Has Anyone used "older" sister for DE

deeja · 03-06-2005, 02:10 PM

My sister is 36 and I am 33 yrs old w/POF...told that we would have to TTC #2 using DE...my sister said that she would possibly donate (we are just in the beginning talks) but she is 36 yrs. old. She has had 2 children, #1 by IVF (husband has sperm antibody) and #2 naturally 2 years ago. I find comfort in her being our donor and I know the chances will be decreased due to her age, so hoping someone can share a success story! I don't consider 36 THAT old...anyone, success? THX Deeja

cherylLI · 03-07-2005, 06:58 AM

I feel like I was reading a post from my sister. At 33 she went through IVF using my 36 yr. old sister as an ED. The 1st try was unsuccessfull. A few months later they tried again and she had a healthy beautiful little boy. She wants to try again, but my older sister is now 40, and they(the program) won't consider her this time around because of her age.

So just wanted to let you know 36 is not that 'old'. But the closer you get to 40, the more chance is that they won't want to use them. Best of luck to you in your venture!!

grainne · 03-07-2005, 01:20 PM

I am 24weeks pregnant having had DE IVF using an anonymous donor. I considered having a family member donate but after much deliberation, I decided that I wanted an anonymous donor as we both felt strongly about the donor not being a part of our lives. I think this is going to be hard enough having to come to terms with looking at our baby and processing the fact that it will not have my genes. I feel completely that is is my baby. I know I would always look at my donor and my baby and wonder if they were connecteed in some strong way and felt fear that I would feel excluded and it would be painful. This is just my tuppence worth and I know everyone is diffferent.

I wish you lots of luck in whatever you decide.

Laenae · 03-07-2005, 02:46 PM

I think it is great that your sister is willing to help you out. As I was telling CherylLI the other day, it really takes a special person to be able to want to do such a thing. To give of ones self in such a non-selfish and giving way is truly exemplary.

I went with an anonymous donor as I do not have a sister. I wish I had a sister! In any event, if you are in the beginning talks, please speed up the process of the talks. 36 is still not too old to get pregnant but fertility does go down after the age of 35. I was 38 going on 39 when I got pregnant with my natural pregnancy and it was my first pregnancy.

I wish you the best of luck.

Love,

Laenae

emmaalso · 03-07-2005, 07:15 PM

I think its wonderful that your sister is considering donating. Talk to your clinic and go in for a consult. THey can do a baseline ultrasound and see what her resting follicles look like and youll know better what to expect. Odds are she will do well.

deeja · 03-07-2005, 07:52 PM

Thanks for the replies. My even "older"sister called tonight (she's 39) and said she wanted to know what donating would entail because she would consider donating too. She said if the clinic would allow both my sisters to donate then we could see how many viable eggs could be fertilized and we'd never know whose was whose. I am amazed by their love and generosity. I do having a very loving, accepting family and I just fear that the ages of my sisters presents a challenge, but I am comforted by the thought of success of ED by them none the less. I plan on calling my clinic to inquire about a consult.

cherylLI · 03-08-2005, 07:46 AM

Wow Deeja, thats great..I hope it all works out for you. When my middle sister found out about her POF, both my oldest sister and I said the same thing. But unfortunatly $$ played a big part in the ultimate decision. (My spelling is bad, I know, LOL... )

I am so glad to see you have such love in your family

. I wish you success in your venture to build a family!!!

misskitty32003 · 03-09-2005, 11:22 PM

HI, We are gonna use my sister who is 33 she will be 34 in april as my donor after the removale of my right ovary and tubes, high fsh, stage 4 endo and cysts she is going to help me and dh become parents to 2 legged babies not just the 4 legged ones!, We are hoping to start ivf soon like this mnth fingers crossed. Just wanted to jump on the boat as well-Amber

P.S glad to see all the new posts on this board lets keep it going!

tryinginnc · 03-10-2005, 11:20 AM

Miss Kitty,
Felt like I was readying my own story. I have no right ovary and high FSH as well. DH has low motility and low count. Mild endo. 6 failed IUIs. Me 29, DH 31. Older sister, 32, has offered eggs. Go to the RE today to find out more info. I would love to talk to you about the process!!! Good luck to everyone!!!

misskitty32003 · 03-10-2005, 12:43 PM

I hope your RE'S appt goes well keep me posted, my sister got her pap results back today and they are good now just waiting on the blood work. tick tock tick tock it seems all we do is wait ready to get this going! we are blessed in a way I guess as much as you can be w/ IF that we have no male factor just me which is bad enough ya know I would love to chit chat w/ you email me at misskitty32003@yahoo.com talk to you soon -Amber

03-06-2005, 02:10 PM	#1 (permalink)
deeja Registered User Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 182	Has Anyone used "older" sister for DE My sister is 36 and I am 33 yrs old w/POF...told that we would have to TTC #2 using DE...my sister said that she would possibly donate (we are just in the beginning talks) but she is 36 yrs. old. She has had 2 children, #1 by IVF (husband has sperm antibody) and #2 naturally 2 years ago. I find comfort in her being our donor and I know the chances will be decreased due to her age, so hoping someone can share a success story! I don't consider 36 THAT old...anyone, success? THX Deeja

03-07-2005, 01:20 PM	#3 (permalink)
grainne Registered User Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Vancouver, Canada Posts: 643	I am 24weeks pregnant having had DE IVF using an anonymous donor. I considered having a family member donate but after much deliberation, I decided that I wanted an anonymous donor as we both felt strongly about the donor not being a part of our lives. I think this is going to be hard enough having to come to terms with looking at our baby and processing the fact that it will not have my genes. I feel completely that is is my baby. I know I would always look at my donor and my baby and wonder if they were connecteed in some strong way and felt fear that I would feel excluded and it would be painful. This is just my tuppence worth and I know everyone is diffferent. I wish you lots of luck in whatever you decide. __________________ Me 41, DH 42, TCC # 1 for 7 years. 1st DE IVF 10/01/04 BFP, 1st Beta 10/13/04 278, 2nd Beta 10/15/04 947 Mammy to our precious son, Aedhan Conall, born July 4, 2005.

