Any ideas??

[juls30]

Ok girls, I need help....

So, Evan goes to daycare as you all know. I pick him up b/w 4:30-5pm each day. When I get there, he is running around having a great time, etc. When I pick him up, either 1/2 way home in the car or literally the second we get in the house he has a meltdown. Seriously...

I know he's exhausted. I really don't think he sleeps well at school. The last 2 nights I had to fight with him to pick him off the floor to try and get him in his high chair to feed him. Tonight I put him in his crib until he calmed down(about 10 minutes), then he seemed fine.

I'm starting to dread this time of day.. Like from 5:00-7:00(when he goes to bed) its a nightmare for me... I feel so bad saying that.. I was almost in tears tonight. My DH usually doesn't get home until 6:30pm, so he misses it all and is only there for the getting ready for bed struggle(pj's, diaper, teethbrushing). Once he goes to bed, he is usually out in like 5 minutes for the night.

It's ridiculously hot here, so I'm sure that along with him being so tired doesn't help..

Any ideas?? I also worry about being pregnant and fighting with him trying to lift hm/pick him up constantly, etc... Ya know??

I really don't know what else to do....

[BC-Deswife03]

It sounds like he may be over stimulated and finnally feels safe enough to cry it out. When Olivia is like that I just take about 30-40 minutes and hold her and let her cry. After about 30-40 minuets of a good cry she is back to her normal happy self. So when he starts to have a melt down, don't try to distract him, just let him have the melt down and when he is done crying he will feel much better and will be a happy little boy. I know I have mentioned this before and I don't want to sound pushy but I would highly reccomend reading "Tears and Tantrums" by Aletha Solter. The book is a god send!

[Danielle O]

sorry you are having this trouble.it must be so tiring for you now. I agree with leeanne. I find it best when I dont attempt to pick michael up or talk to him much during these meltdowns. I read it was a good idea to give them space and just let them cry. I find the sooner I back off, the quicker the episode resolves.