comfortable doing and fit into your morals and values. I hope that helped and you and your dh are able to soon have the family you want.

infertile_frog · 09-11-2005, 05:40 AM

Hello,

Thank you very much for your reply. It helps make the decision a little easier. You have definately not offended me. I appreciate the response.

Infertile Frog

**BC-donor** · 09-11-2005, 07:45 PM

Gina,
Congratulations on coming to that decision. It always feels really good once you've got a plan in place! Now you have something to look forward to & not just the hopes that it will happen!!

I hope that with the upcoming holidays that the time passes quickly & that before you know it, it'll be time for your cycle!!

g4ranny · 09-12-2005, 11:09 AM

Congrulations! Keep us posted. Will you be using IUI or ICI or IVF?

GinaB · 09-12-2005, 06:20 PM

We'll be doing IUI. We just need to save a bit more money and then we can start the procedure. Our goal is to have the first attempt in January. Now I have good motivativation to save

DH and I are just so excited....and releived that we made the right decision.
I'll be sure to keep you posted!! When I have any news I'll share.
I just ordered some books online about donor conception....so I'm anxious to read even more!

Thank you for all your thoughts

09-10-2005, 10:22 AM	#1 (permalink)
GinaB 900-999 post jack of hearts Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 937	Finally some good news Hello! Whew! I'm happy to report that my DH and I have made the decision to proceed with IUI using donor sperm. We've been struggling all summer as to what route to take next....we've done a lot of reading and researching. Yesterday we met with our priest and discussed the issue with him. He told us that using DS is okay and is supportive of this! My dh and I were both shocked-I don't think we really knew what to expect. We need to save a bit more money until we can finally begin the procedure...we hope to begin in Feb/March. We are so excited that we've made the decision and are moving forward on our journey to having a family. I have info on cryobanks so we are going to begin the search for a donor. Thank you all for your support you've given over the last few months Gina

09-11-2005, 07:45 PM	#5 (permalink)
BC-donor 500-599 post 7 of hearts Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 587	Gina, Congratulations on coming to that decision. It always feels really good once you've got a plan in place! Now you have something to look forward to & not just the hopes that it will happen!! I hope that with the upcoming holidays that the time passes quickly & that before you know it, it'll be time for your cycle!! __________________ Multiple DE cycles, finally successful

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09-10-2005, 12:17 PM	#2 (permalink)
infertile_frog Registered User Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Ontario Posts: 84	Thats wonderful to hear. We too are a Catholic family and kind of wondered what the churches view was on the subject. DH and I have been considering using DS as well. DH has a very low count. We have been trying with IUI's but it hasnt been working. I am interested in hearing more of what your priest had to say about it, if you dont mind sharing. I have been concerned that the church would see it almost like an affair. It seems silly though, seeing as you never even meet the person... =)

09-10-2005, 06:13 PM	#3 (permalink)
GinaB 900-999 post jack of hearts Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 937	Hi Infertile Frog, Thanks so much for your reply! Our priest said that the Catholic Church does not have an official stance on donor insemination. He said since we are a married couple and are practicing Catholics who tried to conceive naturally but were unsuccessful he has no problem with us using donor sperm. We specifically asked, "Would we go to hell if we use donor sperm?" He smiled and said "Absolutely not." In fact our priest has baptized a few babies who were conceived using DS. He was supportive and said the most important thing is being good parents and raising a child with good morals and Christian values. Even though we are unable to use IVF since my DH has no sperm, we were curious about the church's position on IVF. He did specify that the church’s stance on IVF is not the same as donor sperm. The church believes that since embryos are discarded or have no chance of survival if implanted all at once is considered a form of abortion and thus not morally acceptable. We don’t agree with everything the church says but you had asked for what he had said. Our opinion for what its worth, and not to offend anyone, is that you need to do what you and your spouse feel comfortable doing and fit into your morals and values. I hope that helped and you and your dh are able to soon have the family you want.

09-11-2005, 05:40 AM	#4 (permalink)
infertile_frog Registered User Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Ontario Posts: 84	Hello, Thank you very much for your reply. It helps make the decision a little easier. You have definately not offended me. I appreciate the response. Infertile Frog

09-12-2005, 11:09 AM	#6 (permalink)
g4ranny Registered User Join Date: Dec 2004 Posts: 317	Congrulations! Keep us posted. Will you be using IUI or ICI or IVF?

09-12-2005, 06:20 PM	#7 (permalink)
GinaB 900-999 post jack of hearts Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 937	We'll be doing IUI. We just need to save a bit more money and then we can start the procedure. Our goal is to have the first attempt in January. Now I have good motivativation to save DH and I are just so excited....and releived that we made the right decision. I'll be sure to keep you posted!! When I have any news I'll share. I just ordered some books online about donor conception....so I'm anxious to read even more! Thank you for all your thoughts