Please don't be mad at me but I am just wondering if this bothers anyone else. It is truly bugging me.
My heart absolutely goes out to the woman in Fl who lost all her children in the horrible car accident. I just don't know how I could go on if I lost even one!
But was is bothering me is this. Why is it necessary to put in the paper and on the news that the children are adopted? Why is that important? Does it make the accident more tragic, less tragic? What is the deal? My children are not defined by their status of being adopted. They are my children. I laugh with them cry with them and for them. They are my children. I have birth certificates with my name on it as the mother. I guess I just don't see the need to broadcast that that the children who were killed were adopted. We recently had a horrific house fire in our town in which 4 children were killed. The headline wasn't "4 Birthchildren Die in a Housefire!" But had they been adopted it would have said "4 Adopted Children Die in a Housefire!" Why the difference?
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01-28-2006, 09:45 AM #1Blessed MamaRegistered User Over 5,000 Posthas no status.
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Just Need to Vent or ShareI know the plans I have for you," sayth the Lord. "Plans to prosper you and not harm you. Plans to give you a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11
01-28-2006, 11:50 AM #2
I agree and feel it is very insensitive and not important in the situation. Well, guess it is because it is being spoken from people who have not needed to struggle to have kids, or that do not have the heart to adopt one in need.
01-30-2006, 11:18 AM #3leilaniRegistered Userhas no status.
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I thought the same thing
I couldn't agree more. When I read that story I was a bit ticket off that they mentioned that the children were adopted. What difference does it make?
Part of me thought that the story actually made adoption look like a bad thing. Kinda like "well if she never adopted those kids, they'd be alive today" or "if they were here biological kids, she wouldn't have been so negligent." I know that those thoughts aren't true, but some people might actually think that way. Ya know?
I have to admit though, when I saw the headline of the story online, it made me want to read it just because it said something about adoption and/or foster.StephTom (9-18-99)
02-06-2006, 02:42 AM #4anneelizjohnRegistered Userhas no status.
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I completely argree w/ you. The implication in that statement is that the adopted children aren't as good/important/real/etc. as birthchildren. Argh!
I have another situation to vent about:
Last Monday Dh received a call from a friend of ours who had mentioned our name to a young pregnant woman who had an abortion scheduled for Weds. This young woman was excited about giving her baby to a "good family" vs. aborting it. She is married w/ 2 kids and they cannot afford any more. I got a hold of this young woman and her reply was, "well..........I talked w/ my husband and we are going to go ahead w/ the appt. He just doesn't want me to go thru w/ it, my morning sickness is really bad, I'm tired all the time...." etc. Basically, they decided to kill their baby because it was just too inconvenient to be pg.!
I told myself when I 1st found out about the situation not to get my hopes up, but I just bawled after I got off the phone w/ the "mom". Somethimes the world is such an evil place!! It hurt badly enough that we couldn't have the baby, but to have someone kill it??!!!!!!!!!
Sometimes it's difficult to trust that the Lord will provide.....
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