New Book out on Having your baby via Egg Donation

50/50 · 05-26-2005, 10:55 AM

Just thought some of you may be interested. I haven't read this yet so I can't recommend it but I participated in a RESOLVE "chat" session with one of the authors (Ellen Glazer) who seemed pretty knowledgable. I plan to order this on Amazon soon!

The book is called "Having Your Baby Through Egg Donation"
by Ellen Sarasohn Glazer, Evelina Weidman Sterling, Evelina Weidman Sterling.

Has anyone read this yet? Any comments from the peanut gallery?

50/50

Emily'sMom · 05-26-2005, 11:16 AM

Thanks for posting the book title. You'll have to let me know when it comes out. I'd be very interested to see it

50/50 · 05-26-2005, 11:18 AM

Sure.

It's actually already out. You can purchase it online at Amazon.com http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/AS...756209-5162522

50/50

deeja · 05-26-2005, 04:55 PM

50/50 and Ellen- Hi! I have read the book and I thought it was good! It was very insightful since I read it directly after my POF diagnosis and needed to sort through my DEIVF issues. The only thing that I found to be a negative (for me) was that the 2 authors stressed the importance of "open" or "known" donor and stressed that anonymity can harm your future offspring. This is where our thought processes differ, since we will use an anon donor. I also felt a little like they were implying that being a ED offspring meant that this would define their life or would be a central theme in their life. I am hoping that the story of how my dd or ds came to be will be one of love and great information but to have the confidence in myself and DH that we ARE Mom and Dad and "I grew you" so you're stuck with me attitude...."we just needed a few ingredients" and let's all get on with our lives. OK, until they are teenagers right?

Anyway, the book is a great read and overall, very good! Hope that helps!

50/50 · 05-26-2005, 05:13 PM

Thanks Deeja for the insight on this book. Hmm....not liking the "open" donor issue though or the central theme. I'll have to get it and read it soon. Thanks again!

PatJohnston · 05-28-2005, 09:03 AM

Actually, as the publisher of this book I have to clarify. The authors' position is far less about open relationships with donors than about open disclosure to the child!

Pat Johnston
Publisher: Perspectives Press, Inc.: The Infertility and Adoption Publisher
www.perspectivespress.com

deeja · 05-30-2005, 06:51 AM

Pat, to that I would agree! I also felt that the authors said that having an anon donor keeps the whole situation "shrowded" in secrecy. They did say that if at all possible they strongly suggest having a partailly known ED so you can make your child feel at ease by saying that you actually met and sat down with the ED and got to know her! I swear that's how it read but maybe I need to go back and refresh. I still walked away feeling very positive about the book, it helped me make the decision to use an ED, albeit anonymous

!

sarasage · 06-02-2005, 05:59 PM

Glad to hear about the book as we're trying to decide 2 things:

1) Known or anonymous donor
2) To tell or not to tell DE
It's more and more clear to me that telling is a good plan.

I have mixed feelings about meeting the donor.
A huge part of me wants to see the donor to know they're
real and not just a picture! But, then, the question is whether
or not to stay in touch. Because of the ability to save the
umbilical cord, we'll have the genetic info we need.

However, will DE want to meet them?

Pat: Is this covered in the book?

PatJohnston · 06-03-2005, 06:47 AM

What's covered is what we know kids being raised by non-genetic parents through other means have felt. We don't have grown ED kids to ask, of course

05-26-2005, 10:55 AM	#1 (permalink)
50/50 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 1,927 Blog Entries: 18	New Book out on Having your baby via Egg Donation Just thought some of you may be interested. I haven't read this yet so I can't recommend it but I participated in a RESOLVE "chat" session with one of the authors (Ellen Glazer) who seemed pretty knowledgable. I plan to order this on Amazon soon! The book is called "Having Your Baby Through Egg Donation" by Ellen Sarasohn Glazer, Evelina Weidman Sterling, Evelina Weidman Sterling. Has anyone read this yet? Any comments from the peanut gallery? 50/50

05-26-2005, 11:16 AM	#2 (permalink)
Emily'sMom 5000-9999 post king of hearts Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 5,973	Thanks for posting the book title. You'll have to let me know when it comes out. I'd be very interested to see it __________________ Ellen Mommy to a sweet miracle - Emily- 3/02 1st DEIVF - TWINS!!!! - Alexander David and - Katelyn Rose Arrived at 35w on 2/6/06

05-28-2005, 09:03 AM	#6 (permalink)
PatJohnston Registered User Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 52	Actually, as the publisher of this book I have to clarify. The authors' position is far less about open relationships with donors than about open disclosure to the child! Pat Johnston Publisher: Perspectives Press, Inc.: The Infertility and Adoption Publisher www.perspectivespress.com __________________ Infertility and Adoption Educator/Author Member of a widely adoption-expanded family

06-03-2005, 06:47 AM	#9 (permalink)
PatJohnston Registered User Join Date: Oct 2003 Posts: 52	What's covered is what we know kids being raised by non-genetic parents through other means have felt. We don't have grown ED kids to ask, of course __________________ Infertility and Adoption Educator/Author Member of a widely adoption-expanded family

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05-26-2005, 11:18 AM	#3 (permalink)
50/50 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 1,927 Blog Entries: 18	Sure. It's actually already out. You can purchase it online at Amazon.com http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/AS...756209-5162522 50/50

05-26-2005, 04:55 PM	#4 (permalink)
deeja Registered User Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 182	50/50 and Ellen- Hi! I have read the book and I thought it was good! It was very insightful since I read it directly after my POF diagnosis and needed to sort through my DEIVF issues. The only thing that I found to be a negative (for me) was that the 2 authors stressed the importance of "open" or "known" donor and stressed that anonymity can harm your future offspring. This is where our thought processes differ, since we will use an anon donor. I also felt a little like they were implying that being a ED offspring meant that this would define their life or would be a central theme in their life. I am hoping that the story of how my dd or ds came to be will be one of love and great information but to have the confidence in myself and DH that we ARE Mom and Dad and "I grew you" so you're stuck with me attitude...."we just needed a few ingredients" and let's all get on with our lives. OK, until they are teenagers right? Anyway, the book is a great read and overall, very good! Hope that helps!

05-26-2005, 05:13 PM	#5 (permalink)
50/50 Registered User Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 1,927 Blog Entries: 18	Thanks Deeja for the insight on this book. Hmm....not liking the "open" donor issue though or the central theme. I'll have to get it and read it soon. Thanks again!

05-30-2005, 06:51 AM	#7 (permalink)
deeja Registered User Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 182	Pat, to that I would agree! I also felt that the authors said that having an anon donor keeps the whole situation "shrowded" in secrecy. They did say that if at all possible they strongly suggest having a partailly known ED so you can make your child feel at ease by saying that you actually met and sat down with the ED and got to know her! I swear that's how it read but maybe I need to go back and refresh. I still walked away feeling very positive about the book, it helped me make the decision to use an ED, albeit anonymous !

06-02-2005, 05:59 PM	#8 (permalink)
sarasage Registered User Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 28	Glad to hear about the book as we're trying to decide 2 things: 1) Known or anonymous donor 2) To tell or not to tell DE It's more and more clear to me that telling is a good plan. I have mixed feelings about meeting the donor. A huge part of me wants to see the donor to know they're real and not just a picture! But, then, the question is whether or not to stay in touch. Because of the ability to save the umbilical cord, we'll have the genetic info we need. However, will DE want to meet them? Pat: Is this covered in the book?

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