Important question! Color of skin, how to explain? Please help!

Hello to all of you. I am kind of new here. I was here a long time ago but now I am back. I have a very important question to all of the mother’s that have adopted biracial children, especially to the mother’s of African American / Caucasian children. I will first start by telling you a little about my situation.

My daughter is 3 and will be 4 in July. She was adopted at birth. She means the world to me and I want to do right by her and give her all the information she needs to make her understand life and her adoption understandable. I want to do it in the right way so I came to you guys for help. She has started asking questions about her race. She wants to know why her skin is not the same color as hers. Her best friend is white and she does not understand why her skin is not. I told her that she has brown skin and it is so beautiful. I told her that she is brown because that is how God made her and he loves her very much. She is still confused.

One of the problems might be that she does not see many people that have the same skin color as her. I have taken her to a church that is predominately black to help her see that she is not alone. I work at a day care center but that is not much help there because we only have one black child. She will be going to child development this school year and that will be a lot of help. At school she will see people of different colors there. So exposure will not be a problem after that.

I just wanted to ask, how did you explain the different skin color? I need some help. Do you know of any other web sites that can help me? Any help you can give me would be appreciated. If any of you guy live in South Carolina, would you be intrested in a play date. Do you Know of any place that moms of adopted children get together for play dates? Sorry if you see this message more than once but I really need some help so I have got to put the question out there.

Hope

What a cute baby you have. Thank you for the suggestion I will look into that book now. Sound like a good book!

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Barney's Friends also has some books and music on this topic.