Donor egge

[annoula]

Hi everyone I have been dx with poor ovarian response. I have all the other blood work that came back fine except when they did the ultra sound and they found that I was unable to produce the eggs that I should be. I did two cycles and they knew after that as well. So, the journey begins.......we asked several people all said no including my own sister who just had a baby 6 months ago.....i was devastated and hurt......so my oldest sister steped up to the plate and she is 38 yrs and is willing to do this. She has 3 kids two of wich are twins by natural causes no fertilty drugs......they were full term all kids big size as well......I am scared that because she is 38 and the kids now are 7yrs old the youngest ones that she may not produce as well as before!!!

So she did her first set of test and so far her FSH is excellent but her estrodile is slightly high but on the normal side. So the doc told us to go uhead with the ultra sound this weekend and see if she has enough folicles and that is what I am doing. She is stressing me out about it being a big deal for her to go to the doctors and run to medical appointments, I feel like I have no one to help me I have not stoppe crying all day today it is like your own family turns on you....WHY!! I ask my self that every day. Look at me I should not be doing this, anyone gone threw this please help me. If you live in Vancouver BC and have done this donor thing I would love to hear from you and maybe we can connect.

Cheers,
Anna

[50/50]

Hi Anna,

I am just starting my DE cycle workup/screens. I know how stressful and emotional a reg ivf cycle can be and can just imagine how hard it is to hear your sister complaining to you. My only thought is to keep remembering what a gift she is giving you. In the end it will hopefully have been worth it. I really aplaud you for having the courage to ask your sisters. I could not do it for fear of rejection.

Take care and good luck to you! I hope your sister stims well.

41andhopeful

[wildfire]

Thats terrible! I think when someone decides to be an ED they should really look into what it involves.

It took 2 whole weeks nonstop of my life for the stim part to retrieval and recovery!
But I knew it would and agreed to that kind of inconvienience, b/c I educated myself first.

I am starting my 3rd ED right now (waiting on contract to get here) if you have any questions or need to chat feel free to PM me

[Laenae]

your sister giving you a difficult time. It is great that she offered to be a donor for you. However, along with that offer, she should have some idea of what that entails -- emotional investment as well as the time. No doubt about it -- not matter which way you slice it -- it is a big commitment. Hopefully, she will appreciate more how difficult it is for women that have fertility issues in achieving their dream of having a family.

I wish you luck in your pursuit of achieving the family of your dreams.

Love,

Laenae

[skitcher]

Anna,

I am so sorry to hear about all your stress right now, feeling alone. All this stuff can be overwhelming and we here understand that!

I just wanted to let you know that my ED is also 38 years old. She is a good friend of mine (I only have 4 brothers!), a VERY good friend! She has been through infertility herself, just unable to carry to term, so she understands exactly what she was signing up for. However, I too worry about her age thing. But, like your sister, her levels seem okay so far. We are doing our transfer in April, so we'll see how things start out next month.

Give your sister some time. I'm sure she is going through all kinds of emotions herself. Maybe sit down with her and discuss ALL of it before moving forward and see if her heart is having some difficulties. It is sad to think that you are going through this alone, or feel as so. Just know that we are here for you!