September Optimists Cycle Group

[Amy_IVF_PGD]

Hey everyone... I think that people are blowing this thing out of proportion. No body's falling apart that PG's were mentioned. Anyone that has gotten PG in the group has posted about their progress and we all like to follow it. It is not "offensive" and we all understand your need for support especially during the first couple of weeks because it is all so sureal and scary. I've followed Kore and Lynn for a long time and I know that they would NEVER intend to make you all feel bad for posting about your progress. It was just time to remind everyone that this is really a board for those struggling with IVF. And that reminder comes out every so often. For the ladies that posted about their PGs recently, you are not the first and you will not be the last. Don't feel bad. It was just a reminder.

Donna... Heather... Help me out here

[lw962]

Molly- its alright. U don't have to leave or erase any past messages. We will just move on.
Although I have given up (thru ART) to have a bio child and have put all my hopes into adoption, I would still very much love to bare my own child. Fortunately, most of my anger and resentment has resolved but when I read msgs about complaints of m/s, it brings me back to a bad place. I would love to have m/s, however horrible. I maybe overly sensitive or maybe this board is no longer the place for me either. But maybe putting pg mentioned will help me brace myself for anything.
I just love being here to support every1, especially nb and Kore. I'm still holding out for thier a bfp. And maybe soon we can all share some good news.

Molly, I love reading your posts btw. Ur always very supportive. And id like to do the same for you. Honestly I really don't mind reading the pg post with fore warning. And even without it, it doesn't really bother me. It was just that 1 post.

Don't cry!!!

[newbeginnings]

Like Amy said this is getting blown out of proportion. For example, the few of us that are left on here have really struggled. We've been on this board over a year and have seen many come and go with most getting pg. That's fine and we are happy for them but it probably hits a nerve when someone posts on here complaining of their pg in any form when we all would love more than anything to be pg and have any kind of pg symptoms. The whole point of this being addressed was just to put a warning in the title so depending how someone is feeling that certain day they can choose not to read it. We would all still like to hear about how your pg is going, but most will probably not be much support as to your pg since they havent gone through it, so it would be better for you to find that support also on another board....that's all.

Amy - I sent you a message on FB!

[newbeginnings]

I think I'll break the ice here!

Lynn - What's happening with the adoption?

Kore - How are you feeling? Hows the studying going?

Molly - How are you doing?

Jenny - How are you doing?

Amy - What's happening with you?

Heather - How are you doing?

AFM: I am on bcps now and will start lupron with the donor on May 12. ER will be around 1st/2nd week of June. She will be going for FDA testing (Aids, STDs etc) end of this week, and hopefully no issues there!

[Amy_IVF_PGD]

I'll chime in

My husband broke the rules and mentioned "infertility" to our primary doctor when he was requesting all of his law/FDA blood work. So the insurance company denied our coverage because we haven't been "trying" for a year. I hate insurance companies!

[newbeginnings]

Amy - Yeah, they are pure EVIL! Oh right I forgot about that you are supposed to have tried for a year before seeking Fertility treatments...ughhh. Now what?

[hkbuck]

Hi everyone! Glad you broke the ice Donna!

So Amy, what happens now? Are you going to go ahead with it and pay out of pocket or wait longer so that insurance will cover it?

Donna - I'm doing ok....can't complain. Not working anymore so that makes life a little easier. How are you doing??

Lynn - Hi!! How is the adoption process going???

[Amy_IVF_PGD]

So now I fight with them. Since #1, we've already done IVF and #2, ability is not our problem, I have to call the insurance company and RE-explain everything. And/or, I will call the doctor and RE-explain to him that he can us the Dx Code "infertility." It is just a total nightmare. I've already done all my work-ups so if we do end up paying out of pocket it will just be his stuff. I emailed my RE to see what he charges but I think that after HOURS on the phone, I should be able to push things through. It just sucks because I told DH not to request it for fertility purposes and he did anyway. He is just completely lame when it comes to all of the insurance/financial issues involved with IVF. I am just FRUSTRATED. But I am sure that it will all work out.

[Amy_IVF_PGD]

Oh, and DH's response to me when I was like "WHAT DID YOU SAY?!?!?" Was "what was I supposed to say? I'm just supposed to go in and ask for an HIV test?" It was like he was embarrassed that the doctor would think he was engaging in "risky" behavior.

[lw962]

Nb- phew! Thnx for breaking the ice.

I am still pursuing the adoption thing. I have a balance cuz I'm on a paymt plan and cant begin searching for pg biomoms til its paid in full. I found out 2day my cousin is preggers. She's only been married 2 yrs. I'm on my 8th. Felt a bit sick after that... happy for her but sad for me. Needless to say I need to stop procastinating and payoff my adoption balance. Then boom 3-6mo. I guess I'll do so 2moro. Can't wait to bring home my baby.

Amy- I HATE insurances! And I have to deal with em daily.