03-07-2005, 02:46 PM	#4 (permalink)
Laenae 1000-4999 post queen of hearts Join Date: Jan 2002 Location: Blue State but Red State kind of Gal Posts: 2,495	Hi Deeja......... I think it is great that your sister is willing to help you out. As I was telling CherylLI the other day, it really takes a special person to be able to want to do such a thing. To give of ones self in such a non-selfish and giving way is truly exemplary. I went with an anonymous donor as I do not have a sister. I wish I had a sister! In any event, if you are in the beginning talks, please speed up the process of the talks. 36 is still not too old to get pregnant but fertility does go down after the age of 35. I was 38 going on 39 when I got pregnant with my natural pregnancy and it was my first pregnancy. I wish you the best of luck. Love, Laenae __________________ Age 48/DH 44 - Married 23 yrs. K 02/19/00 (Clomid/C-Section) High Risk PG 12 IUIs/inject.; 6 IVFs; 1 FET; 1 M/C –Twins M 11/10/05 ~ High Risk PG - (C-Section) "Live a Good Life! And in the end, its not the years in a life that count...it's the life in your years!" Abraham Lincoln

03-09-2005, 11:22 PM	#8 (permalink)
misskitty32003 700-799 post 9 of hearts Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: texas Posts: 777 Blog Entries: 4	HI, We are gonna use my sister who is 33 she will be 34 in april as my donor after the removale of my right ovary and tubes, high fsh, stage 4 endo and cysts she is going to help me and dh become parents to 2 legged babies not just the 4 legged ones!, We are hoping to start ivf soon like this mnth fingers crossed. Just wanted to jump on the boat as well-Amber P.S glad to see all the new posts on this board lets keep it going! __________________ me29(for the 4th time)dh36 dx= stage 4 endo, cysts,no tubes or right ovary, high fsh! 1st DE/IVF BFP!!: Used DE from my sister!!!! I fell in love on 12-25-05 @6:57 with Alexander Scott he weighed 5lbs10oz and then again @ 6:59 with Zoey Dawn she weighed 4lbs3.2oz .. W

03-10-2005, 12:43 PM	#10 (permalink)
misskitty32003 700-799 post 9 of hearts Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: texas Posts: 777 Blog Entries: 4	I hope your RE'S appt goes well keep me posted, my sister got her pap results back today and they are good now just waiting on the blood work. tick tock tick tock it seems all we do is wait ready to get this going! we are blessed in a way I guess as much as you can be w/ IF that we have no male factor just me which is bad enough ya know I would love to chit chat w/ you email me at misskitty32003@yahoo.com talk to you soon -Amber __________________ me29(for the 4th time)dh36 dx= stage 4 endo, cysts,no tubes or right ovary, high fsh! 1st DE/IVF BFP!!: Used DE from my sister!!!! I fell in love on 12-25-05 @6:57 with Alexander Scott he weighed 5lbs10oz and then again @ 6:59 with Zoey Dawn she weighed 4lbs3.2oz .. W

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03-07-2005, 06:58 AM	#2 (permalink)
cherylLI Registered User Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Patchogue, LI Posts: 50	I feel like I was reading a post from my sister. At 33 she went through IVF using my 36 yr. old sister as an ED. The 1st try was unsuccessfull. A few months later they tried again and she had a healthy beautiful little boy. She wants to try again, but my older sister is now 40, and they(the program) won't consider her this time around because of her age. So just wanted to let you know 36 is not that 'old'. But the closer you get to 40, the more chance is that they won't want to use them. Best of luck to you in your venture!!

03-07-2005, 07:15 PM	#5 (permalink)
emmaalso Registered User Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: southeast Posts: 228	I think its wonderful that your sister is considering donating. Talk to your clinic and go in for a consult. THey can do a baseline ultrasound and see what her resting follicles look like and youll know better what to expect. Odds are she will do well.

03-07-2005, 07:52 PM	#6 (permalink)
deeja Registered User Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Michigan Posts: 182	Thanks for the replies. My even "older"sister called tonight (she's 39) and said she wanted to know what donating would entail because she would consider donating too. She said if the clinic would allow both my sisters to donate then we could see how many viable eggs could be fertilized and we'd never know whose was whose. I am amazed by their love and generosity. I do having a very loving, accepting family and I just fear that the ages of my sisters presents a challenge, but I am comforted by the thought of success of ED by them none the less. I plan on calling my clinic to inquire about a consult.

03-08-2005, 07:46 AM	#7 (permalink)
cherylLI Registered User Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Patchogue, LI Posts: 50	Wow Deeja, thats great..I hope it all works out for you. When my middle sister found out about her POF, both my oldest sister and I said the same thing. But unfortunatly $$ played a big part in the ultimate decision. (My spelling is bad, I know, LOL... ) I am so glad to see you have such love in your family . I wish you success in your venture to build a family!!!

03-10-2005, 11:20 AM	#9 (permalink)
tryinginnc Registered User Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: north carolina Posts: 61	Miss Kitty, Felt like I was readying my own story. I have no right ovary and high FSH as well. DH has low motility and low count. Mild endo. 6 failed IUIs. Me 29, DH 31. Older sister, 32, has offered eggs. Go to the RE today to find out more info. I would love to talk to you about the process!!! Good luck to everyone!!!

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